or if i dont give her all my attention no matter what she is doing even if she is playing and i cant get my chores done my husband works fulltime so cant help so much and my house is falling down around my ears i have been told to let her scream but i think that is cruel any ideas welcome thanks :-)
2007-08-12 03:30:53 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
The baby is like a puppy, they want to see you for comfort, but if you run everytime the cry then they will come to depend on that. Try ignoring her for a bit. She's only doing it because she knows that you'll come.
2007-08-12 03:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by jess91485 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That's part of the joys of being a parent to a 7 month old baby. :)
It does sound cruel to just say, "let her cry", especially having a baby of my own but it's the best thing for them. I'm not saying let her scream for hours at a time but a few minutes here or there while you try and get something done is by no means neglectful or anything of the sort. If anything, it is bothersome to you because you hate to hear her cry but it'll help her learn to self-sooth and also teach her that even though you walk out for a minute or two, you always come back.
2007-08-12 12:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ash C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Imagine yourself as her. In a room with mummy the only person who you trust and looks after you (Except daddy of course) and all of a sudden mummy gets up and leaves the room. How isolated and scared would you feel? When you walk back into the room its like all of her fears have gone. I have two children who went through both the same thing. My advice is to sit her in her chair near to the room that you are going into and also some toys near her to keep her occupied. She can see you walking around in the room and here you. If you occasionally pop your head aroud the door or go back into the other room she wont constantly feel isolated. Also when your out of site talk to her. I know this can make housework time consuming but she will gradually get used to the idea and wont fret when you leave the room.
Another tip is to use later on when you are trying to get her into her bed (maybe you'll thank me for this later!) as she gets older stay in the room with her gradually reducing the amount of time you spend with her and walk further and further away from the bed each night until your near the door. Gradually she will sleep through. This is much the reverse of the situation that you are in now. I hope that you can resolve this teething problem and manage to do your house work without constantly picking your little girl up. Whatever you choose to do or whoever answers your question best then I hope you can resolve this. Happy Parenting!
2007-08-12 08:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of 3.My baby is 7 month old he also cries or should i say cried when i used to leave the room.I would stop what i was doing pick him up for a minute.I would hug him give him a kiss.Tell him Mommy loves you.And put him back down.Just kept doing that then he finally stopped.Once in a while he will still do it but he hes a baby.I would not let your baby cry to long i think that is cruel.Hope all works out for you.
2007-08-13 12:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by peanutbutterkisses21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gotta let her scream a little, that doesn't mean ignore her though. Put her on the floor by you with some of her toys and talk to her while you do your work. Let her cry for a bit before you pick her up and comfort her, but don't hold her for long. Give her a hug, tell her your right here and not going anywhere and put her back down. Then once she's doing ok like that you can start working further away from her, leave the room to grab something, ect. and she'll eventually learn that she's ok by-herself, she can entertain herself and that you aren't going to leave her. It's tough now, but you have no idea how hard it will be if you don't fix the problem.
2007-08-12 04:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Elysia W 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have to let her cry! I had the same problem with my little one and i gave in a lot of the time. I now have a 19 month old that up until a couple of weeks ago, wanted up for a 'cuggle' every time I tried to get something done and if I didn't get her up she would hang on to my legs so I couldn't move. She still does it occasionally but she's old enough now that I can distract her with something else or let her help if i'm doing the washing etc.
Honestly, nip it in the bud now because it gets worse when they can crawl/walk because they can almost physically stop you from doing things. i'm only starting to get on top of things in my house now.
I know it breaks your heart but you've just got to do it! How about singing to her as you go about doing your housework? Or if you are in another room, keep popping your head round the door every few minutes for the first little while to let her realise you will always come back eventually and you're not going far.
Remember it will take a while and a lot of willpower but it will be worth it.
If all else fails, stick her in a baby carrier/papoose and carry her around with you while you get your work done!
I hope all goes well! Good luck!
x
2007-08-12 03:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by wee_reenie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The best idea is to try and have her in the same room as you, She will still be able to see and hear you and you can reassure her by talking to her. My baby is 61/2 months and has just started to do the same thing, it's awful isn't it but if you keep picking her up she'll scream more and it'll get no better. It is completely normal for babies to do this around this age, they are just learning to form attachments to people and things.
2007-08-12 07:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by oliveris4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes let her get over it. otherwise she's going to have severe attachment issues when she gets older. Babies can cry without being constantly attended to. In fact, they should be sometimes. Most likely every time she whimpered in her life so far, you've been right there. This will become a serious problem as she gets older. Serious.
This is probably normal for children this age because you do have to give them some space so they can learn to individualize from you guys. So at this age, they're going to be a little upset about it. You just have to let them cry. You know the difference between "mommy i want attention" cry and "oh my god i'm hurt" cry, right? So just let her cry for awhile, her toys and busybox and anything she loves will soon catch her attention. But she needs to learn to be by herself or this will affect a lot of things in her future including relationships, friendships.. she'll grow up very clingy and needy if she doesn't learn to be on her own at least sometimes.
That being said, she's still very young and you should be monitoring her at all times. Do you guys have a baby monitor? Make sure you don't leave her too alone but yes. you can let her cry. You're doing her a favour for her later life.
2007-08-12 03:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
At 7 months, your baby realizes that to get attention, all she has to do is scream. It may seem cruel, but trust me, you're not helping yourself or her by giving in every time she does it. It'll be difficult for a few days to a week, but if you can get over that hump you'll be just fine and you'll have a happier, well-adjusted baby.
Babies who get their own way at 7 months turn into those 2 and 3-year-olds you see in the grocery store....the ones where their mothers are pleading with them to "put that down" or to "get in the cart honey, please?" Who's the parent here?
During the first day or two, when you walk out of a room and she screams, wait 5 minutes (plug your ears if you have to). If she's still screaming in 5 minutes, go into the doorway, reassure her you're still there, and leave again. Stretch that 5 minutes out each day by adding another minute or two. This accomplishes two things. First, your baby realizes that you're not going to drop everything and come running when she screams, so it's not worth the effort, and second that when you leave the room you're not "gone", and that you'll always come back.
2007-08-12 03:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by circe 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
she has to get used to not having all your attention as long as you no she is safe then there is no harm in letting her scream i no its horrible to hear them screaming but she has to learn. try doing like a day plan with her so you spend say 1hr in the morning and 1 hour in the afternoon and 1hour in the evening where you play and then you have your set meal,nap times and bedtime and it will still leave you enough time to do the chores. hope this helps good luck
2007-08-12 06:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by mummy to 3 miracles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
babies have to cry for 2 hours a day to strengthen their lungs, so as long as you know she's not hungry/tired/wet leave her in a safe place (I found a travel cot makes a great alternative to a playpen) and let her have a good old cry. You put some music on, or the hoover and get on with your day. She'll soon realise its no good crying for your attention. Best of luck. xxx
2007-08-12 05:30:30 · answer #11 · answered by Little Bear 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋