My husband is in prison, since March10/06, because of a bunch of DUIs he got in 2001. I talk to him on the phone maybe 1 x a month. When he first went in he wrote me 2-3 times a week. And I got calls about once a week. Since last October I am lucky to get a letter a month....... Do you think he is writing his x or someone else? Or do you think it's over? He says he loves me, but I feel he has changed, He had a triple bypass while in there 01/10/07, but he wasn't writing way before that........I send him about 30 dollars a month, for stamps, snacks, etc. This month I only sent him 10 dollars. My daughter says I shouldnt send him anything! Especially since he isn't writing to me. I feel very depressed all the time cause of this.........Yes I talked with him about this but I don't really know what to think, I just have a bad feeling about our relationship. Is there some way I can find out if he is talking to other people? Maybe someone could volunteer to send him a letter for me?
2007-08-11 20:10:02 · 9 answers · asked by Dianne L 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know what to do, I am just really confused!!!
2007-08-11 20:10:22 · update #1
prision is very rought on anyone no matter what anyone says my cousin is in prision right now over a stupid thing he did and you need to be there for him he still lovs you fact he is probley depressed over being away from you and the children as well prision changes a person very much i went there to see my cousin he had to change just to fit in or he would not be ere yet be there for him like you was before he went in it. my honest thought.s on this matter. really. ?
2007-08-11 20:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you'll be able to tell by what he says in his letters or phone calls. He probably doesn't do much in prison & doesn't have much to write or talk about. Also when some people get depressed they withdraw from everyone. Maybe he is just doing some sole searching??? I wouldn't worry too much unless he quits writting or calling all together. He's having a tough time & I know you are too, but try to be strong for him & hope for the best. Hopefully it won't be too much longer until he's home & then you can tell for sure! Good luck to you!
2007-08-12 06:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but something is definitely up all you have in jail is time and if he's not calling or writing you then someone else is getting the lil attention that he can give don't send him any money and see how fast he will call you when it runs out and if he gives you a sad story about being in lock-down or in solitary confinement you can always find out if its true by calling the jail for a statues check. GOOD LUCK i hope its not what it seams
2007-08-12 03:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by chicanaGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is because of his heart bypass he is worried about and he is worried that he may never see you again, and he feels something might still be wrong and he may be depressed ses if you can try to build him up a little and go from there if that does not help then just be honest and ask him whay he does not write, bypass of anykind can worry anyone , and right now thats where his mind is on his on his health, and he may not be thinking right, maybe he needs a couple cards or something sent to him so he knows that you and your daughter care for him and want him to be in good health, just a thought, hope it works out for all of you,
2007-08-12 04:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by mdwright48 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prison is extremely tough. The last thing he will probably be thinking about is other women. You are the one who is still there for him, you'd be the one to be interested in. However, he probably is a changed man, but I'm not sure about how he feels toward you. I will say, though, that I strongly feel he isn't writing to any other lover.
2007-08-12 03:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Haylsinator 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
things are totally different in prison, prison sentence is a strain on any relationship but if you love him. don't hold him not writing in such a bad way, in prison things are totally different, he probably can't be worried about calling you every week when he's trying to stay alive and thinks once he gets out you'll be there waiting.
2007-08-12 03:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guessing puts a terrible strain on you. The best thing would be to meet him & discuss this in person. That way you'll have a better idea of what he's feeling & what he's not.
2007-08-12 03:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing to worry as he is also in a place which is so bad so pls wait as he is in a bad condition
2007-08-12 06:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's been looking for the soap.
2007-08-12 08:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋