why does my friend's mom seem like she's showing off her "wealth?"?

Question

whenever i talk to my friend's mom like when she is driving me and my friend somewhere, she seems to discuss money with me, and it makes me uncomfortable. she drops hints that she's rich, (when in fact she is at best upper middle class.)
for example, today she said,
"im so annoyed, sammie,(thats her daughter) your brother losy the 200 dollar abercrombie sweater we bought for him."
okay, first off, no sweaters from there cost that much, so she must have been lying. secondly, why mention the price?
another time she said,
"see that house (pointing to a large home) we almost bought it." okay, lady, who cares?
i have a dooney and bourke, and she notices it and gets this weird gleam in her eye likes she wants to outdo me.
"ohh, i love designers. but coach is my favorite (gesturing to the coach tote on her am.) i paid 345 dollars for this."
you get it, she's always dropping hints.
i find it tacky and odd
what do you think she's doing?

Answer 1

Don't let it bother you! Some people are so insecure they LOVE to front. Usually the people who have plenty don't do that. I'm sure the show isn't just for you, it's probably for everyone she comes in contact with. Blow it off, rise above it shes making a fool of herself. Pathetic

Answer 2

It sounds as though your friend's mom is a little insecure to me. Perhaps by talking a lot about money and her possessions, she's trying to impress you. She may not feel she has a lot to offer otherwise.

I would simply nod and and maybe say...hmmm. And then let it go. Don't give the topic too much attention and maybe she'll grow tired at the lack of response she receives.

By the way...I'm assuming that your friend does not behave similarly to her mom...otherwise you would have mentioned it. If she does, you may want to re-think the true value of such a friendship and your motivation for maintaining it.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

i don't think it'd be that annoying.
yeah i guess mentioning the price is kind of pointless.
but it does add emphasis too sometimes. for example, her son lost the TWO HUNDRED dollar abercrombie sweater, maybe she's saying its a big deal because of how much it cost. like i'm sure my parents would be more mad if I lost my diamond earrings than if I lost some cheap pair from forever 21, see where I'm getting at? and everyone has coach purses, and maybe she really liked the house?
but if she does always mention money like she's better than you, then she is showing off.

Answer 4

She's insecure about her status. It's a sick game that people seem to play these days.
How does your friend react to this bragging? Is she embarrassed or is she in any way the same? I'd take a serious look at whether I need that ride. In the meantime just ignore her.
Maybe she'll get the message & give it up.
Remember, MONEY DOESN'T BUY CLASS!

Answer 5

haha --
what a mega-*****.

just drop a hint that you can get that sweater at half price at the a&f web site, or in their stores. ask if the purse buckle is gold plated.

sounds like she's trying to out-mother your mother. perhaps she's paranoid that little sammie may be talking smack about her behind her back and wants to showboat a little. who knows? who cares?

maybe you could listen to her stories for 80 bucks per visit. i had to pay that to get my eyes examined in here in canada. im guessing psychologists charge the same.

hell, maybe she's got a lesbian crush on you.

people with money, usually keep their financial affairs private.

Answer 6

i actually had a friend that would do that. it was really nausiating. i always had to hear the cost of things. so i got to the point that every time she said something like "oh look at this shirt , i bought it today, i paid $67 for it, " i would say, oh wow, i went shopping today slao, i went to walmart, and bought the same shirt, plus a pair of shoes, and a pair of jeans, man it sure is easy to spend $67. or i would say, look at this shirt, i bought it yesterday at the 2nd hand store for $2. she finally got the hint, and shut up.

Answer 7

The first two aren't really rubbing it in. Like, the sweater missing wouldn't be very important if it was 3 bucks. Saying it was 200 bucks makes it look more greiving. And pointing out the house is sharing her life with you. Maybe the third one is kinda rubbing it in. As long as she gets you something. ;)

Answer 8

you're saying some ashamed and a few proud? nicely its achieveable, I wouldnt use the word proud regardless of the indisputable fact that. you're distinctive regardless of the indisputable fact that and a few human beings discover that exciting. I bear in mind a woman in the U. S. who could purely stare at me and watch me stand, talk, consume, snicker, each little thing, purely through fact she knew i became from Saudi.... then she'd introduce me to her acquaintances and so on recently there became a chinese language/Russian circus in Riyadh, and that i knew a chinese language guy who looked ecu ( his mom became from Chechneya ) and he became muslim and spoke classic Arabic. each physique gave him interest and welcomes him.... so a methods as being a trophy chum is in contact, i think of you're too self concious through fact of your crimson shirt. once you're distinctive you get extra interest, stable and undesirable, from women and adult adult males, era, so attempt your applicable to set a stable occasion.

Answer 9

she may have been a person to grow up not well off, and now that she has some money she enjoys it and likes to let everyone know it..

it is very tacky.. its like lady.. no one gives a monkeys butt what you paid 345 dollars for a purse that a bunch of other people have!

Answer 10

I think youre right on.
A lot of people define themselves by the amount of wealth they have. Its just a personality trait. Shes just being immature, I wouldnt dwell on it too much.
You know the truth. =D

if I were you Id just ignore it. If she starts talking about it, immediately change the subject. act like you dont even hear her. If she gets the hint, it will make her think twice before she talks about money again.