I been abused most of my life and ended up rarely being happy. I never had a gf before and I am 20. I want to know what I can do to make myself happy or feel love. I just can not feel love and rarely ever did. Its hard, I need some help.
2007-08-11 14:25:31 · 27 answers · asked by chefjosh87 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Main hobby, Inventing.
I dont listen to music, I dont like sports, I dont drink or smoke, I dont play games anymore, I have 1 good friend, I am hard of hearing, I dont like wasting time to take care of a female and pay for all her things and make the events and dates. I do work out everyday at the gym for 1.5 hours. I go to school for culinary management and this career is the best I am good at (That accepts my disability). I dont like spending money on unusful things. I manage money very well. Its hard finding a friend that has interest in what I do, and finding a girl who acts as a female without the USA culture. I live in a city and its the 2nd city with gay and lebisans and is a very old one and crappy in my opinion. I live in a dorm. My hobbies were movies, makeing them, draw, collecting, science, cooking, inventing, and a little reading which I dont like to read.
2007-08-11 14:54:30 · update #1
go to a bar
2007-08-11 14:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Seek therapy, regardless of what else you do to help yourself. Find activities you enjoy that require interacting with others who share the same interest, like a photography class or something. Just doing something you enjoy will attract others who also enjoy a common interest. Friendships will develop from that, and then you never know where that can take you. Go to church, the library, or the local park on a Saturday afternoon, or anywhere you can meet decent people by chance (not the bar or the mall). You need to be OUT of your house doing things. That is the only way to grow and heal yourself, and find others to be a part of your life.
2007-08-11 21:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Annabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your past, move on to the future. Try to go out of the box and find something new (like a hobbie) and then you might even end up meeting someone. Try not to focus just on what you've been through, sure life's tough but you can't stay stuck in the past. Maybe look for a career change that could be more exciting or fits with your talents. Try to meet new people and be more social, and to try to just have a night of fun atleast once a week. Come out with your family and express how you feel about them and let them know that they made it really hard for you. But most of all just pray to God and he will make everything okay. He will be your guiding light and sunshine.
Sorry very cheesy but that's just how i work.
2007-08-11 21:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by joenard m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel.
In a way.
You should first of all try to think good and positive, even though it may be hard.
And if you want a girlfriend, just try some online dating sites if you cant get one.
Dating sites are not for losers you know. Cheer up.
Everything will get better. It may take time, but if you try your best to live your life well, then it will. :]
Also, just keep in touch with your friends and hang out and talk. Friends are the greatest source of happiness.
2007-08-11 21:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Alexandra♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just need to come out of the closet and face that abused relationships whoever abused you you need to face him/her by yourself...so that's why you're unhappy all the time regardless of your attitudes towards women or others, or whether you've got gf....your relationships to other people won't be changed if you continue to stay in the shadows of the past abused relationships which have made you anxious, depressed, unhappy, over-sensitive, picky, and controlling...don't be so shame on playing a victim by the abuser, get rid of that mess, man, though you did not specify of exactly what kinda of abuse you're in now....
that your only good friend could be your listener and life-saver in addition to pursuing medications and professional helps....so it is you that can make difference...best wishes....
2007-08-12 06:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can answer this for you. You have to become comfortable with yourself, through this you'll get self-esteem and after that comes happiness! Even happy people get depressed, it's like a hormone thing. Just hang in there and look that what you do have, don't focus on the bad. My husband is always getting down on himself because he doesn't get paid enough, we live in an apartment, etc. But, just click on the news and you can see people way worse off (i.e. away from their families in Iraq, homeless, orphaned, etc.). I find that when you look at it that way, whatever is bugging me doesn't sound all that bad after all.
2007-08-11 21:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by TxGurly27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your hobby is making movies, why not go into movie industry?
Maybe you can find somekind of movie classes or clubs, learn about movie making, get to know some people and together you guys enroll in those movie competition.
If you do all that, you'll find yourself busy making simple movie, catching up with competition deadlines, and in the process you get to know new friends who shares your passion.
I mean, if you really have that passions in movie, I think you should persue it.
2007-08-11 22:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by Hornet One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out who you are and start loving and treating yourself good. It's hard to find someone to love you, if you don't love yourself first. Show others that you deserve to be loved by loving and being good to yourself. And don't give up it's a long and painful process but you'll get there. And when it gets hard to do that, seek professional help.
2007-08-11 21:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by LL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
commit suicide, Joking. Don't do it, or I'll spend 3 years poking you remains with Your grandmas right leg.
How about try being happy. go out in daytime and enjoy your self. put flowers, and colorful paintings in your house. smile even when you don't want to.
Make friends, and have a party.
Get a hobby, Like for me it's photography. and go do it when you feel sad.
Or play a video game like zelda, or spyro. and enjoy yourself.
and start waring bright shirts, like red, green and blue. just to brighten the mood. and repain the walls like bright cheerful colors.
2007-08-11 21:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
After reading the rest of your post that you did 9 mins ago I think you are just trying to make someone feel sorry for you so just cut the bullshit out and stop feeling sad for yourself YOU DONT ONLY NEED PHYSICAL HELP BUT MENTAL TO. Get a life
2007-08-11 21:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by lauralambeth76 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try a therapy group or ask a doctor to recommend something.
It may be a little embarrassing or hard to do but you are still so young and full of life not to try.
You know...if you can't do that just let me know and I'll talk to you.
Having a pen pal to tell things to and not be there to judge you may help.
Just try something, there are good things in life.
2007-08-11 21:33:07 · answer #11 · answered by PK 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋