Is this good enough protection against pregnancy?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for half a year. I am 17, he is 16, and we are definitely in love! But we both have futures planned, we want to go to college etc. We've never had sex, but we both want to and we've decided it will be OK, but we want to do everything we can to prevent a pregnancy.

I have gone through my first month (1 cycle) of taking the pill, so it should be working by now. Sometimes I forget about it in the mornings and take it later in the day, but I've never missed a day. My boyfriend also will use the Trojan condoms that come with spermicide.


Do you think this is enough protection? Is there anything more I could do (or him)?

What I'm most worried about is the pill. Will it not work correctly if I take it too late in the day?

And by the way -- I'm not looking for people to tell me not to have sex, or that abstinence is the only sure way of protection. I'm not stupid. My boyfriend and I have had plenty of opportunities to have sex but we passed them up because we felt neither of us were ready yet. Trust me, we've done EVERYTHING you can do without actual penetration. We've seen each other naked and we're very comfortable around each other. I just want to be ready for when the time does come -- it may be now, it may be years from now. All I'm asking for are all the possible options of birth control, along with the condom, spermicide, and the contraceptive pill.

Answer 1

Even if you are on the pill, make sure you are still using condoms. I know you said you planned on it, but make sure you do it! I know so many girls that have gotten pregnant while taking the pill. It sounds like you are being very responsible.

Answer 2

Lets forget age or abstinence - sounds like you've already made your choice and, honestly, you're thinking it through much much more than alot of people do - so hats off to you!

I'd give your birth control a couple more months. My doctor recommended completing 3 months, at least the last two of which bleeding occurred on schedule with the pills. This gives your body time to adjust and the pills to take effect. If you have ANY questions about them being properly active, ask your doctor. Your doctor is the best source of information and not just because of a medical degree - but also because of a familiarity with you and your medical history.

Second, make sure your condoms have spermicide with nonoxynol-9 (check my spelling on that). Even if you are both virgins, it never hurts to start good habits from the get go.

ALWAYS wear a condom. It is sooooo easy to forget in the "heat of the moment", but it really ups your chances of successfully avoiding pregnancy.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Dear friend,

I am sure that others will tell you different, but I just want to warn you that nothing is definite in this department. I have spoken personally with several women who have conceived one (once even two) of their children while using both birth control pills and a condom. So while it does sound like you have all of your bases covered. It would be a real shame for you and your boyfriend who both sound smart and seem to have a wonderful future ahead of you to put a huge obstacle in your path by having to deal with an unplanned pregnancy at this time. I would definately wait until marriage if it were me, but I know that most people aren't like me. Better safe than sorry is my motto. Also God created sex to be a beautiful thing when under the committment of marriage. Anything else is a perversion and will probably lead to problems in both of your lives. Sorry to get preachy, but I felt like really trying to help. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Why not just wait until you are married??? I understand that you want to have sex because it feels good (if it felt terrible....you'd probably not be doing it!). But why not do other things other than sexual intercourse? A good massage and holding eachother is even more loving and feels better (just in a different way) than sex. Abstaining from sex is the ONLY 100% effective form of birth control. Sex is for creating a new life, if you dont want to have a baby or just dont care if you do get pregnant with a child, why not be safer and just dont do it.

Answer 5

If you think that the pill is not as effective as you would like there is another form that you could talk with your doctor about Depo provera. It is a shot that you get every three months. It is pretty effective, it has been for me at least. If I were you I would still use a condom because of other reasons but that is just another thing to think about.

Answer 6

the only way to be sure you wont get pregnant is not having sex. but if you think you're ready, you seem pretty much covered. dont "double wrap" though. if you have him put two condoms on at the same time it creates more frictiona and the condom is more likely to break.

good luck
have fun
-Emily
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Answer 7

you could dry hump or if you really want to have sex buy a five dollar sponge. That soaks up the sperm and you pull it out later. Between the condom, the pill, the sponge, you are definately going to be fine!

Answer 8

When used correctly its 99% effective paired with a morning after pill you should be fine. Best of luck be prepared for the most awkwardly bad sex you will ever have

Answer 9

You can use all of that you are doing and planning to do all ready AND you can use spermicides, a vaginal sponge and stuff like that.. All are sold over the counter at your local Walmart or what ever is closest to you...

Answer 10

you have to wait a few more months until the pill really starts to work
at least 3
but try and see if it works out
good luck and congrats