im incredible shy.
and people are always comming up to me saying stuff like why are you so rude? why wont you talk to him, is he nt good enough for you?
when in reality; i cant built up enough courage to talk to most people. /=
anyone else have that problem?
2007-08-11 23:20:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes, but it's their problem, not mine.
2007-08-15 20:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People used to think I was stuck up.
After people got to know me they learned I was "that shy guy".
It took a lot of years and work (seems never ending even today), but I am not so much anymore.
One of the things that helped me was a book I read (The Four Pillars of Zen); it explained that the greatest evil is ego, all bad things come from it; the "why does it always happen to me?", and the "how come it never happens to them?" is part of it.
Shyness comes from the fear of looking foolish or the fear of someone laughing at you; this is very difficult to get over.
One of the things that helped me was the thought that it is none of my business what other people think of me.
When you start to let go of your ego... you will start to loose your shyness and that is very empowering. People are now seeing me as courageous and admire me a little for it. Some of them think of me now as a bit of a buffoon or an idiot and that no longer bothers me because I am having a much much better time than before.
I know how hard it is, so I really hope this helps.
2007-08-12 06:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by Nik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea good for you and r u shy arnd others that u know n love ill bet your not ill tell ya i love convo. and sometimes im not all there to yapp yap w/ all the others and new places n suroundings chit its another deal and look if you r with 2 othr people theres always a 3rd one out its not bad but heeers a hint if u conterlect into a convo that ur so-so or best at that subject you have to keep them occupied w/ it and chit embillish it a bit u wont have to do it often but they wont coll you rude and just buy the nature of asking here is a good thing remember ITS NOT W/ THEY THINK OF YOU ITS W/ YOU THINK OF YOU OWN SIELF and you hang in there laterROC
2007-08-12 06:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by roc/WLA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this problem. I do all I can to overcome my shyness but it still pops up. I had an acquantiance who I worked with for months who treated me like an absolute piece of sheet from day one. (she was a probation officer). I never cared for her, but I never said anything rude at all. She used to threaten me and talk down on me constantly. One day my Mom came in with me and told her to shove it and cried in there for me. I told my Mom what was going on... The aquantiance explained she though I was just being stuck up with an attitude and not saying anything like "all the other kids". After months of seeing her regularly. Some people think I'm just weired or stupid for just standing around nervous a lot of times. Today I focus on not giving two farts about what other people think of me and the shyness seems to lift away.
2007-08-12 06:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jerome54 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had that problem since I was a child. I don't really warm up to someone until I've been around them a while, but most of the time people give up on me before I'm able to be around them enough - it's a vicious cycle. They mistake my shyness for me being stuck up. Glad to know I'm not the only one. :)
2007-08-12 06:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by AlisonFox(y) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate! It stinks... :( Sometimes even my own friends think I'm being inconsiderate, and/or think I don't care about people.
I guess others are sometimes critical towards us shy people because they know that we're capable of being more social than we are... but they fail to realize just how difficult it is for us... We don't CHOOSE for it to be so -- it just is. Shyness isn't just being introverted.. I'd say it's more so a weakness... an insecurity in oneself. But, I think that this can be overcome.
Personally, I tend to withdraw from others, not because of them, but more so because of myself. I'm uncomfortable with myself, and I don't trust myself with others. It's not that they're "not good enough for me" (don't you get sick of hearing that!?)...
It's not that I don't like them, that I don't talk to them, it's more that I'm afraid of looking like a stupid idiot! I get so nervous sometimes the smallest things!
2007-08-12 06:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by Ⓢⓣⓔⓟⓗ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am shy too but the thing I remember to do most is just to smile.....even when I am a little shy to say too much.....this way it shows the other person that I am happy to see them and talk to them. I hope all goes well! =D
2007-08-12 06:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be accused of being 'stuck up' because I was shy. I didn't talk to too many people, so I guess they assumed I thought I was too good for them! But once they got to know me, they knew it wasn't true!
2007-08-12 06:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm not shy : ) but i'm very moody so sometimes i don't pay attention(i don't mean to!) it just sort of happens and i'm sometimes labeled as rude cause of this but i'm trying to change hopefully : ) in your case it's completely easy to be outspoken just relax and have fun it will be hard but you know what?? think of your life as a movie and your the hero and act like a real hero : )
good luck
2007-08-12 06:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by RoChEr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually have that problem where I just can't speak to people I don't already know and go all quiet. Usually I try to have people I know around me who will usually rescue me by just talking for me :P
2007-08-12 06:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have had this problem. If you don't talk sometimes people automatically think you are being rude or stuck up.
2007-08-12 06:23:20 · answer #11 · answered by Turtle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋