What am I doing wrong that I can't find a girlfriend?
It seems, I have poetry that captures
The heart sometimes
The caring and mind that a girl would want (I assume)
And yet I'm up to 4 rejections.
And 0 dates/I love you/ I like you responses.
I may not be the most muscular but I am not fat nither thin, but I am strong.
I'm Hispanic American (50/50)
And I control my lust desires unlike some people out there,
I normaly respect the other persons feeling, and I am glad to help others and stuff with them
However I don't understand what I'm doing wrong that I can't get a girlfriend.
Am I rushing things maybie?
Can sombody post some tips?
Or if you're single yourself and looking for somone and is 15
(Then again I do have preferences, so you'd have to check with me first.)
2007-08-12 09:30:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Girls your age don't know what to look for in a guy. so wait patiently. get a good female friend, and work your way toward a relationship from there. You're a good guy, right? Don't rush the "I Love you" bit. take your time. you have all the time in the world.
2007-08-12 09:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let this bother you, 4 rejections is very par for the course, especially at 15, I would calm down don't let the hormones get to you and just be yourself.
Maybe the girl thing will happen, maybe it won't, no sense wasting your life in despair over a girl.
FYI, I am 25 and have been through literally dozens and dozens of rejections, with less than a half dozen dates, I have heard everything from too nice, too ugly, too tall, too short,
Anyway I have decided not to waste to much time on this anymore,
but I will say this, I am a very logical person, I analyze everything around me, I am not happy unless I know precisely how everything works around me. To be quite frank my personality is simply not romantic, or very in touch with feelings, woman, relationships can not be analyzed to find a formula of what is right or wrong for getting the girl.
So quite worrying about it, it will only make your odds worse.
2007-08-12 12:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shouldnt be looking for a girlfriend quite yet. Ultimately, looking for a girl has the goal of aiming toward a life-long deep relationship; someone to be by your side forever. A girlfriend is not just a status symbol, or a prove that you have worth. True love is a giving action, not a taking action - loving someone is about THEM, not about your check list of how many dates or kisses youve gotten.
If you feel that you need a girlfriend to be happy in life, youre not ready for a real relationship yet. If you arent ready to selflessly love a girl, rather than just use her to feel good about yourself, you arent ready for a relationship. And if you are completely mature and loving, then just dont rush things - wait for the right girl; a mature loving person like yourself.
So you should definately wait about a relationship, but you dont have to live a miserable life just because you dont have a girlfriend. Figure out what youre looking for in a girlfriend relationship (maybe closeness, someone who thinks your valuable) and develop other relationships that will give you those things you need. Youre desires are good, but trying to use a girlfriend relationship to fulfill them isnt a good idea, and it wont work.
2007-08-12 09:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by thecrazyperson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are u saying that u are 15 year old. then u are a teenager. it's absolutely normal for any teenager both boys and girls to feel rushing into relationship. because around this age u r not exactly a child, neither an adult. i think there's nothing wrong with yourself and can't get a girlfriend...maybe u just too young. and perhaps u could ask urself, why u wanna a gf? u don't really want a gf, u just feel u want to have one. but what u really need around your age is just companion from other teenagers to make u feel secure and it's perfectly normal. why don't u talk to ur parents/guidance about how u feel on this issue. i am sure u'll get better afterward.
2007-08-12 09:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by Tea Lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon you are only 15 concentrate, on graduating out High School first. I am not saying don't have a female friend, but at 15 you be better at trying to find a part time job, a few hours a day, and building from there girls like a boy who can take them out and treat them like princess, and secure a relationship with confidence, there is no point of being with a girl you can't be nice to. Learn about GOD and his infinite plan for your life, concerning relationship. Hey I am old school, if your just trying get laid remember HIV. there are teens you age with this horrible disease, funny no one mention this; in fact they are among the highest if not the highest, in this country.
2007-08-12 09:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, you are 15 and way to depressed about this, you should be out there enjoying life, not worrying about relationships at this stage of your life....
I have learned over the years, that you will find what you looking for, when you are not looking for it, and yes I can see the ? on your face. What I mean, is dont try to hard, just be yourself, go out have a good time, and when you least expect it, love will run into you... and thats a promise!
Enjoy life, Its a journey....
Laters
2007-08-12 09:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love to be back at 0 for 4.
2007-08-12 09:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Greg 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your trying to hard all of the girls i know would think im a dork if i read them poetry lighten up your sufficating them man my favorite quote is what seems to be the easy way is usualy the most difficult think outside the box man no one can tell you tips on how to do this they can tell you tips that work for them but that dosent mean they will work for you remember the quote and try somthing new
2007-08-12 09:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well every girl has different taste, like i don'y like muscular guys, i prefer thin guys. and i don't like my guys to be too sweet they have to be a little bit mean, but i know you probably sterotypically look at girls and think that every girl likes muscular guys that is sweet. well i suggest if you want a girlfriend you should just be yourself and try talking to girls more and flirting more and then maybe asking a girl out? good luck
2007-08-12 09:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by liya s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your young youve got plenty of time. The right woman will come along eventually and you wont have to go overboard or do anything special to imrpess her....she will be impressed by you being yourself. I am twice your age and may have just now have found that woman in my life
2007-08-12 09:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by stallion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋