my boyfriend who left me for this 12 years younger trailer/trash honestly i have seen her, dusky looking skin, 5'2 slim, ponytail the worst old car i have ever seen. But love is beautiful so he must be in love.
however, and that's where i am confused he keeps calling me telling me he loves me and misses me and soon he will be back with me ! All so weired and i am concidering all of this maybe even taking him back sick !
i haven't seen him since 4 weeks and he doesn't want to see me apparently. I still miss him we were together for 6 years.
he is 42 i am 47 sick to my stomack and heartbroken.
2007-08-12 04:50:48 · 12 answers · asked by maria s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maria, the guy is a player, wants to keep you on the vine...cut him loose, refuse to take his phone calls...good grief, gal...where is your pride? You are no more than a joke to him...get over it now, get about your life. This guy stinks.
2007-08-12 05:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not take him back if I was you no matter what I thought I felt about him. You can love someone but it doesn't mean you can live with them. He has disrespected your love and feelings for him in the worst way and he broke the trust in the relationship. If he truly loved you he would have never done you this way and no matter how hard you try things will never be the same. I understand that you miss him for what it used to be before he left you for this other person.....but now in your heart you know him cheating on you has changed that. Don't sit there and wait for him to come back because if he does and you let him he will only know that he can get away with it again! Keep yourself busy go jog and excercise and work on yourself and find someone that will appreciate you and treat you right. Stay strong and move on and when he gets done lusting and gets bored with this woman ...tell him you don't want him back in your life because he made that choice. You take care of yourself and find support through family and friends and.....maybe a new boyfriend ---------but, don't take him back.
2007-08-12 05:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This seems to be a common thing that some men and some women both do at the age of around 40. Mostly men find a younger woman than the woman doing this. I have seen it happen in my family by my brother and even my Dad. Maybe they go through an age thing crisis. You say he is leading you on and I think that is because he doesn't want to hurt you more by saying he will not work it out with you. He found a young and sexy looking chick and he feels good about the whole thing. It is sad that you are be treated like this and to me it is very wrong. But you gotta let it go and move on I reckon. You will find someone else and this pain of yours will ease up and eventually go away in time.
2007-08-12 05:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He wants to keep you as an "option" if things don't work out with the younger trailer trash chick - don't let him - close the door on this loser and don't ever open it, not even a crack - ever again! He has done it once and he will do it again as soon as he gets the chance. You need to get him out of your mind and your heart and move on with your life - you know you deserve better - do not even communicate with him, don't take his calls, have no contact with him. He will only break your heart again if you let him. Good luck to you!
2007-08-12 05:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by roppin r 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he very confused and can't seem to make a decision. He can't have both of you. So, why would you want some one like this who keeps you hanging on in agony. You need to just face it, and I think you already have, that this man is just the kind of person you do not want. He needs to understand from you that this is the end and to leave you alone. It may hurt now, but if you don't make this decison to finalize it with him you are just going to keep going round in circles-and that's not what you want. That's not what anyone wants. Good Luck!
2007-08-12 05:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kiwi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Keep your self-respect and do not speak with him again. And do NOT take him back when he comes begging, because he sounds like that type. Tell him he messed with the wrong woman, that you want a man who is faithful ALL THE TIME AND NOT JUST WHEN HE FEELS LIKE IT. You can do it, and you'll feel great about yourself once it is done! Go, girl!
2007-08-12 05:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by wondering 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its better to have 2 women than 1.
2007-08-12 05:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by cynic 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Looks like you've already made a decision. Why bother to pick up the phone when he calls. Let it ring and ring, but keep peace to yourself, don't talk to him again.
2007-08-12 04:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, sadly he is leading you on just in case this one doesn't work out. If a man will cheat he isn;t worth having.
2007-08-12 05:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget this guy, because he WILL do it again to you, and he cannot be trusted. The six years is in the past, look to your future.
2007-08-12 05:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by WE 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋