Caught my boyfriend of 7 years (child together) writing his ex from 10 years ago and said
"Even though many years have passed, there has been a part of my mind that youve never strayed from. Ive had dreams about you and when we parted it was like a piece of me died. I'm convinced that if it wasnt for your parents despising me we would still be together I wanted to marry you, even when i was 15 lol But even to this day i knew you were the one. I remember not long after we split I begged you to take me back lol but you wouldn't But like I said, youll always take up a piece of my heart. And who knows maybe in the future if it was truly destined to be someday we could finish what we started all I know is I put all that time into our relationship, and the other guy ended up with you."
She is happily married and we were happy. Now he's begging for me to take him back & nothin he said was true. If it was any of you men writting an ex with these words, what would your intentions be?Thx
2007-08-11 19:34:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most of us have an ex. They will forever be apart of us. I understand where he is comming from. If you are in love and they end the relationship, you will always wonder what if. I personally would not go back to an old flame. He obviously is still in love with her, however only you know his true character. He either still has some guilt for whatever reason for his fault in the breakup of the relationship and is letting her know he is sorry or he is trying to see if she still has feelings for him. It's a bad thing he did, but if you love him listen to his reason and act accordingly. It's not over between you yet. Good luck!
2007-08-11 20:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Brewski 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sound's like he is in place very famillar to me, and prolly to to alot of people. When i was younger there was a woman i fell head over heels in love with when i was actually 15 yrs old by the way. Things didnt work out between us and i had a rough time of letting her go, it took me a couple yrs to get over her. But even now, almost 10 yrs actually lol... I still think of her from time to time and feel a lil twinge in my heart bout her and what happened and missing her and what might have been. I am with a really great woman and i love her with all my heart and we are talking bout moving in together and marriage. I know i love her and would never leave her. But the girl from my youth does hold a special place in my heart and always will. I imagine your boyfriend feels much the same as i did, and yes a part of me still does.
2007-08-11 20:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by Smurfy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He meant it, trust me. I am a guy and I would NEVER write a letter like that to my ex if I was currently in a seven year relationship and had a child. You have a tough decision ahead of you because you do have a child together. I hope the best for you but it doesnt sound like he deserves you.
2007-08-11 19:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by ferrerfoto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is up to no good. He's been with you for seven years and tells her that he knows that she was the one? Oh yeah, he's up to no good. There are three reasons why a guy would write anything even resembling that to an ex from ten years past: 1)He did something terrible to her and has been wracked with guilt (unlikely) 2)He's still in love with her (possibly) and 3)He wants to have sex with ther (I think we have a winner!)
2007-08-11 19:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, if I where a father and had a child that I had the responsibility to raise in a loving home....Id commit suicide and have mommy say daddy is on perma-vacation before I would think about writing that.
So I cant answer that. because suicide would seriously cross my mind before writing that would. No, Im serious.
2007-08-11 19:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Adam 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like this was his childhood friend / sweetheart. He may not have ever found closure. He's definatley lost in the "what if."
I think it's harmless. You should talk to him about why he is living in the past when his future is so bright.
2007-08-11 19:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by whitiepossum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she dumped him? is that right?
seems as if he never let go of her (mentally), no closure. It messes with our heads when we don't close one relationship before entering a new one.
The letter he needs to write is one saying goodbye forever.
he's mentally messed up. counselling or dump him.
2007-08-12 02:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this answer if from my husband..
men do not express feelings.. let alone "fake ones" and there is no way someone would take the effort to write that if it wasn't true.. and even if he claims it all not to be. theres more truth to it than not or he wouldn't of wrote it..
2007-08-11 19:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your . ex. still loves you really in my honest thoughts a mans first wife still has a very specal place in him for her always this i know for a fact i had a first wife who to this very day i love till i die really i am not joking on this matter . my opion?
2007-08-11 19:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why were you snooping on your boyfriend? I think you are looking for a reason to leave him. Now you got it so leave!
2007-08-11 19:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by G Money 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋