can some one help me i get into a lot of fights?

Question

im 14 during scholl i get in to alot of fights i dont why but i usually win when i get in to trouble they usually say if i left bruzes on them their familly can press charges and i can go to JDC ho can i get into less fights

talking makes things worse and teachers just tell them to stop then they just do it again

ive tried every thing not to fight but i end up fighting i was talking to guy who was mad at me because i have a common name he thought i spread a rumor about him and i didnt but now i have a big scar on my arm i dont know how but i cut cut not by a knife though

Answer 1

I am so proud of you!!!! You reconize that you need to stop, and you will. You are showing signs of maturity. You'll soon learn which battles to fight, and which to walk away from. Some people want to see you fail, so they will bait you, don't fall for it, but don't let people walk over you either. You'll soon come to learn that all thats needed is a stern look, and folks will back off b/c they wont want to take you on. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 2

well i'm almost the same age as you and i've never been in a fight...ever. I think you could do the following things to stay out of fights:

* look at it from the other persons point of veiw
* talk about it to a friend and see what they think
* take deep breaths
* walk away
* make friends with you enemies-or at least a truce
* avoid people you know want to fight you or cause trouble
* talk to an adult whether it be yourparents or a teacher
* don't hold grudges
* heres a hard one- don't gossip
* don't instigate it meaning don't try and make the other person fight ( don't call them a baby or a wimp, stuff like that)

good luck and remeber that these years in school are the most important so try and make the best of them!

Answer 3

You need to control your anger but you have to want to do it first, and it seems that you do. At 14 yrs. old and up till today, the best way I control my anger is to walk away and cool down. After that, one of two things will happen....you calm down and realize it was over something stupid, or it still bothers you. If it bothers you then don't bottle up your emotions, talk to the person if you know them on a personal level (friends or family). If they are random people, don't give them the satisfaction of degrading yourself to their level then you are just like them.

Learn to forgive and don't forget to apoligize if you are at fault. Without settling the argument, the hurt will always be there and it will be a vicious cycle of fighting.

Another thing, it is not about winning or losing, or the bruises you left on your victims. Think about your future because you don't want a criminal record. You are smart enough to know right from wrong.

hope this helps

crys

Answer 4

avoid the people your having problems with talk about it to them but do not touch them or you will have to suffer the consequences, here are some ways too stay away from violence-
1. don't talk about people behind there back and say it too there face telling other people will just make the situation worst
2. talk to them and don't touch them
3. get a old action figure and throw it around to release your anger so you take it out on the doll not someone else
4.try not to have problems with people not only will you not get into fights but you will make freinds by being nice to people
5. ( don;t be loner and be by yourself because it will be along lonely years af schools if you have people hating you left and right

hope i helped
ps. try not to kill some one
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Answer 5

okay I am 14 too. you need to show then that you do not want to fight, that will get you out of trouble but only say that to the teachers and princepal he is your princePAL he will listen. but as for the bruces be with another person, a girl would be even better. and just act around the guys you get in fights with like they are NOT there. and if they bother you no mater what they say or do act NOOOOOOT scared at all just like walk away.

Answer 6

so you have a problem fishinng? Well the old timers told me u can bait a hook with a piece of rubber and it will catch then big ol fish. THat is how much sense you made. what a LoSeR!

Answer 7

Get counseling for your anger problem that you obviously have...Talk to a psychologist/psychiatrist before you do it to a girl or your child later in life...

Answer 8

Call the police.

Answer 9

well if they pick on u tell a teacher or leave them alone..... my friend has the same problem and dont say anything to them!

Answer 10

Try to talk instead of fighting :)