im 13 and goin into the 8th grade... my boyfriend of half a year wants me to have sex... all our friends are and ummm well he said that i wouldnt get pregnant... but it was up to me.. i already no to girls that have babies.. I dont want that... how do i let him know im not ready?
2007-08-11 16:41:23 · 24 answers · asked by Michelle 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First off, he can't tell you whether you will get pregnant or not. Who does he think he is, Madame Chloe? Can he see the future? Anyways, you should be blunt with him. Tell him straight up that you don't want to end up like your friends. Tell him if he stays, he stays, if he goes, he goes, but you're not ready to be with him like that. I hope the best for you.
2007-08-11 17:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
going into 8th grade??? im going into 10th grade and i wouldn't even dream of having sex at such a young age. middle school guys are stupid. he wants sex so he can tell all his friends that hes not a virgin..let him do it with some other girl and save your self for a guy that doesn't want the sex so he can tell people. you tell him your not ready and if he doesn't like it then you tell him to get it from some where else! i remember the kids your age being the 6th graders when i was in 8th grade, you all seemed so young i cant picture any of you having sex..hes saying you wont get pregnant so that you get into bed with him even quicker..thats bull. if you started getting your periods you run the risk of getting pregnant. even if you haven't you can still get many nasty stds that could make it so that you cant have any children, even when you want them and there are some that could kill you~ don't give into him.
2007-08-11 17:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't spend any time alone with him. It is easier to say no with other people around. If you start kissing, it may be hard to stop. "You wouldn't get pregnant" the only way to know that would be to see a fertility specialist which I'm sure he hasn't. Aside from pregnancy and STDs. Your first time hurts, emotionally and physically, so you really need to be with someone (hopefully married) who you totally trust and don't feel self conscious around. Boys at this age just aren't ready to be there for you in the way you need. Lastly, find a grown up to talk to, a school counselor, or a teen hot-line or something. Oh yeah, the way to tell himis "NO, I don't want to." It's true that if he likes you, he'll stay with you after you say no, and he will have respect for you.
2007-08-11 17:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by jaimebird25 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
IDK, you're so young and i dont think you can handle it. Listen honey, stop think of other girls and what have they done, this is no related wit your life. everyone has his own life and by his doing he choose what he's future would be like. And you dont really want to live with a child, leave school, kicked out of the house and most of all left without his father, I know that you're wondering how could i knew this, its because he didn't respect you know what could change him in the next 9 months when you have your child (if you had sex now)?? Of course, he's going to leave because he dont respect you, he dont care if you're pregnant, if you had a baby. He cares about himself and that's why he lied and said you wont get pregnant.
I'm telling you dear, life has its charms and you're still young to have sex when you're still 13, wait believe me you're not going to miss sex with a respected guy who married you and from then you could have your child.
Refuse dear.
2007-08-11 17:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by ¤Forever¤ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you're not ready for sex. if you aren't ready to take care of a baby, then you aren't ready for sex. it's as simple as that.
just because your friends are all having sex doesn't mean you should too. move at your own pace.
good luck
-Emily <3
oh and im fifteen i love my boyfriend and yes we've had sex and i would never take it back but i just wish it had been more special the first time we did it. wait until you know you're ready. you want it to be something memorable.
2007-08-11 19:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight out that your not ready and that he cant guarantee 100% that you wont get pregnant. your 13 there will be plenty of time to have sex when your older for now just relax and have fun being a kid.....if he really cares about you he wont force the subject and if he does then you dont need that kind of boyfriend.....trust me dont do something you will regret later its not worth it.
2007-08-11 17:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha F 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Drop him.
When I was 13 this never came up in my life. Kids today...
Anyway, he'll just keep pressuring you to do it. And at 13 ya'll won't be going out forever anyway. It just doesn't happen.
Break up with him, enjoy your youth while you have it, then when you get a little older, find a guy you deserve...the kind that won't pressure you to make a decision you shouldn't be forced into even thinking about.
2007-08-11 16:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by B123 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I say dump him, all he probably wants you for is to have sex. He's not worth your time. Just say no but if he doesn't agree with you there are other guys out there that I'm sure will respect you. Oh and of course there is a chance you could get pregnant. Wish you the best of luck!
2007-08-11 16:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by ♥KyoSohma♥ 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
jus tell him that ur jus not ready u dont want to and u cant take the risk.....every1 has their time when they are prepared 2 jump into the river, and uve stuck ur toe in and its still 2 cold....wait 4 the sun to shine (the right guy 2 come along who doesnt pressure u & the time ur emotionally and spiritually ready) and plunge in2 the water
2007-08-11 16:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by nok 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just sit him down and talk some sense into him like tell him that u are only 13 and that he can't get pregnant but u can and if he still wants to...dump him
2007-08-11 18:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by beach_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋