My women and I are breaking up but she keeps telling me she is so done with me... over and over again but still talks to me and argues with me. And then sometimes she is real sweet to me and says good night... What is going through her head? Is she really done with me or does she want to work it out? It seems like if she was done with me, she would not talk to me.
2007-08-11 10:36:29 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She probabaly DOES want you but there is probably something that she wants you to change. LISTEN to what you two fight about, really LISTEN to what she's saying and then try YOUR BEST to meet her half way.It's not worth it to keep breaking up and fighting if your problems can be talked out.That's how people say things they don't mean.But there isn't ANYTHING that LOVE cannot overcome.Ya'll get it together. life is too short.
2007-08-11 10:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not over you, but she IS looking for attention. DO NOT give her that kind of negative attention. Tell her that you will speak to her later. Don't argue with her.
If she feels like you are ignoring her, then she will come up with a way to be nice all the time. It's a learned behavior. Don't give in to her because she is learning to manipulate you. If you don't let her do that, she will stop.
She can either stay and work out her issues or she can go. What do you really want??? You talk about what she is doing, but don't mention if you want her or not.
If you want to stay together, then take my advice above. If you don't are you're just wondering why she acts that way - the cut it off.
2007-08-11 17:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by Know it all 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is telling you she's done with you, then she's done. Being nice to you is simply that... being nice. Being nice doesn't mean anything, other than the fact that women always want to stay friends after a break-up. We don't like to fail, and if she feels like things are still "good" between you after a break-up, even if the relationship can't be salvaged, then she can feel better about letting you go. The best thing to do is to let her know that being friends isn't working out, and then you have to distance yourself from her and make a clean break.
2007-08-11 18:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two aren't through with each other by a long shot so quit the kidding around. She is only bugging you because she wants some kind of attention from you. So give her some real rough and tumble hard core physical interaction that she is badly craving so as to sooth the raging beast that is running rampant inside her skull. That will work things out for the both of you; stop the senseless bickering and reach a whole new level of understanding too!
2007-08-11 17:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to punish you for whatever reason. Perhaps she is just an unhappy little vixen.. in any event why do you allow it? If she is done and continues to poke at you.. STOP giving her the opportunity... unless you enjoy being treated poorly. If she is really hot and therefore you feel she has the right to treat you poorly then perhaps you need to get some guts and step away from Ms. Toxic.
I am always amazed at what some men will tolerate from women they find hot.
If the 2 of you live together.. one of you needs to move.. depending on the ownership of the house or names on the lease.. you need to take some steps to separating. Do not allow ANYONE to treat you this way.
Trust me.. it will never get better.
I wish you well!
2007-08-11 17:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by 343 Remember 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mix logic with emotions, that will drive you nuts. Conflict has an emotional reward just as much as a pleasing experience. Some people gravitate towards conflict because that's all they know. The question is: do you want continued conflict? Or would you prefer to find someone who is more pleasant to be around? It's your choice. Next time you argue with her, diffuse it, avoid, or altogether walk away from it. You don't need it, and if she is addicted to the conflict, she'll seek it somewhere else.
2007-08-11 17:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by Christian Blake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a hidden message in there. She obviously wants to argue with you about something to make it alright. Whatever the argument is about - you may have to make up your mind - either you will talk it out or you have to be done with her. If you love her, start talking. If not, be done and move on and let her play her games with someone else.
2007-08-11 17:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by Rita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably done with you but maybe you have something she needs--money, sex, her pet, I don't know--and she's afraid if she's not nice sometimes she won't get it (back). It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship anyway, so break it off and move on. Women like that are psycho and have more issues than you are probably prepared to solve. Don't chalk it up to not understanding the opposite sex, we're different, but not polar opposites. Speaking of polar though... maybe she's bi-polar...hence the jekyl and hyde routine with you...?
2007-08-11 17:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not sure if she's done. I suspect, when she "argues" with you she is bringing up things that bother her about the relationship. She is seeing if you will say the things that are going to make her feel better about possibly staying in the relationship.
2007-08-11 17:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by Natalie O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds confusing. I would just break it off with her. if she calls don't pick up. If for some reason you do be straight with her and tell her that she said that it is over and you agree with that. tell her that you are tired of the head games mentally and physically. And if it is over to stop wasting your time and hers.
2007-08-11 17:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by tigarlilly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋