I was talking to my niece this morning, she got into trouble with her mother because although she was telling the truth, it was more for teasing her mom.
Her mom is seeing one guy across town, on and off, more on than off and she tells me it's not at all serious, so she was talking on the phone with him and her daughter came into the room, proclaiming her mom was flirting with "so and so the other day on the quad in front of their apartment."
Okay, if her situation with guy #1 wasn't serious, then why did she flip out when her daughter teased her about flirting with new guy #2? After she chastised her daughter, she made up some cover story to guy #1. What's the deal?
2007-08-11 13:28:36 · 6 answers · asked by Yankee Micmac 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sounds like she doesn't want guy #1 to know about guy #2. But if neither relationship is serious, what's the problem? Mom can play the field as long as she is unattached, but may be inadvertently setting a not so good example for her daughter.
2007-08-11 13:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She flipped out because of her daughters timing. What if her daughter was on the phone and mom said that? Daughters reaction would have been the same. Moms morals aside, she is single and on again-off again doesn't sound too serious but why antagonize by saying something while she's on the phone? Some people are natural flirts and maybe mom didn't realize she was flirting with guy#2 or maybe daughter interperted just talking to the opposite sex as flirting. This is a case of putting yourself in someone else's shoes and seeing how you would feel if it were you.
2007-08-11 20:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Gabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the lady's got a serious problem she's brewing up. If she's leading guy #1 on, and she's not being honest with him about how she feels, and at the same time, flirting with someone else (is it only one other someone else?) I don't think I'd want to be in her shoes when the situation explodes (which it will if she keeps doing that). Guy #1 should wise up and move on, or, your niece's mom needs to let him know she's not ready to settle down with just one guy- maybe she enjoys having more than one or two on the string. Still, it's pretty dangerous, especially if #1 has a bad temper. I wouldn't want to be her.
2007-08-11 20:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Nancye1962 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the mom is hiding something or is not telling how serious her relationship is with #1. Maybe she is confused and was in a bad mood. It doesn't seem like she should have flipped out over her daughter teasing her, she should have laughed it off.
2007-08-11 20:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by K L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Mom is not telling the truth to her daughter, or she is not telling the truth to her daughter and the guy. Either, it is not serious, and there is another guy invovled somewhere, or else it is really serious, and she is not telling her daughter. Totally not cool on either part for the daughter.
2007-08-11 20:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by lambdapicchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i see this as a mom not wanting her daugher interfering into her personal life or personal choices. & who knows the daughter could have alot of resentment towards the mother for not staying with her biological father. maybe she needs the comfort & attetion of her moms and her father, and she may not be getting it from either. it could also be a sensative issue for the mother as well. while the mother has "2" guys, she cannot make a choice of one. second reason, 'one' guy should make you happy/fufilled. third, maybe the mother has issues of wanting her husband back and cant get him back- she feels lonely or yearns to rekindle something that can't be reclaimed. fourth, maybe the mothers intimate dealings situations or what have you with her men should be considered her business and no one elses and she doesnt need her daughter to go blabbing any type of things to anyone at any time. niece or not, it is none of anyones business what your nieces moms does. it is her business her dealings and none of anyones concerns and if it is someones concerns they have no concerns onf their own and need to focus on anothers. tell your niece evenso your niece to stop broadcasting stuff to you. if she broadcasts things to you she definately broadcasts things to others. maybe your niece needs to start dating and being in a serious or casual relationship with a guy so she can learn the meaning of privacy...
2007-08-11 20:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by i dunno 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋