I have serious anxiety from losing a $250K job as a VP/CTO in a huge company, and all the resulting financial problems that have occurred as a result. I'm trying extremely hard to to return to employment, but in the meantime my wife is growing sick of my anxiety, stress and likely related lack of energy. My problems lies in initiating sex because my mind is stressing. Once she initiates- ITS ON - and I can make her orgasm repeatedly. Shes sick of always approaching me like a horndog, and I'm sick of being accused of lack of passion when I've got enough on my plate already. Married 17 years and will do anything to please this woman.
2007-08-12 09:33:22 · 7 answers · asked by Gotham 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would see your physician to see if they recommend some anti-anxiety meds, you are under a great deal of stress and have a lot on your mind. If you can, take some time and plan a romantic evening with your wife, make her feel pampered, loved, and cherished. Good luck to you both!
2007-08-12 09:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by roppin r 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seek professional help immediately. If your marriage is at stake, then for your sake as well as your wife's, get help now.
Remember you wedding vows? For richer, for poorer, for better, for worse? She's obviously still very attracted to you, so don't turn your back on her now.
I'm sorry you lost your financial stability, but it's no the end of the world. If you are lacking the initiative for intimacy, then you are in a sense, pushing her away. Run, not walk, to your nearest physician. Get the help you need now before you slip into a deeper depression and lose yourself in your sorrow and lose you wife. Good luck and God bless you. I'll pray for you.
2007-08-16 07:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I think you have to get control of your thoughts here and chose to put these things away mentally. It's like saying ok I've worried about this all day and now I want to spend some time with my wife. She deserves my attention too. You can even promise yourself that you can pick these problems back up later when you're done with your wife LOL
next spend a few minutes thinking about what turns you on. Her naked in the shower for example. Once you are good and turned on go and initiate it. She won't have to know it took you 15 minutes to get in the mood LOL and she will have the thrill of being wanted.
if this continues you may want to see a counselor. but a counselor is who taught me the trick of giving yourself time to think about the stressful thing and then putting it back away to make time for other things in your life. This way one thing doesn't take over like that.
2007-08-12 09:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can relate to you situation. I have been there and I understand. What I tried to remember is that I have good in my life and the stuff that needs to be taken care of. 17 years together, you are lucky. I know it is hard to switch it off, however if you believe in a higher power, give it to him/her at night....I honestly believe that everything happens for a reason, and that everytime I have had a crisis in my life things have always worked out better than before. Try to believe this, and when it is down time from taking steps to fixing your situation, turn it over and enjoy what you have in that moment. It takes practice, but it works. Good luck, I am certain that you will be fine.
2007-08-12 09:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you will do anything to please this woman, then stop worrying about something you know nothing about. You don't know if losing this job was a blessing in disguise. You could be offered a WAY better job soon. This company might go under investigation for fraud or something and you could have been caught in it. Look at the brighter side of things and let life happen. Like you said, you would do anything for her, so be there for her, tell yourself this and dont just write it out.
2007-08-12 09:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by innamorta2000 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If I'm guessing right your wife is in her early 40's and if so she is just starting her sexual peak. I don't know if this is your cup of tea but maybe if you get a few porn flicks and watch them with her it will get you in the mood. Sorry don't mean to offend you just trying to help.
2007-08-12 10:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sit down and explain to her, show her the question, then seek some help
2007-08-12 09:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋