We've been separated for 6 months due to a minor assault. He has never done this before though. During the time we've been living apart, my husband often came over to see me. Had tears in his eyes because he felt he couldn't take us being apart. Calls were very frequent & so were the meetings. He would often call in the middle of the night because he missed holding me.
We attended court a week back. He was found not guilty. Now he has completely disappeared. Has even changed his mobile number! I was shocked!! I keep looking at the phone thinking he is going to call. It's difficult to concentrate on work. I can't eat. And when I see the photographs we had taken just last week, with his arm around me, it makes me physically sick.
What's going on?
2007-08-11 20:36:27 · 12 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One or more of three things he is doing:
Another woman
Drugs
Gambling
2007-08-11 21:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did have feelings for you in the beginning believe me on this....however him getting some space and distance from your relationship has made him realize that he might not be happy with you. I'm sorry and Its totally not you honey its him all the way. There is nothing that you can do exept tell him that you love him if you are willing to go through all that again. Then the ball is in his court and if he doesn't toss it back to you then you need to think of you and take care of you! You are a beautiful person and love is everywhere but take time to heal and grow from this exprience. good luck to you and take care....Clinton
2007-08-12 13:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw that junk of photos away. He is out of your life for good. There is NO such thing as a "minor" assault !! Assault is an assault, no matter what you made yourself to believe to. That is why he was so a*ss-licking all this time, because he was scared to death that the judge is going to pull his balls out of his a*ss for that. You have to understand, ALL major violence towards women starts with "minor" assaults like that. First, it's just a "minor" assault, and next: you are being thrown against the wall !
The pattern of his behavior clearly shows absolute lack of consciousness. In fact, this pattern of behavior is VERY typical for sociopaths. Look up on the Internet the behavioral patterns of a sociopath and you will be surprized how they match. Here is the link for some of them http://www.hss.caltech.edu/~mcafee/Bin/sb.html
Consider yourself lucky, and celebrate his departure with a bottle of champagne!
2007-08-11 21:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He used you to get off on the assault charge. Now you know what you are dealing with. File for divorce. He is a liar and a user. So sorry this happened to you. Change all your numbers as well and stay away!
2007-08-12 01:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you. I know you must hurt so much.
I don't mean to hurt you, but it sounds like he needed you to get through the court date.
I wish I had magic words to help you feel better. All I know is that talking to God is what has gotten me through the toughest times in my life. You can pour your heart out to Him and He always listens.
2007-08-11 22:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably punishing you by giving you the silent treatment for putting him through court. He's the sort of guy who plays games. If he surfaces, tell him you've moved on.
2007-08-11 20:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is a player, he only need you when he is weak and need support. now he think he win the case, he no longer need you anymore. jerk. i would forget him and move om. i am pretty sure he will look for you again when he is in trouble again, but remember, never take him back you you don't want get dumped again. good luck.
2007-08-11 20:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by Discovery 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he was only using you till the trial was over you need to move on in life and forget him he wont change for the better only use you again as he did . sorry to say this but you deserve better than that my opion?
2007-08-11 20:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has decided it is over. Go file for a divorce.
2007-08-12 04:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was just stringing you along. Change your home and mobile number. Be thankful you're rid of him. Move on.
2007-08-11 20:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He held on to you to make it through court. I'm sorry, but he used you.
He's broken away to start anew. I'm sorry, but it sounds like that is something you are going to have to do, too.
It's always harder when it isn't your choice.
Good luck!
2007-08-11 20:41:23 · answer #11 · answered by Autumn S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋