2007-08-11 14:24:52 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that as long as that husband and wife have an understanding and stick to the the understanding I don't see anything wrong with it.I know that it wouldn't be for me but I can judge anyone else who wants to do it. When it comes to these kind of things alot of things can get complicated. Feelings and emotions do get the best of us and we forget the reason that we did invite someone in our bed. The couple should sit down and talk and be honest on how they would feel about their mate being with another person in front of them. There is nothing wrong with trying to spice up your marriage because when it comes down to it, it's the husband and wife who have to live with the decision not anyone else. I hope that this decision is something that the couple can live with.
2007-08-11 14:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by mrztreed1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are very totally secure in your relationship that you could ,without jealously and regret do such a thing than I would say go for it BUT beware of the repercussions.Suppose your partner decides they like the new instead of the old and you are left at the wayside?
Sex is never just sex, there are emotions involved ,as there should be and what of those emotions?.I think it degrades the marriage and your commitment to each other.I have watched so many Dr.Phil episodes on this to believe it is a mistake.We all get a little tired of the same oh but there are numerous ways to lighten things up.Get creative together,try some role play. Try some tantra instruction where you really learn about sexuality and sensuality. I say no..try something else.To me it is doomed to destroy your relationship.
2007-08-11 14:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! even if it's talked about before, if it happens there's bound to be resentments and hurts even if the cause is only perceived.
Take it from experience, if you invite in a third and lavish even one second more attention on the other and not your spouse, you'll regret it the second it's over.
The only person one should ever invite into a bed with them is their spouse and (as in another answer) a frightened or fretting child and then only till they calm down enough to go back to thier own bed.
2007-08-11 16:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by C_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you choose to do this you would need to make sure that you and your spouse were on the same wave-length and that each other would need to be reassured that this type of thing ONLY happens if both parties are completely involved. Don't do it for selfish reasons,don't use it as a way to have an affair in front of your spouse. be careful and if one starts to feel uncomfortable with the situation then put a stop to it right then!!!!!!!!!! have the other person go home and you and your spouse talk about your feelings right then, reassure each other that they are the one that you love and then go from there. If you can handle the swingers lifestyle good for you, Make double sure your spouse feels the same way. Above all wear a condom
2007-08-11 14:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by phoenix928az 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so. The marital promise is "forsaking all others"....so, inviting another person violates a promise you made to one another.
In addition to that...there are a lot of feelings that may develop when a third person is involved.
Confusion is likely to occur if such a relationship continues. One or both partners may think they have developed true love for the third person when, in fact, the emotions are the result of sexually-charged encounters. Insecurities and jealousy are sure to follow.
2007-08-11 14:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, not ever, under no circumstances. To do so would be to violate the sanctity of your vows made before God for your marriage. There is not any way that a third party could be allowed into a couples bed.... unless it's your own child after a bad dream or during a thunderstorm... :)
2007-08-11 14:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely NOT!!! It is proven that almost all marriages where an outsider was invited to join, they all get divorced eventually. Eventually the husband and the other woman start screwing when the wife if not arounds and so on...I don't recommend opening that can of worms.
2007-08-11 14:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Like..a three-way?
If that's something you and your partner want.
You have to make sure that the both of you completely trust each other..
Because you never know, when things like that happen, all of a sudden you both or one of you thinks, well my partner wouldn't really care and they end up having an affair.
truely, you don't need anyone else but the one you love, literally sleeping or not.
Make sure you're both loyal and true to each other before thinking about a third!
Good luck.
xx
2007-08-11 14:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you really should not. this will just end up making things weird between the person and his/her spouse. If its a need to spice things up bring toys into the bed. try different positions. whatever but if you bring someone else into the bed with you and your spouse it will end up ruining the marriage.
2007-08-11 14:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by Lorena 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would just depend on how open minded you are. Some people swing and really enjoy it. There are swingers clubs etc. that bring couple together, just for swapping and sex.
So, I guess you could try it, if both of you were agreeable and see if it works out for you.
2007-08-11 14:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by madcat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋