Is it normal for a man who is 40 to not want to leave home and date anymore?

Question

I have no interest in any relationship and stay home on weekends.....Haven't had sex in almost 5 years and really don't care about that either. So, am I normal or a total loser?

Chrissy, nice low blow about Mothers basement...I have a brand new custom home and make well into 6 figures. So don't assume, makes you look rather stupid.

no, I don't have lack of sex drive but having sex means having to be in a relationship..and that, I have no desire for.

Answer 1

How pathetic are some of these answers you are getting. The Problem with Yahoo Answers is that you often have people who don't know their @$$ from their elbow trying to give advice. Here is my two cents, I am sure you will find it in the spirit of the question you asked. If you are happy, then you are doing your thing. Everyone is different and as we age, we become comfortable in our own lives. There is no normal or not normal, everyone is entitled to different interest. No loser here, just someone living their own life by his own rules, not by societies. Nuff said!

Answer 2

Society might judge you as a bit of loser, but society is screwed anyway.. As long as your not hurting anyone, your not really a loser. The real question is: are you happy?

If more or less yes, and you get out of the house once in a while (for work or friends or whatever) then don't worry too much about it, that may be enough entertainment for you. But you may have low testosterone or something which affects sex drive, so you may want to mention it to the doctor.

If not very happy, you should dig a bit deeper and see if you are a bit depressed have unresolved past relationship, frustrations with dating or whatever.

Alot of people are on the other end of the spectum where they always deperately need to be in a relationship or are miserable, so you're not normal, but if you're happy that's not too bad.

Answer 3

Now days being a loser is normal. But, I would bet, that you have begun to realize how valuable you are to you. Growing- up is good for you. One day, I'm very sure, and clear out of the blue, you will fall hard and she will too. Love just makes it complete,Hell, it's what makes the world go around!
5 years isn't to bad it can cause you to exercise the anticipation of new love and analyze the sweetest scenarios. That is good love exercise. Don't worry there will be no problem in the sex area when the right one comes. Till then keep exercising love thoughts and be around people on your free time. Local coffee shops are A-1 American, bring friends with you as often as you can to chat face to face. This will keep your spirits up and your charm alive. enjoy your freedom and yourself .

Answer 4

Could it be that you have been so hurt in the past that you just don't want to risk it anymore? Are you simply tired of the dating "game" -- and it is a big dumb game -- and you just don't have the energy for it any longer? I would advise you to follow your heart. If you do not have the desire, then just don't do it. Otherwise, you won't be true to yourself or the woman who eventually falls in love with you. Wait till you want to get back out there. You might eventually become lonely enough, or you simply might find you don't mind being single! Whichever you choose, at least you're living your life the way you want to. I wish you well, friend, and you aren't a loser at all. You're simply honest.

Answer 5

Sex is a gift of God to all creatures.Do enjoy that.
2.If you do not go out and date go to a website where you will find like minded person to share your life.
3.There is no harm to live with out sex also provided, you do not repend on what you lost in life.There are many un married leaders life the Ex- President of India DrAPJ Abdulkalam who became a scientist of international repute and did not marry life long.
4.If you feel bad about yourself, do consult a psychriatist. Lack of interest in sex can be due to some personal problems or due to some illness.
5.Self indignation and inferiority complex should not be allowed to develop in you.Be yourself and be happy in what you are.
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Answer 6

People's actions and what they perceive in life depend on what they think.Every individual has the right to its choices whether you like to stay at home and be a loner or be with somebody.I think that is normal if you are not running away from a problem.But if you do have a problem and you just want to shun yourself from the outside world, then there is a problem with you.That's the time you need to ask for a professional help.Pray for enlightenment.

Answer 7

Well, you may want to seek some therapy as you might be depressed. But, on the other hand, I am somewhat anti-social, not everyone likes to hang out in dank clubs and bars with drunks and annoying people, so, its cool in some regard. I would say that the lack of a sex drive may be a testosterone issue, and you might want to ask your doc.

Answer 8

You may just have a low sex drive. You feel comfortable on your own, you like your independence. There are a lot of people like you but don't rule out the possibility of finding a relationship.

Answer 9

Well, if you don't want or need any human interaction at all, there's probably something wrong with you. If you're just sick of women, there's a lot of men who would agree that they're more trouble than they're worth (but giving up the sex is pretty tough at 40).

Answer 10

Depends...are you happy about this? If you're happy, than don't worry about it. Everyone has different desires in their life. If you're not happy, than what's happened is you probably have just given up hope. If that's the case, there's a lot of ways you can snap yourself out of it, but it will require you to step out of your box a little bit. You're going to do a few things you're not comfortable with like going out and making yourself vulnerable a little bit. If you need ideas, e-mail me....I've dealt with this with a friend before. But, like I said, if you're happy, who cares? Enjoy yourself!!!