Today, I finally got the courage to take a test. My boyfriend was here with me for support. I gve it to him so that he could tell me the results and right when he asked "what does two lines mean?" I broke out in tears. He got it then and tried to comfort me and tell me that everything is going to be okay. I so badly dont want to tell my parents. How are they going to feel about how their only child is about to have a child of her own. How do I break this news to them?
2007-08-12 06:43:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I am only 15
2007-08-12 07:24:50 · update #1
Mature thing is to just tell them. They will most likely be upset at first but they will get over it. You can make it have faith in yourself.
2007-08-12 06:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by Forever Happier 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
First of all be thankful your boyfriend is there for you. The 2 of you need to take a day or 2 and absorb this huge life altering decision. The 2 of you need to come up with a "game" plan so you can answer questions that your parents may have. They will have more respect for you and your boyfriend if you 2 work out hte details before you tell them. Your parents may or may not be disappointed, but they won't stop loving you. Good Luck... remember every child is a gift from God.
I saw that you added that you are 15. I wish I could give you a hug. You and your boyfriend need to really look at all options that are available to you. You are going to need support from both of your families so both of you can finish high school and possibly college. An education is the key to the future. I know a couple of girls who in high school they got pregnant and they gave the baby up for adoption, it wasn't easy for them, but they realized then and now (15 years later) that it was the best for the baby and their future. You have options, and I'm not telling you what the right decision is... only you and your boyfriend can make that decision. Please in the future use BC and a condom with spermicide if you are going to continue to have sex before you finish high school. You don't want to have this happen again.
2007-08-12 13:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by beach mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them! I have raised 2 daughters and I often think about how I would react if either of them found themselves in your situation: I would be disappointed in them at first. I'd probably yell and scream a bit, but then I would take her in my arms and let her know that no matter what, I love her and that I'll always be there for her and her baby. If you are only 15, then you are going to need their support. Maybe it will be possible, after all is said and done, to make a long term plan... let them take over primary care and guardianship while you finish your education. Good Luck Sweetie!
2007-08-13 14:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by Linda S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin is 14 and pregnant. She chose to write a letter and leave it at the house when she left one night. I DON'T RECOMMEND THIS! Just be honest. Come out and them. I don't know how they will feel but they wont feel as bad as they would if you don't tell them and someone else does. It would be hard to break that news to your parents but if you think you're mature enough to have sex then you have to be mature enough to handle the consequences. Your parents are going to love you no matter what...they may get mad or hurt but you're still their only baby and more than likely they wont turn their back on you.
2007-08-12 17:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by MrsMarshall=) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pregnancy tests are not always right so dont get too sad yet. but sit them down and try to get them when they are not in the greatest mood (you dont want to make them upset when they are having a good time) and tell them the news. make sure that they know that you are sorry and that it was nothing wrong that they done as parents and that everyone makes mistakes. do not tell them when your boyfriend is there, they might get more mad.
Good Luck hun!
2007-08-12 13:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to forget other people's feelings, and devote your plans and worries to the baby. You are all the baby has, so you must concentrate on that fact---someone will be depending on you. Get your focus off yourself, and on to your pregnancy.
A great way to start is to tell them you have to go to the doctor for an exam, because you're pregnant, and you want to make sure you are healthy, and that you will be taking the right vitamins and foods necessary. Get started doing something practical.
2007-08-12 13:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is to start thinking now how you would like to live your life and raise your child. Will you stay in school? Get a parttime job? Go to college?
If so, then put together a "life plan" so when you break the news to your parents, you can also tell them your plans so they know you've thought long and hard about this. It will also help them know what they need to do to assist you in your goals. (Babysitting while you go to work or school, help you buy things for baby if your pay doesn't cover it, allow you to live with them until you graduate from HS and/or college, ect)
Good luck!
2007-08-12 13:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
first of all your parents "love" you..and sure they will be upset..but they will understand. they only want the best for you. 2nd this is not your fault...its not your boyfriend's fault either..God made this baby for a reason. All you have to do is just tell them what happened..they will understand. they will help you and your boyfriend get through this..
good luck
p.s. tell the boyfriend's parents too.
2007-08-12 17:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully your parents will be there for you and supportive. Just tell them and get it over with. You will need all the help you can get in the coming months and years.
2007-08-12 13:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i may be only 14 but i know what u r going through. honey you gotta tell them cuz sooner or later they r gonna find out so sweetie i would tell them nice and slowly. and i don't have parents[i am in foster care]so i would assume they would be disappointed but they love u and they will do all they can to help you. i hope the pregnancy goes alright.may god bless you and keep you. oh and if u will email me i would like to know you better. [and i do hope you will not have a miscarriage]
2007-08-12 13:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by candi 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are but from the sounds of things you are still living at home. You need to be completely honest with them. You and your boyfriend need to tell them together. Sounds like he is suporting you already so he should help you tell them. Whatever you do, you need to tell them soon and be honest with them.
2007-08-12 13:57:09 · answer #11 · answered by r_u_kidding 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋