Ok i may be pregnant at the age of 14. Help...?

Question

I want to keep it badly but how to tell my mom and how to tell my friends and teachers and the father. I was at the doctors friday and that is when they said.... sweetie you are pregnant... I was crying of happyness. Help I am due in 4 months. How can i tell my mom, friends, and teachers, and ofcourse the father please help.

I am pregnant.

They didnt find out for two reasons.
-one: my grandmom took me to the doctors and she knows.
-I asked both the doctor and my grandma if i could break the news and they said it is my descision.

Answer 1

you could ask your grandma to help you break the news to your parents
as of the father....you should meet him in person and tell him

Answer 2

if your grandma really cared about you, she would realize that she is only harming you and your parent's relationship by leaving this a secret. Tell your parents ASAP. Sneak a sonogram onto the fridge (they'll get the point.) Then be ready to be glared at, yelled at, and possibly even smacked across the face. I promise though within a day or so, everything will change. Your parents will say "Don't worry. I'll be there for you." And they will become supportive, encouraging parents. As far as telling the father, you should have already!! He has a right to know! You've waited so long in telling everybody it's now or never?! and i hope you choose NOW! So tell your parents tommorow morning and text the father now. This is urgent! Don't hide it for another four months. This is just not right! I wish you so much luck.

God bless,
Brittney xoxo

Answer 3

As scary as it might seem, it is better to get it out in the open as soon as possible. Without knowing details of your situation, I couldn't tell you if keeping the baby is a good idea, because that is different for everyone in your situation. I was born 3 weeks before my Mom turned 15 and her parents raised me until I was 16 and now we have the best relationship. One of my best friends in Jr. High had her first baby at 14, and somehow managed to hide it from her mom until almost time for it to be born (her mom worked 6 nights a week, and her dad wasn't around). She ended up having another daughter a couple of years later and was doing pretty good. We've lost touch since then. I've also seen many young mothers I used to know lose their children to the welfare system because they weren't prepared and didn't know how to properly care for children. Just remember, you have to think of what's best for the baby. If your parents are supportive, perhaps they will help you (even more if the father is supportive). If not, there are many wonderful couples and families who can't have children of their own who would love to adopt your baby, some adoptive families even allow the biological mom to have a relationship with the child. But whatever you choose, please don't think that at 14 you can do it all by yourself. Babies are expensive, number 1, and at your age you will not be able to have legitimate income sufficient to support both of you. If nothing else, maybe you and the baby could stay with your parents until you are 16, and you could go to Job Corps where you learn an occupation to help you succeed in the future (there are some campuses that allow young parents, but you have to be 16). Just remember, it's not the end of the world. In fact, it's the beginning for this little life that is being created inside you.

Answer 4

First, if the doctor told you that you are due in 4 months, then you are absolutely pregnant! Second, everyone is going to find out very soon, so you need to just come out and say it. Start with your parents, then ask them what to do next.

Also, consider letting your parents raise this child as your younger sibling (if they will) or putting the child up for adoption. You are NOT ready to be a mommy! You can't get a job, a house, a car. You don't have an education or even a driver's license! How do you expect to be a good mom?

I'm not saying these things to upset you -- you don't need that. But this baby needs every chance in life and a 14 year old girl cannot offer that. Think about it. This baby is depending on you to make the right decision.

Answer 5

Your due in 4 months and you just found out your pregnant? You need to tell your parents as soon as possible your likely to start showing soon if your 5months along. There is no easy way to break this to them I’m afraid other then going to them with your head up high. If one feels they are grown up enough to even have sex they should be able to be prepared to break the news to mom and dad should they get pregnant or get someone pregnant or even worse contract some STD. You also need to tell the father, perhaps once you tell your parents you all can go over this young mans house and tell him, then you could also talk to his parent(s). Good luck you are likely to have a rough road ahead of you.

Answer 6

You are due in 4 months???!!!??? That makes you roughly six months pregnant. Ok, so this baby is coming whether or not anyone else likes it. You absolutely need to tell your mom immediately. Then the father. Everyone else will find out soon enough. Be brave, and tell your mom that you are six months pregnant. Dig deep for the courage to also tell her that you intend to keep your baby. Then figure out how you are still going to accomplish finishing high school while caring for a baby. You will definitely need mom's support and wisdom. Best wishes.

Answer 7

this is hard i wish you would have waited to get pregnant . i am 14 also and i havent even had a period so i just looked upan adoption agency here in the us that i wold consider after telling all your family and the father and your friends adoption is much better then abortion because it gives the child a chance at life and also there are women who be amazing mothers but just arn't capibal of having kids this will also help you with your life you will be able to finish your education and then be able to figure out what your goals are in life. let me just tell you i know that you love this child so much and i don't blame you but if you want the child to have the best life it possibly can i advise you that giving it up would help you and the baby and in the future it will thank you and it will know you love it so much
http://www.premieradoption.org/bindex.html

Answer 8

hey gurl congrats i am also 14 and pregnant and i JUST told the father tonight!!! i waz gonna surprise him with an ultrasound pic but i couldnt help it, maybe u should try that one, oh and dont be discouraged by the haterz u do what u do and be a good mother and when the hard times come just pray, i think that u and ur boyfriend and granmother should tell ur parents it would be a lot easier if ur parents already knew the father, i have yet to tell my parents butif u wanna talk u could email me on my profile


Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

Well, considering the fact that you will probably start showing soon, you need to tell them. As soon as possible. I'm sure they will be mad at first, but they love you, and will help you once they get over the shock. The father needs to know so he can help you through it as well. But he may leave you, and that's something else you have to be ready for. Your friends may accept it and may not, but if they are your real friends they will look past that. Keep yourself healthy, and be the best mom you can, because you can't go back now.

Answer 10

The news is best given like taking off a band-aid....quickly. You need to sit down with your mother first and just tell her. She will be angry at first, but I am sure she will get over it. You will need her to help you through everything that follows. The next hurdle is telling the father. You definately need to tell him. This is also one of those just sit down to talk to him and tell him. It is just as much his problem as yours. Once your mother and the father know, then you can have them help you decide how to break the news to your friends and teachers. If they are true friends, they will be there for you and not judge you.

Answer 11

You really need to let them know immediately so they can cope and begin to give you the support you will need after this baby is born.
You need to find out what type of support your family will give you after the birth.
I'm a mother to 3 and I tell you from my heart that if any of my children come home with this news that I would be very upset and hurt but I would be there to comfort and support them. Not to mention after the baby is born and your mother looks at it, there will be instant LOVE!
It will be hard on everyone but families are there to help out when needed and right now they are really needed.