I'm referring to couples that are dating for over a year or more and then the couples start talking about their future together and kids all that stuff. Somehow you have this doubt you know as if to say "what if we can't make" I'm asking this cause of my girlfriend I sometimes feel that that and sometimes she feels like that. Here's the thing that gives me hope is that I love her compnay and if we were to break up I would be with anger jelousy seeing her w/someone else. Thinking about the other enjoying her kisses touching her body that would kill me of anger! sometimes she says what if and I tell her " Look we can do it if you have each other and want each other then there is nothing that we can't do" I want to go into the unknow with her but we're both scare b/c we don't know what to expect I love this girl very much and I want to be the guy that gets to enjoy her kisses hugges enjoy her body everything I just don't want this efforts to go in vain
2007-08-12 04:42:58 · 13 answers · asked by Mobius1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shake it off and keep trucking!
2007-08-17 13:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone gets scared of the unknown. all you can do is walk into it with your eyes open. in reality, every day is unknown. when you wake up each day, something could happen that has the possibility of devastating your life, or building you up. you just have to keep moving forward. if at this point you're both scared, it's time to put that move on the back burner and keep moving forward as a couple. when you love someone enough to want to be with them for the rest of your life, you have to know what you're getting into. are your plans the same for 5, 10, 20 years from now? do you both have aspirations for your lives? do you have dreams together, like a house, family, life? you have to decide if what you want together is more important to work towards than holding off because you're scared. everyone gets scared. it's normal. I've been married (twice), and I can tell you that it would scare the crap out of me if I started talking marriage again. every person is different, every marriage is different. all you can do is talk to each other until you're both sure of this, or continue in the fashion you are until you want to be sure. good luck!
2007-08-19 11:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I've never been afraid of the unknown. The unknown is life. Everyone is in wonder of the future. That is why some people try to predict it with career choices in college or other institutions of training; so they will have some control of what happens in their life. As far as marrying someone out of fear or because you both felt the same fear, that's not a good idea. I am a widow and have been married twice; at no time did fear play a part in it. I think maturity will solve your dilemma.
2007-08-19 23:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no absolute certainty about anything but death and taxes. I am not trying to be funny.
My advice to any young couple is this:
1. Get a 4 year college degree.
2. Get a good paying job.
3. Live on your own for at least 1 year, taking care of yourself, your toilet, your garbage, your clothes, etc.
4. Get to know who you are and what you want out of life.
5. Find a future spouse.
There is no hard and fast rule on when to get married after all that. But if there is any doubt...do not get married. If you respect her, do not sleep with her until you are married.
2007-08-12 11:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Salam - Peace
2nd Creation of Allah SWT Al hamdoullah Rub Alameen is the Jinn - Spirits they are good and bad and they can be found in Al Quran I will post you a understanding about them inshAllah once you get more information for me, you will be finding yourself what is known as MOSES STAFF and that ate all that junk long ago.. all that is left is illussions and dillussions and those are made from your own mind.. so vibrate baby! Salam
2007-08-20 02:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not a married couple in the world that hasn't felt this way, it is so normal to be kinda scared and nervous about getting married, but all you can do is go for it and try your best, if not, you'll go through your whole life wondering what could of been, wouldn't you rather try and know that you tried then to have never tried at all, these feelings are normal that you two are going through, but don't let that stop you, love conquers all........
2007-08-12 13:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what you are talking about. I think it is either
1.Should I get married?
2. Should I have sex before marraige?
3. Should I let me girlfriend have sex with other guys?
Your words make no sense at all but here are the answers.
1. No
2. No
3. Yes
2007-08-20 11:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you should really hand out with married people more and see what your opinions are. Talk about what you observe and ask married people questions. You'll learn a lot and it won't seem the unknown.
2007-08-18 02:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are so in love nothing should happen you do things together and stuff never go out alone to somewhere and vise versa. there is so much you can be happy with and never let the ugly green monster rear its head jealousy is a bad word and can ruin a life time.
2007-08-19 00:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look yourself in the mirror. Ask yourself if you want to be with anyone else? Ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person?
You and the guy in the mirror should be able to work this out.
2007-08-20 05:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by Stardust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody gets pre-wedding jitters and cold feet. Relax, everything will be fine. Good luck and God bless.
2007-08-18 14:36:39 · answer #11 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋