He recently started a new job as an over the road truck driver. Since then, all the care of our children has became my responsibility(I'm a stay at home mom). Hes home around twice a month sometimes more sometimes less. When he is home, he doesnt take any responsibility for the kids, doesnt help me do anything around the house, and complains when i ask him to help me. How can I make him understand that i need some time where im not the one in charge all the time, that i need him to step up and help out. Im not expecting him not to come in and scrub floors or anything just take the kids for a couple hours so i have some down time, some time for me?
2007-08-11 19:34:41 · 11 answers · asked by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Heather, you think a SAHM sits on their *** all day? you have no idea what its like. I am on my feet from dawn until well after midnight every single day.
ANYWAY RUDE PEOPLE ASIDE
2007-08-11 19:47:14 · update #1
I really know how you feel,I am a mother of two young boys and i work and my husband works also.They think because their job may be harder that they don't have to help out,they are wrong.We need time to ourselves also.We do so much in one day they think we are super woman and we are not.That's why you have to sit him down on one of those days he is in town and tell him how you really feel.Don't do it on the phone because his attention is not fully on you.We have to star to tell our men how we really feel so that we can get that help from them before we drive our selves crazy with the day to day drama of life.
2007-08-11 20:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by neesha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only imagine what either one of you is experiencing. Being at home with kids 24 hours a day has to be a little nerve wrecking but having driven long distances alone that is equally isolating and in both cases all you want is some free time and he just isn't in a position to give it to you right away. Why not ask him for a set amount of time on the 2nd day he's home? In that case he knows he can relax that first day and you have some time to look forward to when the next day rolls around.
2007-08-11 19:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just need to talk to him. i worked and came home to take care of my children my ex did nothing his mom baby sat for me while i was at work and he hung out with his friends all day after work and got drunk. well i left him and now the new b/f is the SAHM and i don't care how tired i am after work i can't wait to see my kids and find out how there day was even if its a day late i work graveyard 7 days a week and some 16 hr shifts and i will take may kids out anytime just so my b/f can have some time to relax i know how stressful it is
2007-08-11 20:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by chicanaGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hire a sitter and take your own time. Ask your family or close friends to watch the kids for a while. Give yourself an allowance from the family budget just for your time. If you can't afford it, take in some babysitting and use the money to hire your own sitter and go out and have a good time or just sleep. Poo on your cold hearted husband. I would be asking him to find a local run so he can be home more often.
2007-08-11 19:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe having a talk with your husband is a good idea
or he needs to change his Job thats just rude you take care of the house and kids and your husband dosnt help maybe you should tell him to Just have fun with the kids for a day or
something i dont know yea it sounds like your husband doesnt do anything but go to work
2007-08-11 19:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
is there anyone you can get to take the kids, and make a special night next time he is home and why its just the two of ya, then talk to him about what you are feeling..
as a truck driver, if i had a wife tell me what you are feeling i would make something work for her
2007-08-11 20:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well may be he is too much exhausted and need rest while he is at home. But he has responsibility to share as much as he can in your family chores. Explain him with patience the real situation so that he extend his hand to help you out.
2007-08-11 20:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by cyber7244 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do see his point, that he doesnt wanna walk in the door after being away for weeks to take care of things, and all you really do is sit your *ss at home while he works, i mean what do you expect, quit thinking about you for a minute. the situation sucks but it is what it is. he does need to give his time to you guys, but i think that you need to let him rest and continue taking care of what your rule in the marriage is right now!
2007-08-11 19:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u have to understand his situation as his job must b too tiring so when hes home he needs some time to rest as working out and earning is diff and the house chore r also diff so u can talk with him
2007-08-11 20:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi, i know your feelings. i think that you should first pray to God to give you the right stebs you can follow. then you can talk to your husband about what you feel and i think no one can help in this exept god.
2007-08-11 19:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by didi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋