I've been looking through Answers , and I also know people that engage in this: People who are married, who go out to bars, clubs, strip clubs, and bachelor parties, whether together or seperately. Call me old fashioned, but I can't imagine my husband going out all night to some club with his friends! Don't get me wrong, we each get out "me" time: I'llgo shopping with my friends, while he goes to play golf with his friends, but I can't imagine going to a club, while my husband is going to watch strippers! I've always thought of the bar/club scene as somewhere to get drunk and hook up, I guess because thats how it worked before I met my husband. And as for strip clubs...I think if my husband wants to look at a naked woman, it should be me! My husband and I both agree on this. We're together every night, there is no "I'm hittin up the club with my boys". What does anyone else think? How do you feel about living the single life while your married?
2007-08-11 16:19:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With me, it isn't a trust issue at all. My husband and I both just don't engage in these things. No, I don't believe he should be in a strip club with some random girl bumping and grinding in his lap. I'm sorry, but I find that inappropriate. But there is no "trust issues" here. I just feel like when you get married, there are certain things you "give up". There is a difference between the married and the single life. And if your married, and still doing what you were doing when you were single, what is the point?
2007-08-11 16:30:49 · update #1
Again, this isn't about me. I'm just wanting to know opinions.
2007-08-11 16:32:15 · update #2
Girl, me and my hubby are the same way, we only go out together, the whole bars and clubs thing is over when you get married, i mean whats the point in going without your loved one, it wouldn't be any fun and it's just a bunch of drunks and hoes...lol...we have no trust issues but we agree no clubbing unless we are together, so i agree with you all the way here.....
2007-08-11 18:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Strip bars vary and what goes on in strip bars vary. Some are very clean and professional and the type of place where it is more about socializing with your friends than any serious interaction with the strippers. Then there is the other extreme that is pretty close to just a front for paid sex. So one of the things you need to take time to find out is what kind of place is this. In general though most places are decent and the strippers are just there doing a job and they aren't out to steal your man at all. In fact most places won't even allow them to be touched. As for how you feel, that is a difficult thing. You are very mature in realizing that to some degree this is one of those experiences in terms of growing up that a lot of guys go through. My advice is let him go and have the experience. Honestly when I went to strip bars, I found that while there is some excitement in watching the girls, in general it just made me more excited to get home to my wife.
2016-04-01 05:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very fortunate. My husband has only been to one strip club in his life, (some co-workers took him there w/ out him knowing what it was). Apparently it wasn't a very good strip club cause he said it totally turned him off. He said the woman were nasty looking and he had no desire to go back to any of them. I guess he's old fashion too. I'm very fortunate cause I don't know what i would personally do if he did like go to them. I don't get pleasure looking at other women so he'd probably go alone. I would want to make him happy but if he choose to go to those clubs it would make me seriously self consciences. I don't think the marriage would last cause I would think that him going there meant he didn't find me attractive.
I would always think, why can't he just be happy with me?
Now I know a woman that her and her husband are swingers. And that works for them. How I have no frigging clue.
2007-08-11 16:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what type of relationship you are in. I'm in a "sexless" (not very intimate) marriage, where we don't sleep together. Were married 12 yrs, have two young kids, but nothing is intimate in our relationship and when I travel on business (3-4X a yr) I'm usually at a "strip club" one of the nights. I never have any problems finding another (male) co-worker to go with me or if I'm in a city that I know someone, I usually ask them to go with. My wife would NEVER dance for me, or do a strip tease. You live once. Why can't a man or women enjoy life. I'm NOT going home with a stripper. That doesn't happen.
2007-08-11 16:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your so right! when your married they shouldn't go to the club at all. unless they are with you. when your married i just dont believe you need to go out alone to the bar or club if there going to drink than they can do that at home,at a restaurant,out fishing, or whatever they dont need to go to a party environment. if your there i think its fine.but noway weather I'm there or not will we go to a strip club. why do we need to see other girls dance to turn him on when i can do it. that's Why people need to be faithful to each other. i think you guys are doing very well and will do good in relationships. i have seen so many good and bad relationships the good ones they dont go out separately to the bars and the bad ones do. you know what i mean. alot of people wouldn't agree but i have moved around my whole life. every 8 months to 3 years and i have seen alot of relationships and I'm very opened minded and just have seen alot and have been to counselors so i know what works and doesn't. I'm not perfect but i know how to be faithful and try to make things work.
2007-08-11 17:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby is not the "club" type, so i have never had to worry about that. however, occasionally he will go to a bar with his friends to have a few beers and play pool. i do the same thing with my friends. it isn't very often, maybe once a month, but it gives us the chance to have fun with our friends. if i knew ahead of time that he was going to a strip club, i wouldn't have a problem with that. we have been to them together before and we are comfortable enough in our relationship that he could go alone, but he chooses not to.
2007-08-11 16:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you!! I n my opinion thats how it should be, otherwise why did he marry you if hes gonna want to go hang out with the boys? Marriage is a big compromise and like you said there are certain things that we have to give up! The whole point or purpose is to be with each other right?
2007-08-11 16:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Juliet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I turn 21 I fully intend to go to a strip club with my husband, because we have a critic approach to it, the same with porn... I like to dance for my hubby, I would like to see a stripper dance so that I can do that for him, I like to watch porn, again critically, to see what I can do to makes things more interesting without adding weird toys and bondage crap.
Anyway this last year he hasn't even asked to go out... : ] Stays home with me all night watching movies
2007-08-11 16:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by MARE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a lucky man if he enjoys looking at you while naked. But, for me, that's not the case. It does nothing for me to look at my wife while she's donning nothing but her birthday suit. If I'm going to look at a naked woman, I'd prefer it to be a shapely one, be it in a magazine, at a strip club, or on video. I'm sorry, but that's just the way God made me. Nothing I can do about it, other than to not look at all...
2007-08-12 00:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Married men shouldn't go to strip clubs. Married women shouldn't chat online with men.
2007-08-11 17:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋