do women really crave sex as much as men?(read the whole question please)?

Question

because men who crave sex are not that picky when it comes to good looks. guys are even sexually attracted to girls of below average looks. why do you think so many teenage guys fantasize about their friends' moms?

there is this woman in my martial arts class. she is somewhat chubby and she looks like she is in her early or mid 30s, but i think she is so hot. she has pretty eyes and the way she looks at me is just sexy. girls, on the other hand, always focus on a guy's negative features. that is why they are only attracted to a really small percentage of guys. so is it really fair to say that women crave sex as much as men do?

and don't start going on about how you have have a boyfriend who is of below average looks, but you think he's hot, because that's only because you have feeling for him. i'm talking about guys you think are sexually attractive.

Saja you are missing my point and you are COMPLETELY misunderstanding me. i am anything but shallow and i am not perverted.

i never said women in their 30s who are a bit chubby would not be hot. i am saying that they ARE hot. and a lot of guys probably agree. but WOMEN do not find men in their 30s who are slightly chubby attractive even if they have pretty eyes.

AND NO I DO NOT HAVE A NARROW MINDED OPINION OF WHAT IS ATTRACTIVE. your answer fails automatically just for saying that. as i've said before i find all kinds of women attractive. there are very few women i don't find attractive. and i actually don't know many women who don't have a narrow minded definiteion of attractiveness. most women even admit they only find 10% of guys attractive. and no, i don't care what some stupid movie has to say, because what i'm saying is based on reality.

and as for the whole 'leave her alone' crap. what the hell makes you think i'm harassing her? she doesn't even know i think she's hot. i never said anything about wanting to have sex with her. actually it's pretty inappropriate for someone her age to be having sex with someone my age, but you probably disagree because any guy you'd be interested in doing is probably around my age. and just to let you know you're probably 100 times shallower than i am. most women are. i am not the least bit shallow.

and when did i say i consider her below my standards? i guarantee she considers me below her standards. why the hell would she wanna hook up with me? women only wanna hook up with the really hot guys, which i am not.

as you can see, you've COMPLETELY misjudged me and you must feel really stupid right now. maybe next time you'll think before you post a completely rude and insulting answer without even understanding the question.

Answer 1

1. Women are INDIVIDUALS. You have to get to know us one by one to discover if we crave sex as much as men. Oh and by the way...men are individuals, too. Not all men crave sex equally.

2. Below average looks according to whom? Do you really believe everyone has the same opinion of what constitutes below average looks, or above average looks? People are INDIVIDUALS and their opinions of beauty are individual.

3. Why would somewhat chubby, early to mid 30s, with pretty eyes NOT be hot? Are only women who look like Barbie dolls hot? Hmmm.

4. Girls, like boys, yourself included, often have a very narrow, media-influenced opinion of what constitutes attractiveness. This tends to expand and change as girls and boys mature.

5. Please leave the woman in your martial arts class alone. She is there to do martial arts, not to serve your fantasies. She deserves someone far less shallow than you, who obviously only want to have sex with her.

6. On the other hand, maybe it would do you good to be used by her...maybe she just wants a quick hookup with you and otherwise considers YOU to be below HER standards. Reality check time!

7. Argh! Rent the movie Shallow Hal and take notes.

Answer 2

Sexuality is an individual experience. My sister has been married for a few years and has no sexual cravings. My parents are both equally sexual. I have more cravings then my husband does. I'm lucky if he feels like it once a week.
As far as attraction goes, I was just looking for someone at about the same level as me that I could actually carry on a conversation with. I was looking for more then just a sexual partner though. If I was just looking for a sexual partner, I would've looked for someone a lot hotter. Why? Because I know that many guys want just sex and that alone changes the scope of the playing field. I have no doubt that it would take me less then 15 minutes to pick up a one night stand at a bar. But, serious relationships are a lot harder to come by. Many girls I knew were willing to consider less attractive guys with more appealing attributes for long term relationships.

Answer 3

You must be kidding!! Most beautiful women marry men of average to below average looks. Most good-looking guys are homos or priests. But men, on the other hand, have to have a good looking girl whether or not they are hot (the men that is)
However it is also true that men crave sex more than women and maybe that is why the woman has to be hot whereas women look for interior qualities and that is why he can look just ok as long as he has those good qualities.

Answer 4

Women, at least in our culture, do tend to be pickier about our sexual partners than men are. I have no idea whether this is cultural or biological, and anyone saying one way or another is basically just guessing. At any rate, that has nothing to do with how high of a sex drive women have compared to men. I'm pretty picky about who I'll sleep with, but when I do find a partner, I'm usually the one with the higher sex drive. Not every partnership is like that, but I'm hardly unique.

Answer 5

Total myth that women don't crave sex. Heck if only guys knew what women get up to, but we're too modest to say so.
Anyway, it's not so much how a mans looks, but the way he smells.
Some guys smell absolutely irrisistable, wonder what their secret is?

Answer 6

women crave sex. i am not sure as much as men though. i think men crave it more, personal opinion.
i being one when fell in love with my boyfriend, didn't base the love from looks at all. it was 100% reaction from his soul, his kindness, his tenderness, how he treated me, how he makes me the center of attention, what he gears towards my way, how he makes time for me when he has none, the simplistic small things he does that mean more than a richters scales love, the way he says he loves me, the way he holds me, the way he kisses me, the way he touches me, the way he bosts to other men about me, his charm, his aura, his soul, his sweet masculine voice, his openness, his honesty, his family man genre, so all this caught me even before i started to go into his looks. it is the beauty i find within him and within his insides. he is so atractive inside that it bursts forth and exudes all the special attractiveness that is displayed on his exterior and what is visually seen. i crave sex, i am a woman, i am human. all men, all women crave sex, just on different levels. you think this 30 year old woman is hot. did you ever stop to think that she may be hot because you saw her insides first? =)

Answer 7

When it comes to casual sex and deciding which guy sexually turns a woman on, I think looks do matter for a lot of women. I'm sure a lot of females would be willing to have a safe, one night stand with a gorgeous celebrity, but they wouldn't be so quick to have casual sex with fat, 55 year old man offering it. Even the most promiscuous females are picky about their casual sex partners.

Like you said, a lot of women enjoy having sex with their average looking boyfriends because they have fallen in love with these men's personalities.


When it comes thinking about sex and liking it, women can be just as sexual and horny BUT they won't do just anyone. I'm a female who has no problem with casual sex and hook-ups, but I don't sleep with anyone asking me for it. When I was single, I only did stuff with guys who I found sexually attractive. Guys used to get mad at me for turning them down because they would think that all girls who are into casual sex with sleep with anybody, but it's not true.

Answer 8

It's survival of the species. The whole point of sex is a baser instinct to pro-create, right? Men are the "suppliers" as well as the "pursuers" in most cases. And women have a natural instinct to make themselves as attractive as possible to the male species, and why? Sex.
Women think about sex just as much, I just think they're not as flamboyant (most of the time) about it. Or, better yet, it's not as socially acceptable to be so "out there" with the instinct. It's mainly a question of what's socially acceptable.
You're attracted to this woman bc she's sexually compatible with you on a base level. The fact that you say she's chubby and in he mid-30's is just your way of saying that it might not be socially acceptable for you to be attracted to her, but you are. It's your instincts that drive you to be attracted to her. Social acceptability comes second to that.
Good luck!! :-)

Answer 9

Actually, women do enjoy and want sex as much as men do. To say that men want sex more is a myth. I think the reason we don't "go after" it as much is because of morally conditioned social restraints...we don't want to be labeled as "sluts." Men seem to have more sexual freedom, are judged less for their sexual exploits than women are. Society teaches women from an early age to oppress their sexual urges or face being looked down on by both genders...it's unfair, if you ask me. It's a double standard. But I think that's the answer to your question.

Answer 10

Beauty (and sexuality) are both in the eye of the beholder. What that expression means is that everyone has his or her idea of beauty and sex appeal. Not every man has to look like a movie star in order to be attractive to women. And not every woman has to be another Jennifer Lopez. I believe that sexual attraction is pretty much equal for both genders, except that women may be a little more discriminating about choosing a sex partner, as they have more at stake to consider, such as pregnancy. We are, after all, the mothers of the human race. Sex to us is more than just a roll in the hay. It's more about creating and nurturing life.