my wife ran into a old high school friend. she told me about it but didnt say that they swaped phone numbers. well thy started talking alot. about 400 calls from her alone in one mounth. all hours every day. she even snuck one to him on chistmas. then snuck out on new years too. none of this did i know till jan. in jan i went to fld with friends to decide how to deal with my wife taking me for granted. she called him before i was even on the plane. on the fri i was down there she let him watch our 9 year old daughter alone at our house. when i found out that day who watched her i let her know how mad i was. fri night he came over to watch a movie with them. sat he took them to the mall with his kid. i talked to her when she was with them and she lied to me in front of him. about who she was with. she said she cried about lieing to me. yet she left our little girl with his so they could go to the cosino. sun he was at my house till after 2;30 mon mourning. she said he was just a friend.
2007-08-12 04:23:50 · 14 answers · asked by jd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go with your gut, you know in your heart there is way more to this then she wants to admit. It is not okay for any married woman to be in the company of another man and to lie to her husband about it. Call me old fashioned but I believe in the saying that men and women can't be friends. If she has to lie about it then she obviously knows its wrong. My husband and I have mutual friends but I would never "hang out" with another man without my husband and vice versa. The best thing to do at this point is put everything on the table and go from there. She's destroyed trust in the relationship, tell her that, tell her you need her complete honesty now. I've told my husband when we had some trust issues that the truth usually has a funny way of surfacing and it does. I hope all goes well, it's definately not fun being the one kept in the dark.
2007-08-12 04:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by luvmybabies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is moving in on your territory and your wife is allowing it to happen. You don't know this guy but I am sure you understand his intent and your wife needs to stop if she hasn't cheated with him already? Your wife and this man are giving you every indication that they are up to no good behind your back. But, even if this isn't so it's leading in that direction. If your wife continues to encourage the relationship on and you ask her not to then she doesn't care about the marriage anymore. I am sure that if you were in this situation with another female she would not like it either. Maybe you need to set up an appointment for the both of you with a marriage counselor so she tells you the truth about what's going on?
2007-08-12 06:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she is lieing to you! why would she lie about who she was with, and then cry in guilt about it if they are just friends! why is she bringing him in your house acting as a father figure watch movies together like a family should do? why is she going out to the casino with him? why is he at your house until 2:30 am and why oh why did she make 400 CALLS in one month to a FRIEND?!?!?!?!? and why would you be asking this on answers if you believed her?!?! sad to say but she is a DOG! and you need to move one before this effects your daughter! honestly if you move on you will see, in no time she will be with that man,,,,your better off man! soory to hear it , but you deserve someone who respects you in a relationship! there are good women out there!
2007-08-12 04:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is believable, but doubtable! Always turn the tables and ask her what she'd do if you hung out with so-and-so like that?! Ask her if she'd believe you if you told her this story about you?! Tell her "I'm not ignorant! Either you stop this type relationship with him or we are over." If she's not hiding anything, she will also consent to your presence when he comes over, and no private phone calls anymore to him. The way to resist temptation is to never allow circumstances within your control to be tempted! She needs counseling, too, to save your marriage. Good luck!
2007-08-12 04:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by dawnUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact is always stranger than fiction.You may have a Pulitzer prize story here for the Jerry Springer show since it seems hes down on his luckand running out of good shows to televise since hes hosting "Americas got Talent" show. I see possibilities of child endangerment here mostly but you will still have to prove it in court
2007-08-12 04:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, does she call you 400 times a month? She's building an intimate, emotional bond with this guy. It's called an Emotional Affair, if they haven't already crossed the line. Your marriage is in trouble.
2007-08-12 07:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds like she is cheating on you. If she valued your marriage, she would end the time she is spending with him, or would only spend time with him when you are there as a couple, if he IS REALLY JUST a friend. I would demand that she end the relationship and go to couples counseling to rebuild your faith in the marriage. Good luck.
2007-08-12 05:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to your question: no, it's not believable. She's lied to you several times already; she's left your child with this guy; she's started seeing him without telling you. Whether you want to admit it or not, she's already cheated on you, although it may not have gotten physical; at least, not that you know of. Get a lawyer-QUICK!!!
2007-08-12 04:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by Tbone64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't believe a thing that this misfit is telling you do you? Guess who's messin up your sheets, on your bed, in your house, with your wife? You know what you have to do right? NO IT IS NOT BELIEVABLE.
2007-08-12 08:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like they are more than friends. If they were just friends she wouldn't have to lie to you about it. Also, he should be your friend too, if they were just friends. I think that there is probably more than just that going on between them.
2007-08-12 05:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jessy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋