how to tell my mom that i ran up her cell phone Bill?

Question

heres how it happend im 13 and my boyfriend is 14 he went to virgina for thr whole summer so we keep in touch by calling and texting each other a lot at first we would text 4 the day then talk to each other at night { by the way i have verizon i share 700 minutes with her free nights and weekends but no txt plan} then we would txt each other even more and started talkin to him for like hours on the cell phone then on friday i went on this "my accouny thingy" on my phone and checked the balance and it said $218.38 i was soo freaked out i staarted breathing deeply cuz i remeber my mom telling me that i couldnt txt n that if i ever ran up the bill i would be in serious trouble and on top of that we are going on vacation o friday so i kind of plan to tell her a couple of days after vacation


so i really and i mean really need your help or advice on how to tell my mother without freking her out


plz no jokes

this is yy i want to wait im broke and my mom was going to give me 50$ 4 spending money

Answer 1

It's time for you to be grown up about this. You made a mistake, and grown ups admit when they make mistakes, and then they FIX THEM.

So you need to figure out a plan (and a good one) for how you are going to pay your mom the $218 that you owe her. Babysitting, car washing, WHATEVER you can do to earn that money.

Now, before you tell her this.......make sure that you have actual babysitting or car washing (or whatever) jobs lined up and are certain of getting this money. It will NOT do you any good to just say, "Mom - I'll pay you back". You must be able to say, "Mom - I'll pay you back because I have hustled around and found this job and that job and so on and so forth".

WHEN you have your income guaranteed, THEN sit her down and confess. Tell her in a grown-up way, no crying or whining, be mature about it.

And be prepared to take some punishment for it. You did the crime, you've got to be willing to do the time. She may ground you, take away your phone privileges, or something else. She is your mom and that is her right.

Sweetie, I feel for you. But remember that your mom loves you and she will be fair. She will appreciate your honesty and your initiative in getting this money earned to pay her back.

Sounds like you have some work to do....Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Let me start saying that most people that answered here have no clue about what a real family is. I think is very nice that he keeps in contact with his family all the time (I hope IT IS his family and not somebody else). But, of course, everything has it’s limits. In this case, the price for the calls must be set. If you guys are making lots of money and can afford it, then the only thing to do is to set some time limits so the bills don’t keep on growing. If you don’t make enough to cover for those calls, then the time limitation has to be higher (as on less time to talk) or less calls. As some people have suggested, you can add an international plan to the cell plan, of to your house phone plan. I think the house phone is cheaper, but again, it all comes to a balance between needs and money. If you guys can afford the extra money and add a plan to the cell, go ahead, otherwise, try the house phone. And if you do have money, then do for both. Many carriers have plans for each country, so in this case you need to add only one country and that can save you even more. But it seems that there is another problem here too: you two are not communicating very well. I think before thinking about plans and prices, you two need to sit down and have a serious talk about respecting each other and behaving in the relation. Depending how you two manage your finances, you will have to come up with a budget for the calls. If you keep each one separated, then he should pay for his bills, as long it doesn’t affect common bills that you two may share including house and primary necessities for living (obviously). If you two share the money, then you two need to agree on some rules and respect them. Of course, if that is your case, then you two should have some kind of personal “allowance” (I recommend that to everybody). That is money that is personal, to be used on whatever you or him like. He can use that money for that. Hopefully you guys can figure out the best way to fix this and keep it that way! Good luck. PS. This is for Alissa: he talks to HIS parents, NOT HERS.

Answer 3

I did that once when I was your age i ran it up to $300 lol. And let me say your best bet is to just tell her before she finds it out on her own. Dont put if off just tell her you did it what more can you really do. Dont make up a " But mom this and that" either just tell her straight out " Mom i went over my text messages" the worst thing you can do is lie to her about it to so dont tell her you didnt realize how much you were texting your bf. Now you might get grounded but thats what happens when you're careless. Good luck.

Answer 4

There is nothing you can do, but be honest with her. She is going to find out eventually, so you might as well fess up now.

You should let her know that you realize what you did was wrong and immature and you will "work" off the bill by doing chores around the house.

The sooner you tell her, the better!!

Answer 5

Offer to pay the balance that you owe and no cell phone for you for you until the bill is paid off.
No communication with your boyfriend either!
Tell her as soon as possible. Don't lie to her that might make things worse.
She might think that you were being irresponsible!
NO PHONE FOR YOU YOUNG LADY!!!
Tell her the honest truth also.
Why were you texting so often anyway?
Why wait to tell her?
It might teach you a valuable lesson of growing up if you face up to your mom and tell her the truth!
Maybe your mom thinks the cell phone is only for emergency use only.
I may sound harsh but face reality!

Answer 6

You better hope she doesn't get the bill before you go on vacation.
In fact it would be best to tell her BEFORE she got the bill or saw it. At least that shows you know what you did was wrong and aren't trying to hide anything.

Try telling her you just got carried away and that you will help pay off the bill by letting her take X amount of dollars out of your allowance.

Answer 7

Tell her before she receives the bill. It will be better if she's prepared for what's to come than be shocked when she opens the envelope.

She told you already what the consequences would be, there's no getting around that one. Serious trouble - will only be made worse if you don't 'fess up.

Answer 8

Okay, the number 1 rule about mothers is that they will ALWAYS forgive, but they'll NEVER forget, the number 2 rule is that it's ALWAYS three times worse if she finds out on her own and HALF as bad if you confess. She may be steaming, and ground you, but she'll be doing that ANYWAY and WORSE if she finds out when that bill comes into her hands.

Answer 9

Explain to her in a more mature way without arguing with your mother on the real and reasonable reason on why you need to run up the phone bill.

Answer 10

Be honest and tell her as soon as possible, you are only delaying the inevitable. I share a phone with my daughter and she is responsible with it. Be honest and up front or you might not have a phone to worry about next time.