For example, fighting with a partner: when do you know if your fighting is not "normal"? When is fighting too violent, destructive, abusive-verbally or physically?
2007-08-12 10:52:01 · 18 answers · asked by A1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is is always wrong to fight. It should be a conversation. A talking it out while setting down and both calm. It is all about talking and nothing more. Just like you would your boss! You have to have respect for each other and not let it get out of control. It is like a meeting of the minds and you have to work out an agreement that you both can live with just like in the business world.
2007-08-12 10:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can only make that call. Everyone has a different tolerance level. But no one should tolerate violence or destructive behavior. This includes verbal abuse too. When fighting, ppl say things they don't mean, but one should think...before they speak, because those wounds can last a while...and when finally healed, it might be too late. When u see it escalating, just step out of the room, or house or something, and get out of the situation and calm down before u do or say something, or instigate something. Besides, if u leave, the other one's just gonna stand there looking dumb yelling to air...how long do u think they'll do that? Then after all is calm, and a good break is had, quietly, privately, talk about the fight, and y it started in the first place, and about the discourse. IT's hard to do, but essential.
2007-08-12 19:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting is too violent when one or the other is even touched in a non-loving way. My ex husband took his finger and jabbed it into my chest when he was trying to make a point. I grabbed his finger and bent it back HARD and said "If you ever lay a finger on me again, I will leave, with the kids, and get a restraining order." He never laid a non-loving hand on me again. I know a lot of abused women wouldn't consider that abuse, but I saw it had the potential to get much uglier.
Verbal abuse hurts and causes as much harm as physical abuse, although the injuries are much more difficult to see. When things are said that are meant to put down, degrade, or disrespect the other, it is considered abusive.
Good luck and remember, if you have children, they are learning how to be parents, from you. By the way, GREAT QUESTION.
2007-08-12 18:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do not personally like to see people fight in a relationship. It is pointless and stupid. Now, my husband and I have "disagreements" that are solved through discussing what is bothering one or the other. We do not raise our voices at eachother and because of this, we have a great marriage. Very open communication.
As far as i'm concerned, once voices are raised and degrading of eachother begins, then it has gone too far. If being with one another brings on inevitable fighting, than the relationship has a problem.
2007-08-12 18:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like fighting goes to far when yall are physcally fighting. Its not Healthy. Im pretty sure he/she makes you cry ever day. Think about how that makes you fee?. Its draining. And two its stressful. You dont want to be another story told on lifetime.
Time to say your goodbyes for your family say goodby to you.
Not saying hes an abusive man ..yall just dont need to together bc also you might kill him and then you'll be in jail so it works both ways.
work it out or leave it alone
2007-08-12 18:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no scale to measure it:
It all depends on the persons, situation and happenings;
There should not be even arguments for name shake also between the partners: Discuss any issues related money,family problem, children 's education, and anything: each one should analyse the things before:
2007-08-13 08:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by ar.samy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A beloved wife is there for loving and not for hurting or harming her. It is good to fight to a limited extent but it is best to make it up with each other by kissing each other.
2007-08-13 00:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screaming, incessant yelling, repetition, throwing, violent actions, threats, etc. Loss of control of emotions seems to result in those things.
2007-08-12 18:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa of America 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never feel afraid in your relationship.
It sounds like you could benefit from some counseling, so you can learn to talk to each other with respect.
2007-08-13 13:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there is verbal or physical abuse its gone to far.
2007-08-12 18:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋