i discovered that my husband loves to sex chat in the internet and every nite visits pornography to be aroused. Is this normal to husbands? I want to understand why as well.
2007-08-12 04:57:42 · 13 answers · asked by Desperate Wife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Normal yes, highly admitted no. However if this bothers u then u should talk 2 him about it and see what he says. It could cause a strain if u do not like or approve of it. Talking about sex with other women is a tough one. I feel it is just talking, but some consider it a form of cheating. If u consider it this then talk about it. The only way to have a solid marriage is communication. Maybe he wants to be more adventurous with you sexually but is not sure how to go about it. Or maybe he is just like most of us men and very sexual. Like I said b4 though u guys need 2 talk it over and get everything out in the open.
2007-08-12 20:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by jayman31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-16 06:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Whitney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men do watch pornography, but probably not to the point that it has become a problem in a marriage, which is what it is for you. I'd be more concerned with what type he is watching, you never mentioned. As for the sex chat rooms, that could become a problem. If he is seeking out his fantasies in there, he may just act on them at some point. Also sounds like he is in denial or just doesn't want you to know, he thinks you think he is weird or perverted and won't understand. Men are very visual creatures, so watching it is rather normal. But I'd suggest seeking counselling for both of you, could be more to it.
2016-05-20 07:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by lue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watching porno on net is neither legally nor morally bad for any adult person. The married person doing such activity may effect his relationship with his or her spouse specially when it comes to sex chatting which the spouse may consider as a part of cheating or adultery if not in legal sense but in moral sense. If the spouse shows no objection for his or her indulgence in such adult contents watching & chatting there is nothing wrong, but if the spouse feel neglected by his or her act of all this definitely it will effect the happy matrimonial home. If the person indulge in sexual arousal to be enjoyed with only his or her spouse only & not with any intention to cheat her or him then it is not at all wrong. It has been found in many cases the people who indulge in sex chatting ultimately try to meet such a person with whom they were indulging in all this to experience real sexual enjoyment, this amounts to adultery & breaking of the matrimonial home. In your case if your husband is doing all this for only sexual arousal to be enjoyed with you only then let him do, after all you are aware of his all such activities, rather you can participate along with him. If he does so without your knowledge or consent you can always check him for this if you feel awkward by all his activities. Otherwise there is nothing wrong in his indulging in these till he is faithful with you.
2007-08-12 20:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it normal. why dont you try to share it whit him - i mean sit with him when he does it and take them lightly and as fun..you might find it uncomfortable sometimes or you might learn how to make your man wild..some things are learned in unusual ways. and sometimes they help. try have fun..you will find he slowly turn to you more than to virtual stuff...
btw - i am a happily married woman
as for your why - he might be feeling a greater need for expressed intrest to get aroused. I donot know what kind of preson you are so if my suggestion offend you prdon me. how about you trying out a sexy night dress and some stolen kisses or suggestive touches long before dinner...making him anticipate the private momnent? chek out..could be help ful
2007-08-12 08:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he s normal,Because He is looking for something different what he has got in his mind,But difficult for him to explain you.I think to help him out you should change yourself,At least in front of him.Not to worry,Take care....
2007-08-12 16:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by aly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea that is not normal...ur husband shouoldnt be talking to others girls abt sex or looking at ****..u need to sit him down and talk abt his problem...this problem can ruin ur marriage if not taked seriously...
2007-08-12 06:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by shawanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal.
But be sure: if you are open mind and you will have fun with your hubby...
He will prefer to spend the night with you and not on net.
2007-08-12 07:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by Indamo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal but not to the far extent,,
i suppose he is expecting much more from u,,
if u accompany him with talks and as such,, he might stop this habbit,,
2007-08-12 20:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by Oh itsme !! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man watchin ****. no, you gotta be kiddin only 85% of men watch **** it could be higher. its normal to watch if you single or married, gay or straight. no one can really explain it
2007-08-12 07:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by anthentherwasi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋