How can I know if I'm ugly?

Question

I read another question that was similar to this, but the answers were really all generic "It's the inside that matters" type stuff. And I know that truly, yes, it's the inside that matters. And admittedly, I have ZERO self confidence which I'm sure shows a little bit. I'm too scared to know what others really think of me, so don't expect a photo. If I do, I'm scared people will think, "Oh, wow. Fugly." And I know I shouldn't care what people think.
And when I see other people's MySpaces and I'm thinking "Oh, wow. Fugly," I wonder how what that person thinks of their picture. If they truly thought they were ugly like I do, they wouldn't post it to begin with. So they must think they have something going for them. And I got to thinking, what if, if I ever do pluck up the courage, I see a picture of myself and I'm thinking, wow I look great in that, but to society's standards I'm a fat ugly loser.
But what I want to know is, how do I know I'm one of those people. Family would never say

Answer 1

I don't think the problem is that you are ugly . i think the problem you have is that you THINK TO MUCH .
seriously why do you care what other people think ? i could give a Rat's A S S LESS if someone thinks i am ugly or not.
the point is i know i am a beautiful person inside . and i am sure if you look deep enough and stop Thinking less , YOU WILL FIND THAT BEAUTIFUL PERSON THAT YOU ARE .

Answer 2

no matter what the p.c. crowd say, physical ugliness, is a reality, though as a term it is applied to often,...ugly indicates that something inspires feelings of revulsion. Often times, it is not something that is a persons fault.......think about the way people often avert their eyes when they see someone who has been hideously burned.
That beeing said, unless one has been maimed, or genetically deformed, very few people truly gross the line of "ugly", just as few truly meat the standard of beautiful.Usually most people fall into the middle somewhere, and at worst might be considered unattractive, or attractive, indicating if first look inspires.....well the desire to procreate.
I consider myself to be homely, but my mere presence does not inspire revulsion (except maybe to my ex-girlfriend), so by any standard I am not ugly, I am simply not one of the "beautiful" people (no big loss, means I can spend less time worrying about how I look, or when that will start to fade, and just go on with my life.)
So really, ugliness = revulsion, and I doubt you are revolting. Even when people have the ugliness issues though (at least in the eyes of some), that is where their personalliity must shine. I would rather spend my time (and I have manytimes actually) with an "ugly" person with a vivacious personallity than a pretty person who is sullen all the time.

And as someone said on anothe forum a coupla days ago...."confidence if sexy". Simply by being comfortable with yourself, taking pride in your appearance and grooming, you automatically cannot be ugly.

Answer 3

Until we like ourselves we cannot expect others to like us. We are the 'who' that is presenting the 'us' to the world. If you are a business man and selling a product just because you need a job and you don't even like the product you are selling, you will not be a very good endorcer of it out in public. Who would want what goods you are selling if you don't even think they are any good?

Self confidence comes from the inside when we start to appreciate who we are and why we are on this earth. God never created anything or anyone bad. God only does good things, therefore the first start to liking ourselves is to like God's creation by starting with liking us. Also, God put all of us on this earth with all the talent we will ever need to accomplish anything and everything we are suppose to accomplish while we live on this earth. Since God believes in us and he is our creator and he gave us all the tools we need, then there is no reason for us 'not' to like and believe in ourselves and believe that we can accomplish all our goals. The Scripture I really like about that is Philippians 4:13 which states: "I can do everything through Christ who gives me the strength." When we do not like ourselves, we are basically telling us that he can't produce anything good. If we stop to think about that, we would see the irony of that. God is God and he produces everything and nothing that he does or has ever done is bad, wrong, or questionable. Therefore, you cannot possibly be bad, wrong or questionable either since you are one if his creations. Love yourself for who you are. Inside of you there is a one of a kind, very unique person that no one else on this planet looks, thinks or act like. No one else can or will create your masterpieces. No one else can or will write your poetry or books. No one else can or will win your victories. All the counterfeit creations in the entire world cannot match the genuine masterpiece in perfection no matter how hard they try. You will always find the flaw in something counterfeit. But you are not creating the counterfeit. You are the artist or craftsman for your life. You are creating the masterpiece and no one will be able to copy it. Remember always that your destiny lies withing you and someone, somewhere will always be waiting for the masterpiece that you are suppose to present to the world. Maybe it is a cure or a gadget of some kind or a plan that alters history. Maybe it is a discovery or an answer or a scientific find. You never know, so take your eyes off of what others may or may not think about you and start thinking about what really matters most in your life that will make you successful as a person, both inside and outside, and how you plan to accomplish it.

Answer 4

I used to think I was ugly...but then my parents and my beautician said i was really pretty. I have low self-confidence too and all I do is fake it. ACT like you are confident and then you will soon BE confident. Usually people will tell you if you are ugly or pretty....yes some people are mean enough to say this, but I'm not saying you are because I have not seen a pic of you. So get one and then we can all tell you. But It is a matter of opinion. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder......

Answer 5

Forget this society! If you always worry about what mainstream society thinks...you will always feel ugly! Think about it for a minute... Society says Lindsay Lohan is beautiful even in a mug shot! Paris Hilton is gorgeous, oh yes in jail, but still pretty. I am being sarcastic here, but my point is that you will never feel that you are beautful by looking at society's standard. If we all thought this way there would never be a Jennifer Hudson or an America Ferra from, "Ugly Bettty". If these women thought about what society thought of them we would have never heard of them in life. I suggest you throw away your magazines, shut down your obsession with your looks.

Please do not be like my aunt. She is battling breast cancer, and still think she is ugly, and has not learned to love herself, and she is past 50. You do not want to be over a half century in years, and hating yourself. Learn to love you the way you are! No one can do that, but you. I hate to hear young people feeling so bad about themselves. You can be loved exactly the way you are. To me you are beautiful, it seems your spirit is tender, and when all of this body is decade in the grave that is all that is left...your spirit. Nourish that, and beauty will radiat from within you. Take Care.

Answer 6

Do people turn and run in terror when you approach them? If so you are butt ugly if not then don't sweat it. Each person is so unique that when you start looking at them seriously then there is no "normal good looks"--for instance I like guys who's ears stick straight out-some people make fun of that type-who knows but one thing I do know-not too many of us are models but all of us have some feature that someone else finds sexual attractive.

Answer 7

I don't think there's any specific criteria for ugly. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What one person thinks is attractive, someone else may think of as ugly. Personally I think Cameron Diaz is one of the most hideous people around (seriously, her mouth... she looks like The Joker), but most people seem to think she's gorgeous.

Answer 8

I'm sure in some ways we all have felt this way. I usually don't wear make-up but sometimes I do because I feel that society will think that I am pretty. But you know what? I feel the most beautiful after I remove my make-up. :)

Answer 9

A persons actions and attitude are what make them attractive.
If I see someone who is kind and helpful, that is attractive. If I see someone who is handsome and then I observe them being selfish, or a jerk, they instantly lose their handsomeness or cuteness.

Answer 10

Post your pic and I'll tell ya if ya oogly or not!
All kidding aside, how do you want a non-generic answer if you don't put up your pic? We won't laugh! Promise!