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In the spirit of equality....here goes....
1. Do you experience other people paying for your dates, or occasionally even picking up the tab in non-romantic settings? Or paying for your vacations when the relationship moves along?
2. Do you occasionally experience subservience and deference being volunteered to you by the opposite sex (opening doors, giving up a seat in the bus, standing up when you come in the room)?
3. Are you able to pursue what you are interested in at university without much societal pressure on "breadwinning" - although you could also take that route if it so interests you?
4. Have you never been required to register for selective service? Would you never be ripped out of your life and forced to defend your country in time of attack or national emergency? Can you demand strength and full participation in society, but then get out of this obligation by pretending to be weak with no influence over society (but only when it suits you)?

2007-08-12 10:26:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Gender Studies

4.b. Can you come up with any and every excuse to get out of the draft without being laughed at ("No one should be drafted" - when you would be the first to cower in the corner and demand that someone do something if, say, China & Russia combined and attacked full force - and "Men start wars ..." when women are the majority of voters and the expression should be "Men are SENT to wars ..." - exactly what you're trying to get out of - and sometimes sent by M. Thatcher, G. Meir, I. Gandhi and other such women)?
5.a Will you statistically get a much lighter sentence for exactly the same offense if you commit a crime?
5.b Do you have special legal excuses for your sex alone which often allow you to get off the hook for the crimes you commit? Are judges usually more lenient, protective and paternalistic when it comes to dealing with your sex?
5.c Are you 25 times more likely to have your death sentence canceled?

2007-08-12 10:27:23 · update #1

6. Are you able to take on a job or choose a career route that is only capable of supporting yourself, with no thought to preparing yourself to also support a spouse/children, although you are also free to choose a more difficult career that will bring you more money? Do you not have much pressure on you with regard to this?
7. If you are in a committed relationship, do you have much greater flexibility to choose whether you want to work or simply stay at home (even without kids)?
8. Will you not be called an unemployed loser if you decide to be a homemaker?
9. If you have a flat tire on the road, if someone is harassing you in a public place, if an animal attacks you, or if you are lost, will someone be much, much more likely to step-in and assist you?
10.a Are people generally much nicer to you in public? Are you sometimes given privileged treatment or better customer service?
10.b Do you get first dibs on a lifeboat when your ship begins to sink?

2007-08-12 10:27:52 · update #2

11. Are you much more capable of "marrying up" and enjoying the money and status that comes with this?
12.a Are you statistically much more likely to be given money in a divorce - sometimes huge amounts - even if your behavior caused the divorce (e.g. affair) and even if you didn't work for the money?
12.b Is custody of your kids almost automatic after divorce regardless of your parenting abilities? On top of this, do you have the ability to make false accusations of rape or child abuse in order to help you gain custody? Is it possible for you to deprive your child of his or her other parent in violation of court orders without serious consequences?
13.a If you hit or slap a person - or even knock someone's tooth out throwing your Aunt Selma's Christmas mug at that person - is it much more likely to just be viewed as cute, understandable or not a problem? Are there nearly zero consequences for your violence?

2007-08-12 10:28:09 · update #3

13.b If you are ever physically, emotionally, or sexually abused by in any way, are there dozens upon dozens of organizations that are specifically in place to fight for you and house you when necessary? Do you have the ability to have someone taken-away by police if you make a false or exaggerated accusation of abuse?
14.a Do you statistically live much longer - possibly due to less stress on you with regard to breadwinning, providing protection, being responsible, not having society viewing you as "expendable" or not having society viewing your problems as being unimportant? Can you blame the earlier deaths of the other sex on their stupid behavior or bad genes?
14.b Are you about 20 times less likely to die or get injured in your workplace?

2007-08-12 10:28:38 · update #4

15. Do you have much more money spent on your health concerns in reality (e.g. 5 times as much on breast cancer as on prostate cancer - although they have roughly the same death rates) while you simultaneously claim that more care has to be taken for your needs?
16. Are you much less likely to be homeless? Is more offered to you by society when you are in this position?
17. Is there far less scorn and pressure on you by society when you are an irresponsible doofball? Are your default rates for payment of child support roughly twice those of the other gender, while you simultaneously complain about the other gender not paying?
18.a Has whining about and hating the other gender actually been made into a course of studies in college- as opposed to the true, neutral, unbiased study of this topic - which is simply anthropology?
18.b Can you tell everyone that your sex is the superior sex without you being called sexist?

2007-08-12 10:28:56 · update #5

18.c Can you ignore the fact that your sex's traditional gender-roles would not place you into situations where you'd be likely to be forced to do immoral things and then use the results of this as evidence that your sex is morally superior?
19. Do you have full opportunity to pursue you want in life - become a doctor, a lawyer, start a business - while simultaneously using the fact that many of your gender don't CHOOSE themselves to do these things as an argument to try to gain even more advantages? Do you get affirmative action because many of your gender don't choose to do these things, and thusly the numbers don't "come out right"?
20.a Can you manipulate the other gender with sex in some cases to get what you want? Can you pretend like you don't even know what anyone is talking about when confronted on this?
20.b Can you use your sex appeal to get-ahead on the job? Can you knowingly dress provocatively but act shocked if someone treats you provocatively?

2007-08-12 10:30:37 · update #6

20.c Do you also have the ability to accuse people of sexual harrassment for any reason, factual or not? Do you make up the definition of 'sexual harrassment', and can this definition change depending on the person and whether you like them or not?
21. If you take a job that is traditionally taken by those of the opposite sex, will you be thought of as a brave pioneer by many? Will no one call your sexual orientation into question?
22.a Can you complain that the clothes, shoes hair, grooming items etc. for your sex are more expensive than those of the opposite sex without ever noticing that the varieties, styles and complexity of those products are often greater than those of the opposite sex? Do you have far more retail space devoted to your shopping desires than does the opposite sex?
22.b Can you wear the clothes traditionally associated with the opposite sex without running the risk of getting beat-up or ostracized?

2007-08-12 10:32:07 · update #7

23. Can you manipulate using old notions of men protecting and deferring to women when it comes in handy?
24. Can you effectively manipulate by playing the victim? Do tears help you in getting your way instead of getting you called a wimp?
25. As a child, were you told that you are beautiful, cute and sweet? Could you wear any color you wanted without fear of insult?
26. Can you get sympathy if you don't work and don't have children by listing all the household work (hmm ... Oprah really does get high ratings, though) while simultaneously being able to bear the cognitive dissonance of calling your sister's husband who stays home a worthless bum whom she ought to leave?
27. Can you claim that your sex's work "never ends" while your sex also, on average, watches more television in every time-slot than members of the opposite sex?

2007-08-12 10:32:27 · update #8

28. Can you "mix and match" traditional and progressive roles - finding just the right mix to get what you want? Can you be a "traditional wife" - enjoying the positive features of that (like not having to go-out and work a job in a factory) - while simultaneously being a progressive feminist when THAT gets you advantages? Or having a career while simultaneously using traditional chivalry and male deference to your advantage?
29. Can you constantly say "that's just typical" and "it doesn't surprise me a bit" and make lemon faces if you are a parent-in-law? Is near-universal contempt by both genders for your behavior hidden to a much greater extent?
30. Can almost any remark by your partner be construed as verbal abuse if you want sympathy, but the meanest, nastiest, most humiliating things that you can say simply involve "speaking your mind" and "some people just don't want to hear the truth"?

2007-08-12 10:32:46 · update #9

31. Can you use the fact that gender roles were differentiated long ago - with different advantages/disadvantages for both genders - to try to induce guilt today in people who had absolutely no connection with any of that? Can you say that you have been discriminated against for thousands of years with a straight face when you're only 20 years old? Can you even make things up about history and no one will really check or dare call you on it?
32. Can you propagate myths and outright lies ("Superbowl/domestic violence hoax", "rule of thumb", inflated rape statistics, intentional misconstrual of pay figures and many more) and be given a "pass" - without more rigor being demanded?
33. Can you rationalize your own failures using the concept of the "patriarchy", and blame the other gender for nearly everything that goes wrong in your life - even with quite contorted explanations that no one would otherwise buy - while failures of the other gender are just ... failures?

2007-08-12 10:33:10 · update #10

34. Do you want to be treated like a child when it suits you but as an adult when you get advantages from that? Do you "look the other way" when someone doesn't require responsibility from you that they certainly would from the other gender?
35. As an infant, would amputating a piece of your genitals be a crime? Would not cutting your genitals be considered a basic human right to which you are entitled?
36. Can you focus heavily on perceived earnings in the workforce - the statistics of which are influenced by people's choices in reality - while utterly ignoring the inter-family transfer of wealth? Can you completely ignore the fact that one gender picks tougher jobs (garbage collector), works more hours and takes on more responsibility because of more pressure to earn - but the other gender has the same lifestyle and statistically more assets (and not just because of inheritance/earlier age of male at death....). Can you deliberately claim that earnings figures are based on equal

2007-08-12 10:33:40 · update #11

for equal work? (when you probably full well know that they simply involve all people working more than 35 hours - and don't take type of job, hours worked over 35/week, danger, responsibility, years in the work force etc. into consideration at all)?
37. Is what used to simply be an irritation for grown-ups many years ago - the self-centered rantings and foot-stompings of spoiled high-school and college brats - now not only embraced by your most progressive movement but almost the cornerstone of it?
38. Can you get irritated about generalizations and stereotypes ---- and utterly fail to see the hypocrisy in stereotyping and generalizing about one gender while simultaneously making a career (literally in some cases) whining about your own gender being stereotyped?
39. Can you get irritated about old-fashioned restrictive attitudes towards your sexual behavior while insulting men who engage in the same kind of sexual behavior that you would do in an eyeblink if you could?

2007-08-12 10:34:06 · update #12

40.a Do you reserve the right to blame any cruel, rude, or unrestrainedly angry thing that you do on my "time of month"? Is this true regardless of what time of month it actually is?
40.b Do you reserve the right to get angry and indignant if somebody suggests this to you regardless of how often you say it about yourself?
41. Do you reserve the right to call anyone "sexist" for any reason, based upon your own definition of the term? Is your sexist behavior never noticed?
42. Do you have the privilege of making long lists criticizing the privileges of the opposite sex while everyone pretends to not noice that you have a long list of none-too insignificant privileges of your own?
43. Do you have the privilege of blaming your privileges on the opposite sex?
44. Do you have the privilege of dishonestly insisting that you don't have any privileges?

2007-08-12 10:34:30 · update #13

http://www.the-niceguy.com/Checklist.php

2007-08-12 10:34:44 · update #14

c'mon girls where are you on this one?
jeez I wish i could answer my own question LOL

2007-08-12 10:55:34 · update #15

Are you incapable of clicking links?

again, not written by myself, taken from a blog, just asking what people thought of it, you'd think if you read all the questions you would have seen the link and the preemptive statement

2007-08-12 13:14:36 · update #16

10 answers

1/ no
2/ yes as I also open door for men, elderly, women with stroller or carrying children, (this is referred to as courtesy)
3/ No I have always been self supporting
4/ I gladly volunteer my time to deal with populations that most veer away from. I also am happy to go to countries and help the citizens where angels would fear to tread, in a medical capacity.

This whole list sounds like the endless whining of some bloke who cannot or is incapable of having any kind of a normal relationship with the opposite sex. He is either socially inept or completely incapable of interacting with the opposite sex.
I don't know where you got this list from Girly but it is not only very sad but pretty twisted as well. I hope that person is able to get some help to deal with his mounting anger and resentments.

2007-08-12 13:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 5 7

Wow. Long list. I will answer the first 4:

1. Sometimes I pay, sometimes they pay regardless of romantic or non. It's nicer, friendlier to take turns paying. Going "Dutch" is so boring.

2. Yes. I also open doors for others and express deference to my male friends/sig other as is context appropriate.

3. Yes. I studied whatever I was interested in. God bless the California State University system.

4. I have never been required to register for selective service. I think it should be mandatory for all Americans, regardless of gender. But I would want to see community service programs like Teach for America to also count. But if I were called I would serve.

The listmaker clearly has an axe to grind, so I will stop here. You shouldn't be afraid to put forward reasonable ideas, you will get a reasonable response. But I can see by the phrase 'pretending to be weak' that you don't think very much of women. Perhaps you just need to get to know better women.

2007-08-13 20:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by snoopy l 3 · 0 0

Give me a bit to read this - I just got home and want to answer as thoroughly as I can...
My edit shall come soon!

OK - WOW - having read over this a few times really puts things into perspective.

Don't wait on my edit though. I think being slapped in the face with some reality some gender inequality has left me speechless.
For once.

2007-08-12 11:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by Done 6 · 0 0

Rest Assured, I will not give myself best answer, but sorry, I couldn't resist....

1. I agree there is more willingness for other people to pick up the tab, though I always insist on dutch.
2. Don't agree with the word "subservient" It's Chivalry, a by-product of the patriarchy, men open doors not out of subservience, but because "he is stronger", I agree that it happens, again disagree with the practice.
3. Disagree
4. No I haven't, I believe the draft should be abolished all together, for both sexes for political, not gender reasons.
4b. again, this is political reasons, pacifism, not gender related
5. Agree
5b. Disagree that judges are, juries however, I agree.
5c. Unable to say, cannot verify stastic
6. agree, disagree
7. agree
8. agree and disagree, the ridicule mostly comes from career minded women though.
9. agree
10. disagree
11. Not sure, doesn't concern me, if it is a privilege, it is one i am unaware of.
12. agree, yes, but the little note about affair or "didn't work for it", -don't get married in a no fault state -prepare a prenup -many women support their husbands while in college, and later get squat for this.-statistically men are much more likely to commit infidelity
12b. Agree, disagree with the practice
13a. agree
13b. agree
14. agree we live longer, disagree with the reasons as they cannot be proved. disagree, I am not likely to blame short lifespan on "bad genes" or irresponsibility
14b. can't say, can't verify statistic
15. agree there's more money for women, disagree that my needs require more care.
16. agree, agree
17. This question is a little incoherent, not sure
18a. disagree
18b. nope
18c. disagree
19. agree, disagree
20a. Never tried, cant say
20b. adamently disagree, It seems the opposite is true.
20c. disagree
21. Are you kidding, WHOLEHEARTEDLY disagree!
22a. Agree we are advertised more to, and that we have more variety, but no one is keeping men from having variety.
22b. agree
23. disagree
24. lol disagree
25. agree
26. disagree
27. can't verify
28. nope
29. doesn't apply to me
30. lol guilty as charged :-(
31. disagree, read a book.
32. myths? OMG seriously...read a book. DISAGREE
33. disagree
34. disagree
35. agree
36. disagree
37. disagree, *sigh* book please.
38. disagree
39. Do get irritated, don't scorn men.
40. omg disagree wtf?
40b. of course, um it's my body duh, though I don't use the PMS excuse at all really
41. disagree
42. disagree
43. nope
44. nope

2007-08-12 11:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by Devil's Advocette 5 · 4 2

ahhhhhh lol OK the difference in these two list is , men's list are a lot of i am, my, and if i, the women's list is a lot of can you, do you are you. the difference is men's is a statement where women's is a questionnaire.

i realize that this is not what you was asking but i had to point that out sense i noticed it.

girly, why dont you just give a answer in a edit or are you running out of space? to tell you the truth id like to see what you would choose as answers to the list. pluss ill work on answers for your one about men . ahhhhhh only got half way through the list and im out of time maybe i get back to it tonite.

2007-08-12 10:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by just another man 3 · 2 2

Sounds like sour grapes to me.
As far as selective service do you really believe that mother's are ok with their sons being sent over to fight in a war. They would rather go themselves then allow their child to be in a war. Give your head a serious shake.

2007-08-14 04:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by Elle M 4 · 1 2

Interesting how reluctant the women are to actually answer it. At least some men do admit they have unfair advantages.

2007-08-12 10:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Somes J 5 · 3 0

I would suggest you read "Woman are from Venus Men Are
From Mars" I read very little of what you wrote, but what I did read, Sounds like you have met only one type of woman, We vary, Just as men vary. A rotten apple in every bushel, I hope
your find a delicious one day.

2007-08-12 13:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by jenny 7 · 0 4

It seems that you summarized my ex wife's attitude well, however you will doubtlessly be ostracized by the women's libbers and have your account shut down as well!

2007-08-12 10:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

yeah, but we have to suffer pms every month for most of our adult life.

2007-08-12 10:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 1 4

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