My sister is in college, and came up to visit my husband, son and I. Yesterday she asked for us to go a restaurant 45 minutes away so she could see an old friend from college. We did, so they hugged, talked and blah blah blah. Good times for them.
Today we had a baby shower to attend and had asked her to babysit for 2 hours. She told her friend to drive over while we were gone so they could catch up.
We told her no and that we didn't feel comfortable having someone we don't know in our house without us being there while our son is napping. We suggested inviting this friend over for dinner and swimming, but my sister turned that down.
Now my sister has whined to our mother saying I'm too strict and my mother is whining to me to tell me to lighten up and apologize for my "rude" behavior.
I want opinions--we were in the wrong by denying her request?
2007-08-11 14:40:32 · 11 answers · asked by FaZizzle 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, I don't think you were wrong at all. I am assuming that your sister is younger and does not have kids. I'm also assuming that perhaps your sister is the baby of the famiy. (I'm only assuming b/c I have these same issues)
Based on what your saying, it sounds like the decision you and your husband made isn't receiving the respect it deserves. Whether your Mom or sis agree or disagree really doesn't matter. What matters is that you and your husband said no, and that's that. If she wants to raise her children differently - she can when the opportunity arises.
I would also suggest talking to your Mom (without your sister involved) and let your Mom know how it makes you feel to have your rules and regulations for your family questioned.
I see no reason for an apology from anyone other than your sister and Mom. My husband and I would have done the same thing that you guys did, by saying no.
Good Luck - you sound like a good Mommy, a good sister, and a good daughter!
2007-08-11 14:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by mommy of a monkeyboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. You were not wrong.
B. Your mother should not have picked sides.
C. I never lighten up when it involves the potential safety of my children.. You did not know the people, and just because they are friends of your sister does not make them safe until you say so.
D. You gave your sister an alterternative; she turned it down.
E. It's your house and child You set the rules. I doubt your sister would like it if you went to her house and just invited anyone you wanted to come over while she was not there, kids or no kids.
2007-08-11 21:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by ghouly05 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO absolutely not!! its your house right? its your baby right? then by no means are you in the wrong at all. if you felt uncomfortable with having someone there that you did not know then they should not be there. Its a respect thing. your sister needs to respect you enough to understand your reasons behind it.
Also, whats with her going and whining to your mom? I mean shes an adult right? can't she handle her issues on her own? come on now. your sister needs to grow up and realize that in the real world mommy cannot come and get her out of every problem she has.
2007-08-11 21:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Lorena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were in no way wrong. Its your house and all your rules should be respected regardless. I agree with you I wouldnt want a stranger i dont know in my house when im not present. You accompanied her by going 45mins out the way to make her happy, she should be happy you did that
2007-08-11 21:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by daddynard1010 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did nothing wrong. I mean, you drove 45 minutues away for her, so she could at least babysit by herself. It's only 2 hours, you know? Plus, it's your haouse and your son, so you should have your own rules.
2007-08-11 21:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right and more than fair giving her the option of having her friend over when you are there. Parents have to be careful who has access to their children no matter who thinks they are rude. Good for you!
2007-08-11 21:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,its your house, your child. Better to get to know the friend first. She will get over it. My, I wish this is all the family problems I had.
2007-08-11 21:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by trueblue_410 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your house and your rules...sister and Mom are wrong.
2007-08-11 22:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Ford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no , i think u werent wrong , its your house then its your rules , but i agree with what u did, no one knows what was going to happen
2007-08-11 21:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by rock harder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont know the person and/or dont trust them you were not in any way in the wrong
2007-08-12 02:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Aaron L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋