neglegent foster mother..?

Question

i have a friend who is a foster mother to both eight month and three month old babies..there's apparent favoritism in which case she treats the eight month old significantly different from the 3 month old. (i guess the older one looks like her ex boyfriend and so on..) she constantly leaves her foster babies with her 15 year old daughter who has obvious freedom issues. she also drops off the three month old baby with unauthorized adults. i've come to love these children with all of my heart and realize that this isn't the foster mother for either of them. my sister works for the state and would love to have these children as her own. How would i go about having these children taken?

Answer 1

Contact whatever agency placed the children with this woman, be it CPS (ACS, CYS, whatever it's called where you are) or a private agency that contracts through the state. Talk with the caseworker or supervisor about what is going on at the home. A 15 year old could watch the children for short time periods (like any babysitter), but two young babies is a lot for this girl to handle and the foster mother or other appropriate adult should be providing the majority of the care. Normally when children are in foster care, all caretakers need to be approved by the Agency... with criminal and child abuse background checks. She is likely in violation if she is leaving the kids with anyone other than approved adults.

When you do call the Agency, I wouldn't say that your sister would like to have the kids with her. Then it will look like you are just calling out of spite to get the kids moved to your sister's (which I hope you're not). It sounds like you have genuine concerns for the kids, so make them known. If your sister is also a foster parent, she can contact the Agency and let them know she has openings and is willing to take children in that age range.

Answer 2

You did not give 1 good reason. The reasons you gave are all typical problems faced by any family situation.

A 8 mo old would require more time than a 3 mo.

The only acceptable thing to do is volunteer to assist in anyway you feel capable. Or step back and thank God these people are willing to take in foster children. Please put a little more thought before causing trouble for people going above and beyond the call.

If your sister would like to adopt or volunteer to foster encourage her but with you as a critic kinda scary.

Answer 3

There isn't much you can do. You can only file a complaint with the foster agency that placed the children OR with Department of Youth and Family Services.