Finally me and my guy-friend are bf & gf but we just started having sex 2 days ago but the only problem is that he wants to practice s&m on me during sex which is really scaring me.S&M means Sadism and Masochism.If anyone does'nt know what it means then basicaly it's torturing during sex, look it up.
well anyway i was just wondering has anyone tryed it? because i am so frickin scared to incase it hurts REALLLY BAD.is it that painfull? or should i just go along with it and see how it goes? he's really into which i never knew...weird so i probably don't have a choice...haha :[
and he wants to involve knifes which freaks me out.
2007-08-11 21:30:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yea i know the knife thing is really odd, like he collects loads of knifes but then again thats just him, he's into all that kinda stuff.
2007-08-11 21:45:02 · update #1
Dump that freak.
2007-08-11 21:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just as it takes two to tango, it takes two to have a satisfactory S/M relationship. The real question is: Does this form of S/M play turn you on? If so, you need to set up a "safe word" that the bf will respect. He has to agree not to go farther once you've said the "safe word." If you are really scared by this and don't find sexual excitement in it, dump this bf right away before things go too far.
2007-08-13 14:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by Isidore Ducasse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It worries me that he wants to act out his fantasies so quickly after having sex with you for the first time. It's probably something he's been yearning to do for a while. Unfortunately, one cannot help what they like. It's his fetish!
S&M sometimes isn't as bad as you think. There are extremes... he may just be into mild stuff like handcuffing or an occasional spanking. I would sit down with him and find out what kind of stuff he wants to do. If it's mild acts that won't be painful, I'd say try it out after you guys get to know each other sexually. If he's worth anything, he'd respect you and not do what you're uncomfortable with. Let him know what you'd be willing to do and not do. Tell him you don't want to be hurt physically in any way. Frankly, if you don't WANT to try any of this, don't feel obligated to! He can keep his fantasies to himself as most people do.
KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN though... if he's aggressive in bed and starts scaring you or holding you down against your will, that's the end of it. Do not pursue this any further as you will be in a BAD position and could possibly get raped or hurt in other ways. Some people are into aggressive sex and they need professional help if they cannot control their urges.
2007-08-12 04:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by Cochy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You always have a choice when it comes to what sexual activities you participate in. If your boyfriend is into that. This is a small taste of other sick things he maybe into. (yes it will hurt some of those sexual acts - there have been accounts where people have died doing things like that) If you really want to do that stuff then fine go and do it but if you are uncomfortable with it. DO NOT GIVE IN. If he dumps you because of it it. It shows he wasn't really interested in you as a person and wanted you just to fullfill his sick fantasies.
2007-08-12 04:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you guys just started having sex 2 days ago, and he's ready to go to S&M thats kinda weird. Are you sure he means hard core whips and chains?
Maybe he's just kinda kinky and wants to use handcuffs or something fun.
But if you guys aren't comfortable to the point where he doesn't know that your scared you probably shouldn't be having sex.
Definite no if he wants to use knives... wtf
2007-08-12 04:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Run for your life! Knives have no place in sex check any S&M site lots of kinky stuff but no knives thats a sickness of a different kind that you should truly fear.
2007-08-12 04:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by arkie182 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
S&M can just mean bondage and plastic or leather attire with whips and stuff it doesnt have to involve knives , Id be a bit worried about that one.
My wife is into S&M , but to her it means Shopping and Manicure. lol.
2007-08-12 04:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
If you were not afraid, it would be no fun for him. Read that line again and again and think very carefully about it (the statement, not your situation).
2007-08-12 04:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you. if u dont like to do it with him. he will let you be free... but it is your decision if u two will continue that thing... if he wants you with him for that to be practiced in that situation then you will be his sex slave... this is only an advice nor opinion... for your safety thank you
2007-08-12 04:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by Harriz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's a loser, a pervert and he's a freak dump him now before you get to involved with this wierdo
2007-08-12 04:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋