was i right or wrong....?

Question

ok heres what happened:
my two friends (both girls) invited me to the movies, only because they needed a ride, and one of them just got a new bf and she cant go to the movies alone. so i said ok fine ill go...only because i didnt really hang out with them at all yet this summer. i have a bf too, but he gets jelious kinda easy...and like i knew if i went to the movies with them he would probably want to come...so i invited him, (they said it was ok if he came) plus we have been going out for almost a year. well the bad part is that my two friends that went and my bf dont really get along that well. I am way to much of a people pleaser and i always have to make everyone happy so i told him we could meet them there then go to a different movie....and them come find them at the end of the movies.....
so at the end of the movie we looked for them....but we couldnt find them.....so we left and then i get a really mean couple of txts from them saying like where were you guys! and that were

liars...so now they wont talk to me...its kinda stupid, this whole thing but then they called my bf and they all started yelling at eachother...then called me crying and said i had to appologize....but do you think its ALL my fault?!?

Answer 1

Well if you waited on them for about an hour, then no it's not your fault...but if you just looked around for a few minutes & then left....then yes it is.

Answer 2

Here's the thing: If you gave them a ride and joined them with the understanding that you would BE their ride, you're responsible for making sure they got home safely...It's a pain sometimes just for that reason alone, because people have a tendency to wander off and be where they can't be found, etc. that's why you should NEVER accept that responsibility in the future uness you're sure you don't mind doing what's necessary to live up to that obligation. ( I used to establish a meeting place right up front so I wouldn't have to feel chained at the hip to these people...for example, "I'll meet you all here at the pinball machine at 9:30pm, and if we get separated, everybody meet right here and don't wander off!") That minmizes the stupid stuff people do trying to fnd each other. BUt you only learn this stuff through experience; experiences like this one that you've just had. But, yes, you should have taken extra care to make sure you reassembled all of those people because if my daughters left with you, I'm trusting you that they will return with you, and if they didn't I'm holding you responsibile for finding them. See how that works? It' s really important, and it's a hassle, so don't take on that beruden lightly....it really IS a big deal. It's perfectly okay to say" I'd rater not be bothered with that."

Answer 3

ANYTIME you go somewhere with a group of people, BEFORE you split and go separate ways, AGREE on ONE spot to meet AND a time - once everyone agrees, this kind of nonsense can not happen. I think your "friends" are still upset you chose to bring your BF along - you KNOW they only agreed he could come 'cos they knew you wouldn't unless he did - - I say, let them be mad for awhile - you don't OWE them an apology, you can if you want, but it looks more like you ALL just didn't think it all through and make the plan clear to everyone - no one is more at fault than the other.

Answer 4

Misunderstandings happen. I don't think you have anything to apologize for (considering you did text/call on cell etc etc). If your friends choose to call your b/f instead of talking to you or both of you together (which is what they should be doing since they are YOUR friends), then they shouldn't bring you into the fight they got with the b/f to apologize! And accusing someone outrightly as liars without getting all the facts straight is not a good thing to do. It seems they are the ones who should apologize. They don't seem to be worth stressing over.

Answer 5

If they werent there when they were supposed to be then why should you appologize? Its not your fault your friends didnt come and meet you but maybe you should have called them to see where they were before you left. and if you were only standing there for a few minutes you should have given them some time but other than that no its not your fault so dont appologize they should have been there when you told them to.

Answer 6

First, dump your boyfriend. Jealous teens that yell at your friends become jealous adults that hit and isolate their wives.
Second, how long did you wait for your friends? Did you text and call hem before you left?
I think you should apologize. You knew they had no other way of getting home because you were their ride. You should not have left until you talked to them. You should have not invited your boyfriend in the first place if he is too immature to sit silently and watch a movie with your friends on the other side of you.
Dump him, apologize to your friends and blame the whole thing on him, then get on with your life.

Answer 7

ummm... why exactly are you friends with these pathetic people? Move on and forget them.

I really can't answer whether it was your fault or not. Only you know whether you left them behind on purpose. I mean you could've texted them to see if they were out of the movie, or you could've asked the theater staff what time that particular movie ended. But either way, these girls don't seem worth the fight.

Answer 8

First I would sit your boyfriend down and find out what they said to him that makes him think you should apologize. Then I would tell them you did them the favor of driving, the least they could have done was be where they were supposed to be after the movie. I wouldn't worry too much about holding on to that friendship, they are users. Tell your boyfriend to get over it you aren't apologizing for their mistake.

Answer 9

I'm sorry maybe i missed something but why couldn't you just text them at the end of the movie to find out where they were??? or look a little harder, i mean finding some one a a movie theater isn't hard, this situation was totally avoidable. so if you have anything to apologize for its your lack of effort, other than that you have nothing to apologize for.

Answer 10

No its not all of your fault. Maybe your bf and you friends just dont click that well.If so thats ok it happens alot.try not to think about your friends so much and just pay attention to you and your bf. The more time you two will have together the more time it will take for them to get it

Answer 11

I think you were right. I think your friends should just forget about it and move on. I'm the kind of girl who likes helping other people. Most people I help come to me again with a different problem. I think you should talk to your friends and straighten things out.