I am so very tired. But can't sleep while husband is away. Any advice?

Question

I will fall asleep only for 5 minutes then wake up. It's quite annoying. I just don't feel comfortable without him here. :(

Answer 1

A lot of that is really great advice. I work nights and my fiancee works during the day, so we never get to sleep with each other. The only thing that really helped me get past it was that when I would come home I was so tired I couldn't keep my eyes open. If I wasn't, i would try reading a magazine or watching something that bores me on tv until my eyelids drooped.

The cologne trick is also another good one. just spray it on your pillow and hug his pillow in front of you ( assuming that's a position you sleep in). Once you're lying in bed and very tired, it's actually not hard to convince yourself that his arms are around you.

Maybe he could leave a voicemail on your phone (or a tape recording or something) that you can play back when you want to go to sleep so that you can hear his voice. When i miss my fiancee a lot, i play back old voicemails from him.

Answer 2

My husband is currently deployed and I have the same problem. He sent me flowers and a teddy bear for valentines day this year. The thing that I've found that helps me sleep since he's gone -and it may seem crazy but it works- is I take the teddy bear and spray it with his cologne that he always wears when he's home and sleep with it. I have found that I sleep so much better right now. I was only sleeping about 3 hours at a time but now I at least get 5 - 6 hours of sleep because it's like I've got him with me because for some reason just the scent of his cologne helps ease me to sleep. Try it on something that he has given you or one of his t-shirts or even his pillow and curl up to it. It might work and you may find that you'll get a little more sleep. Another thing, make sure you talk to him right before you go to bed. Good luck!

Answer 3

No you are not in the wrong , you deserve help. You need to tell him that it is effecting your job , you cannot get any sleep , tell him the truth hun , you help him on the "his nights" when he is having a hard time with no questions asked , then he should return the favor. I went through this with my second child , my first child (son) was completely cared for by his father. I was very young and hadn't quite adjusted to the fact its not about me anymore. My husband took full care of my son, yes I would have my nights but before you knew it my husband was up adn I was going back to bed. But with my daughter completely different story , I cared for her 100% , no help at night nothing. My husband at that time worked night shift , and even when he ws home no interaction or anything with my daughter. I think its because she doesn't have a penis so she isn't Worthy of his time and efforts ...BS But anyway hun just talk with him , The most my husband and I ever fought was after have our children about the first 6 months. No matter what or who is dealing with the child one of the spouses will complain , sit down with the hubby and talk , d o not just accept it and move on , talk it out that way you can at least say you tried. Good Luck and God Bless ****CONGRATS ON THE BABY BTW****

Answer 4

I know how you feel. My husband has been gone for 5 months. He is in the army. But anyway what I had to do at first and I know this is going to sound really funny. But I had to get one of his shirts that still smelled like him. And put it next to me so I could fall asleep. Now I write before I lay down. It can be very therapeutic. Just write out everything that's on your mind and all the things that happened through out the day and it may help.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you're having these issues - I have the opposite! My husband and I sleep terribly in the same bed, I wake every few minutes (and we have a King size). When he works away or is deployed I sleep REALLY well. Isn't that terrible??

But to answer your question - I used to have a body pillow. It was the same width as a standard pillow but almost body length. That was great to wrap around! I hope you get some sleep soon.

Answer 6

Your husband is very lucky who has such a nice wife like you. For sleep, just be in bed and close your eye and revise every happy moment spent with him starting from the recent moving to the remote past. You will Wonder only in the morning that you can't tell the time you fell asleep.

Answer 7

Make sure the room is as dark as possible. Put the radio on so low you have to strain to hear it and you will drop off fairly quickly. Your brain will continue to monitor the radio while you are asleep as background noise so as long as the radio is not turned off you should sleep for a good long time.

Also try and be more positive for your husbands sake. Show him that you can cope and look after yourself and the home so that you are fit and healthy and the home is in good order for his return.

Answer 8

this may not work of course because many people dont like milk but hot milk is really comforting. maybe phoning him just before you fall asleep would also help if hes availible

Answer 9

next time he has to go away, keep a few shirts he wore and don't wash them. Keep them in a plastic protector in your closet. then at night put the shirt on a big teddy bear adn sleep next to it... you will have the smell of your husband on that shirt and hopefully will help you feel more comforted.

Answer 10

Try showering before bed and meditate. Should relax you. Put on some soft music. Do something boring like crosswords. It'll put you out sooner or later, lol.