How do make a person gain/earn your trust?!?

Question

this is something i never really put into effect....i guess that's why i get taken advantage.

How do you go about making others earn your trust?

Answer 1

I don't think you can make anybody do anything.

If you are wanting someone to trust you, you must be trustworthy. You must be it.

If you are not trusting other people.
This may come from having your trust broken previously.

We all have trusted people and felt let down.

Trust is earned.

In the matter of you trusting, just watch look and listen to how that person is, what they say, how they treat you.
I don't necessary strife to trust people, I trust in myself. I trust in my own ability to know where not to be, what to not say.
But we are all different and cannot live our life like another.

If you have trusted something, or someone in the past and been let down, then it may take a little time, for you to feel able to trust again.
Listen to your "gut feeling": or intuition, the more we use this sense, the more we will trust.
Your intuition can be trusted.

I trust this has helped.

Answer 2

It is not about making others earn your trust. It is about setting boundaries and limits for yourself. If someone is dishonest or does not treat you with respect you have to move on. You are probably being taken advantage of because you do not know when to say no or end things (talking from experience). Do you find yourself doing things for others that they would never do for you? Guilt and fear of rejection usually play into this. I recently had to end a friendship with a friend who consistently mistook my kindness for weakness. We had been friends for fifteen years. You give people the opportunity to earn your trust, if they don't want to earn it, move on.

Answer 3

Depends on what you see as trust. One person who gets cheated on might still trust someone, and another person could have hatred and 0 trust on the same situation. I think that a person can be seen as trustworthy when put in a tight situation, and they come out to your expectations. It cant really be "tested", but you know who the people you can trust are when they are put against the wall :)

Answer 4

Remember...once a liar, always a liar--once a cheat, always a cheat. I found those statements to be true--the hard way.

Do not associate with people who:

-Gossip behind the backs of others
-Back-stab others
-Lie
-Cheat
-Steal
-Physically harm others
-Harm animals
-Vandalize property
-Own an illegal weapon
-Are addicted to alcohol or a hard drug

Get to know everything there is to know about a person before you put too much trust into him/her. Be very sure that this person is trustworthy, and would never do anything to harm you physically or emotionally. Until you know all of that, keep your distance--and only associate in groups of people you do trust--never alone.

If you can follow all of the above, people will in turn, trust you :)

Answer 5

some time being a person that is trustworthy takes the action of being a real person-what i mean is-when people see that you are thoughtful of others-and not a person gossips all the time-they fine that person trust worthy. No one rally ever respects a rude person...sometime they make you laugh as long as they aren't being rude to you-but no one trust that person-AM sure now you get the idea of what i am saying so i will shut up now

Answer 6

U know God granted you with this gift that you didn't know that you had, and then someone told you what it was! They let you see what you was missing this whole time. The longer u talk to them the more that it will hit you who you really are!

Seeing who you really are comes within, but if you have that speacial someone to help, take their hand, and walk with them. But the key is that you have to believe. Don't worry what other people think of you, if they don't like it then they really don't need you.

If you want something it has to be a desire, and in order to have that sometimes we got to let things go, that we may not want to. I learned that if you want something bad enough you got to let it go and believe in your self. Then you'll have an amazin' feeling, and that you have finally seen who you really are!!!!!

Answer 7

First, you have to respect yourself. You are a person who is worthy of being treated right.. and your heart is a valuable, fragile thing. Isn't it worth safeguarding? Insist on truthfulness in your relationships.. especially in the beginning.. because any relationship born on lies it doomed to fail. And walk away when your heart tells you to. Someone who breaks your trust will likely do it over and over again. Trust is key in a relationship.. without it, you have nothing.

Answer 8

Okay, other than parents, sibling and pet.. I would like to say my friends.. First of all is my ex-bestfriend.. It's sad that we dont talk anymore.. It already been like 1 year and 6 months.. and secondly, my 4 friend girl ( girl friend ).. they really good in giving advice and struggling in their LOVE relationship.. xD

Answer 9

just dont trust them until they really prove themselves. assume that they are out to serve themselves... which they usually are. this will make you value your real friends and the people who love you even more.

Answer 10

trust them and keep there secrets and be there 4 them