Sounds like an odd question, but you really have to wonder. There are so many women out there who think it's great when a man is loud, abrasive, bullying, self-absorbed, and crude. A lot of women see such a man as "confident" because he "does whatever he wants to".
On the other hand, a healthy, intelligent, respectful man is seen as being "boring" and "too nice".
The real kicker is that it's smart, successful, businesswomen who love the obnoxious men.
Why is that?
2007-08-11 13:39:13 · 41 answers · asked by Miles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Andrew Dice Clay right??? Is this you?? It is isn't it!!!!
2007-08-11 13:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by madison134 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm guessing it's the personality type, not the intelligence factor that draws these "business type" women to the obnoxious men. I personally, will accept nothing but a respectful and intelligent man. My husband is both, and I have never met a man who even remotely compares. I see the abrasive, self-indulged bully as nothing more than a helpless coward who had to frighten everyone else away to preserve himself and his fragile eggshell mind from the world he can't possibly compete with otherwise. I may be in the minority among women on that opinion, but I know that my nights are spent with a man who treats me right and can hold his own in intelligent discussion at the dinner table, so I am very happy with my point of view.
2007-08-11 13:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by Irish 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where are you seeing all these women who "think it's great when a man is loud, abrasive, bullying, self-absorbed, and crude"??? Are you watching too much TV??
Because I am a successful, intelligent woman who would find the above-mentioned person a total a$$!
If those are the kind of women you're meeting, you need to hold out for a woman who really appreciates the intelligent and respectful man that you are.
Good luck.... :)
2007-08-11 13:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Huh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does.
I walk away from the loud, abrasive, bullying and self-absorbed types as they are so full of themselves that they've no genuine love left for anyone else. The women who go after these guys see them as a challenge...something wild for them to tame...not smart and successful, just silly girls on a power trip.
Healthy, intelligent and respectful men always get my vote and my time. They are nice and a pleasure to be with. We all get enough stress in the big bad world without coming home to it.
I'd rather make love to a man who genuinely cared for me, any day of the week.
2007-08-11 13:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came from the old school where respect goes a long way. I won't stand my man yelling, being rough or disrespectful. I would walk out. My husband is very sweet,
treats me like a lady, and has never raised a hand. On the other hand, I respect him the same. We've never had a big fight--we have bickered back and forth a little, but never a big fight. We love and respect each other too much for that. That's why we've been married 24 years.
2007-08-11 13:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by angel_nurse82 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's only for some people. If you're loud and abrasive, you most likely know that you are mean and wouldn't want to date someone like yourself, so you go for the opposite. And for the "nice guys' part, maybe those guys are looking at the wrong people, such as superficial people who would get bored with a nice guy if he isn't loud or mean.
2007-08-11 13:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by akd_0713 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The question arises from a set of false appearances. The first false appearance is that women like men who are self-absorbed, crude and so on BECAUSE they are self-absorbed, crude and so on. Let's call this set of characteristics the CRUDENESS SET. The second one is that women think that respectful men are too nice BECAUSE they are respectful. Let's call this set of characteristics the RESPECT SET.
Women think it's great of a man to know what he wants and who confidently focuses his thoughts and actions on getting it. Let's call that the GREAT CRITERION. They also think that men who do the same things every day, with no emotional content, and with no spontaneity, are boring. Let's call that the BORING CRITERION.
It so happens that in many cases men who meet the GREAT CRITERION also manifest the CRUDE SET, and that many men who meet the BORING CRITERION also manifest the RESPECT SET. This explains a lot of it right there.
Looking at it more closely then, the CRUDE SET and the RESPECT SET are not necessarily mutually exclusive. A man can be self-absorbed and respectful at the same time. It depends on how it's done, and over what things. None of these classifications are mutually exclusive. A respectful and intelligent man will be liked by women if he is also self confident, even self absorbed and downright crude at times, and even more so if he has a streak of spontaneity about him.
2007-08-11 14:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Theron Q. Ramacharaka Panchadasi 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
A lot of people have dysfunctional relationships - that's true. But I have to disagree that smart, attractive, succlessful women go for the obnoxious jerks all the time. I can't stand obnoxious people of either gender frankly.
In my opinion the healthy, intelligent, respectful guy is much more of a winner all around. In the board-room as well as the bed room!
2007-08-11 13:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by Barb B 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it does matter. We go home at night with the man who treats us with respect, & laugh, with him, at the loud, abrasive man that is too stupid to get it. Such as, the man who answered this question with "Treat a woman with respect, & expect to get laid" Just because we go home with you doesn't mean either one of us will get laid. It means we will give you the chance to earn it. From the woman who respects herself enough, & who is confident enough to let you try. We can always change our mind. AND, So can you.
2007-08-11 13:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, it matters to me if my man is respectful. I don't know how women can stand to be with men that you described as being: loud, bullying, self-absorbed, crude, abrasive, etc.
When I see one of these @ssholes out in public, I want to punch him in the face and ask the woman what the h*ll is wrong with her.
I am inclined to think that these women watched their fathers treat their mothers this way OR they feel that's the best they can get...and they settle. Regardless of the reason, it's sad and unacceptable.
I, for one, find my hubby to be wonderful and caring....if that makes him boring, then so be it!
2007-08-11 13:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yea but the piont is she maybe into the obnoxious guy now but in the end she will want to settle down with the guy who treats her with the respect of an equal.
the key is to be a balance between the to extremes be both confident and obnoxious and wateva else at the right times, but also show her respect wen the time calls for it.
Hope that helps.
2007-08-11 13:49:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋