My theory on RELATIONSHIPS! thought please!?

Question

Its widely said or believed,that relationships in todays world are a lot better then they were 50 years.With the womens movements and people being to chose who they wanna do. And anytime you get what YOU want its always looked at as a good thing right?My question is have we really gotten better?Are really better now,then we 50 yrs ago.Yeah women are equal now,but their also cheating more.Yeah you can choose to do whatever YOU want, be with who ever want, when.But argubly that's led to of broken families and arguably a lot of selfishness within people.Have we gotten rid of the evil's or have traded evil's?I think the only difference now is YOU can do what YOU want.And as long as you get YOU want,then I guess its OK...right? Are things better or are the problems just masked under are own ego and the word "freemdom" and "choice?" What do you think? Are we better built for LOVE in todays world then we were 50 years ago?IF I'M NOT CLEAR WITH QUESTION, SORRY.

Answer 1

We were always built for love, THEN and NOW. the atmosphere may change and all the trivial surrounding details, but the important thing remains unchanged: We need love and we can love. there are just more people now so more things happen to more relationships. freedom and choice have always existed even in the past, women had always had a choice, whether they knew it or not. and men and women have cheated then as well as now. we just knew less about it then for lack of media and means of communications, but i'm sure the bad happened everywhere just as the good did. the thing with relationships is, do you know what you want? are you aware of what your partner wants? are they the same things? if not, how far are you both willing to compromise?
but love is possible, just as then as it now. it does not matter who you are, just whether you are willing to love ... or not.

Answer 2

A very good question and a shrewd observation. I don't think things are any better than they were 50 years ago, they are just different. Greater freedom of choice doesn't necessarily mean more choices. I have the choice to choose any girl in the world, but I'm still likely to be attracted to someone I meet on a regular basis, so that limits my choice to my geographical region. Also, freedom of choice doesn't bring with it the ability to choose better, people who chose well in the past had successful relationships, those who didn't led miserable lives, that is just as true today. The only way in which things are better is that people in abusive relationships now have not just the socially and legally accepted right to walk out, but also the financial independence to do it. Well, to a certain extent anyway.

Answer 3

I don't know that things are any worse these days with relationships. We just have more access to information. Granted the divorce rate has gone from about 20% to 50% in the last 50 years, but that could be attributable to women sticking up for themselves and choosing divorce over a workaholic, alcoholic, drug abuser, psychical abuser or cheating husband. I think women want - and deserve - more than staying home being June Cleaver.
Divorce wasn't always an option 50 years ago because women were not educated and couldn't find jobs that would pay a wage decent enough to support herself and her children.
I disagree with HOT, I don't think the communication was any better between couples 50 years ago than it is now. My grandparents were married nearly 60 years, and you could just sense the wall between them. I think they stayed together because it was "the thing to do".
I grew up in the 50's and 60's so I've seen unhappy marriages both in my family and with friends families first hand.

Answer 4

WORSE....... even though Im in a very very strong healthy faithful relationship and have a great family....there are only so few others that I know that have the same or similiar situation....these days your right not many stay faithful thats so clear ...and there is so much family break ups....and violence...people just dont seem to be as respectful any more ....but you knwo what ....you cant change the world thats just the way society is and yes getting worse...... but youhave to remember also there are those who still live like the old fashion days with morales.

Answer 5

I think the basic difference is honesty, more people are honest with who they are and what they want, now, whether that leads to happiness depends on who you are talking to.

I think 50 years ago, people weren't honest with themselves, they put on a face for the sake of marriage and society, but lived their lives with lots of regrets, and that is also not a good way to live.

I believe people have always cheated and done whatever they wanted to do to a certain extent, but their rationalization of it was different.

I think nowadays is better, because the search for true happiness is just that, a search, and it may take a few relationships to find out exactly what you want.

Answer 6

Sounds warm, yet not all and sundry could agree... a theory is a step before a regulation, and a regulation is something it somewhat is genuine in all events, and that i'm specific that some women human beings could say that, "a million relationship would desire to not contain 3 human beings till 2 of them are men and that i'm the female.. OR all of them are men and that i'm an observer." See? reliable try, in spite of the incontrovertible fact that. :D

Answer 7

like men don't cheat!!!??!! i do not think we are better now and whoever believes that must be nuts.50 % of marriages end up in divorce and the cause for this is,disrespect and selfishness.men should honor their wives,and make good wise decisions for their families.women should let their husbands do what they must to get the family where they need to be.in my mind,obey does not mean,no,you cant watch tv or no,you cant go out with the girls.obey to me is trusting your husband to make the right choices for the good of the family.not for him not for us....we live in a very very selfish immoral world....back then,men acually did care about their families,and women did respect their husband and the way he chose to provide.in my opinion,we are all doing a pretty sucky job.NOW not THEN

Answer 8

You are so right !!!!!!!!! I often wonder that myself !!!!!! I think love was better off 50 years ago. Lets face it couples had no choice but to communicate back then. That is what leads to alot of failed relationships these days and times is the lack of communication between the 2 people involved !!!

Answer 9

i think that the whole women moving out of the home and into the work place perm has led to a huge decline in our society. i mean.. how many men from the wally and beaver cleaver era spit on the flag? our young men are growing up in a society of loose women and creating a race of unloved people. there are more unwanted pregnancy's and social diseases than ever before. the level of respect in and out of the home is in a grievous state and the lack of respect and service for our very own country is so lacking its just ridiculous. it astounds me just how many young women can not cook. we now live in a society of helpless young women in which that it is a unique quality if they can sew. why? women moved out of the home and into the work place..leaving children unloved and neglected and then those children turned around and did the same to theirs. the down fall of a nation in a nut shell! i am one of the of only three i know of young women that can cook, clean, sew, and love her husband who is serving over seas with the U.S. Army in Iraq right now. i am 21 and proud of these qualities i have. but i also can manage our funds and do yard work. i can do it all while he is away. just like my forebears through the many wars this nation has seen. unfortunately.. i don't know many more.

Answer 10

I m sorry to be the one to tell you this, but it hasn't changed...People were doing the same thing then, only it was tolerated...They were still doing what they wanted, when they wanted...
Now people are out about things and we tend not to tolerate...We also tend to end relationships rather then spend a relationship in h*ll.
We live now, not as prisoners, but free thinking human beings...