Well, i found out about 4 weeks ago that i am pregnant and i was very excited! But now, my ex doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby because i wont have an abortion!!!!!!
what do i do?!
i cant stop crying because i know i cant do this all by myself, but now i might have to :(
2007-08-11 15:23:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
please RELAX and screw him. if he wants to not be a father...his loss!
I was in the same place. the guy wanted me to have an abortion and i did not want to. after a few tortured weeks(IE morning sickness and arguing with the guy), we went to a clinic for an abortion. i knew I WAS NOT going to get it done, but i thought if he saw the place he would grow up and start to be OK w/it. well it did nothing and he thought i was trying to "trap" him. i told him NO and that fine i would do this by myself. my stupid self still tried to talk to him. well at 12.5 weeks i had a miscarriage. i really truly believe that it was because i kept trying to talk to him and deal w/him and all the stress it caused the miscarriage. i know that might now be true, but stress does ALOT when you are preggo. so please PLEASE if he wants nothing to do w/you, fine don't try to talk to him it will make worse. his loss. and YOU CAN DO THIS ON YOUR OWN. I am married with a one year old, but honestly it's just like I'm a single parent(he works nights). please if you need someone to talk to, don't talk to him, email me! good luck and stay happy and healthy for that baby!
2007-08-11 16:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by akd_0713 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you feel is best for your baby! Definately not saying to get an abortion cause your child deserves a chance in life but look at all your options! There are many families out there that can't have children who would love to be able to adopt! Then many people dont' think about it but many of us have wonderful family support! If you have a great family support system then you will have many wonderful people who will help you in the raising of your child!!!! Just remember that whatever you decide there are people who are willing to support your decision! There may come a time in your life that you will find a wonderful guy who will stand by your side! Remember there are some great guys out there so don't give up hope and keep your head up and be positive cause your baby can sense how you feel even in the womb!
2007-08-11 22:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by deannafoster1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend had the same problem a while back. Her guy pays child support. It was hard for a little while but a lot of her Friends and family have chipped in for "baby stuff" and she got some help with childcare from the state and medicaid for the baby. By the way, her little girl is starting kindergarten this fall, and she is engaged to a wonderful man. I'm not saying it won't be tough, but it will all be worth it- that I do know for sure =)
2007-08-11 22:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by midnightrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly how my pregnancy started.. although i was not very excited about it. My bf was very unsupportive and very much for me gettin abortion. He was very mean about it. You need to calm down and not stress about this. If you dont want an abortion dont get one.. I never did, Im now 35 weeks and he has named our baby girl, but we will not be together. It will be for the best though, if he isnt goin to be helpful there is no use of him around. I rather find someone to love me & my baby instead of tryin to keep a broken relationship together. Remember everything you do is for u & ur child!. Good lucK!
2007-08-12 00:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by fosho22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want a abortion then don't do it. Men are lots, son or daughter are unique, you can always get child support, and you may find a new man who really loves you and accept you and your child. Double think if have an abortion you could die or have remorse the rest of your life, I wish you the best and hope you make the right decision. Good luck.
2007-08-11 22:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by SWEET ME* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might come around....they often do. Give him time to get used to the idea. And don't stay mad at him, try to stay open and loving.
I might be old-fashioned, but I believe abortion is murder. Good for you for loving your baby and yourself.
Most communities have a Crisis Pregnancy Center just for situations just like yours. They don't base their care on income, race, social status, or religion. What they do provide is counseling, guidance, advice and actual physical help for mothers and their babies. Ours has everything from diapers, baby clothes and cribs to pre-natal classes and baby food.
Please look in your phone book Yellow Pages under "Pregnancy" to see if there is a center near you.
Click on my profile and get my email. If you need more help, I will do my best. I am a 40-something year old wife and mother, and you are not alone.
2007-08-11 22:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women do it alone. Some would rather not tell their partner
You can do it. You'll have family and friends. Financially gov't can help. No it's not going to be easy but a few months down the road you'll wonder.. " What would i do without you?"
since you're not that far along, the farther might come around..
2007-08-11 22:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ LovingMyLittle1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you can do it alone. DO NOT listen to him. my sister has a baby that the daddy doesnt want and she's now 4 years old tomorrow. she done it alone for almost 3 years. she's got an amazing husband that loves her daughter like his own. your family will help. dont worry keep your baby. oh yeah and DHS will force him to pay child support.
2007-08-11 22:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there! I am so sorry about your ex being that way. Find a girlfriend you trust and a doctor you trust--you need both of these a lot now.
All the best to you, and an e-hug.
2007-08-11 22:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by JK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not much of a guy if he wants u to get rid of a baby.
if you have an abortion you will always regret it....how could you live with the fact of killing an innocent baby who didnt ask to be concieved???
yes u can do it. will it be easy? no.will it take a lot of work? yes. there is assitance for single moms...medicade for pregnant women, wic-which you can get free milk, eggs, peanut butter, juice and i think even formula.
Sc*** what your ex wants you to do.
ask for help from family and friends--thats what theyre there for.
good luck
2007-08-11 22:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by ♥charlies angel♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋