Wow, it's amazing all the woes you hear from people about what is wrong with thier marriage. It's almost like the same story but different folk. I'm surprised that someone hasn't been able to find the key to a successful marriage, bottle it and sell it. It's a pity no one has.
Who has some tips on what it takes to make it ALL THE WAY????
I'm assuming there are enough people out there who can answer this....LOL
I'm going on 18 years myself and all I can really come up with is honesty, loyalty, tolerance and forgiveness...space to breathe, good friends and lots of laughter. Finances are often the biggest romance buster out there too...so how do you keep it from getting the best of you?
Anyone have any advice?
2007-08-11 14:16:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife and I married just for what each of us are without any unreal expectation of the other. The first and absolutely the most important thing is when you marry someone , then marry someone who is a friend already and Keep being friends!Never think , "as soon as we are married,I,ll make these changes in him/her,it just doesn't work that way. We ,my wife and I operate on the same wave length you already posted in your question and for Twenty seven happy years!
2007-08-11 14:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have been married almost all my life since I was 18 to the same man, I love him dearly and am loyal and forgiving, okay we had some ruff spots, but they weren't anything to write home about. My rules for marriage is never argue in front of people, don't discuss business in front of the children at any age, when it comes to finances, that is a strange one, we struggled with money when the children were small and I am still a tightwad, and he tells me all the time if I want it get it, but can't bring myself to do that. And romance, make time for each other, do little things to let him or her know you love them,
buy him a rose, write a message on the mirror, I personally love that one, leave him a note in his Jacket pocket another fav of mine. and don't forget to tell each other that you love him or her, and hug often and laugh hard.
2007-08-11 21:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by flannelpajamas1 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'll be with my husband 9 years next week. I don't have any friends who have been with someone as long as I have been with him. The key is all the things you've already said, honesty, understanding, love commitement, etc. If I have a problem or an opinion, I know I can talk to my husband about it and he will help me work it out. My point is that we talk to each other, share our feelings, even if we are angry. I have to say though that he is the more understanding one. I will never doubt that he loves me more than anything.
2007-08-11 21:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by cheyennepine 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You believe in God and yourself, love the two....bring a spouse into the equation, and it only gets better. I have been married for 13 years and love every minute of my marriage. Now ranted there will always be strife, it is up to the persons in any marriage just how they react to those problems. Come together as a team and no one will ever come between you and your spouse. Being jealous is no way to have any type of relationship. Find someone who you would let your grandmother meet. Forget about momma and daddy, get grandmas opinion and all will be good.
2007-08-11 21:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by bubba gumps light 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a total love; committment; trust;
support; communication, responsibility of two
people which makes them happy to be with each
other and which lays the foundation for them to
be togeather forever, how do I know , because I
and my wife have all the above and we are
happily married over 20yrs.
2007-08-11 23:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mostly the secret is tolerance and understanding and forgiveness. Sometimes you really had to turn a blind eye to your husbands stupidity. They really are all children you know. Wow congratulations on your anniversary.
2007-08-11 23:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 wonderful and happy years of marriage to my wonderful wife we have an adorable 4 year old son. I Love them Both with all my heart and soul. I know i can never do anything to ever hurt them it'd kill me to know i put them through any sort of pain and suffering.
2007-08-11 21:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by james_stailey@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No thanks...when marriage approaches I break out the cross and the holy water..
2007-08-11 21:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication, compatability, maturity, love, committment and a BIIIG sense of humor!
2007-08-11 21:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, wife an i been married for 33, going on 34,,an we both learn, if one get upset, to give them time to cool off, 2th, we never got to bed mad at each other, we settle it be fore we sleep,,,an on the bills, i dont think any one got a answer to that, but you learn to , try to get by
2007-08-11 21:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋