wot should we do?

Question

my girlfriend accidently got pregnant [cuz the condom broke] at 1st she didnt no then was being sick so she went to the doctor and the doctor told her that she is 8 weeks pregnant. we dont no wot to do. we want the baby but we r both 15 and still in school

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we are not having an abortion and we have talked to our parents..they are really angry but accept it..and also we can have sex it wasnt our fault that the condom broke

Answer 1

just be there for each other and do everything you can right good luck and screw the people who say abortion

Answer 2

Well a bit daft saying that you shouldn't have had sex - sort of bolting the door once the horse has bolted. Anyway, find an adult who you can confide in and get some advice and talk through your options with your doctor. It's a big decision to have a baby and it's no walk in the park ( I have had 3), but if you want to keep the baby you must see how this is going to affect you too - kids cost loads, and neither of you are old enough to support a child by getting a full time job. You also have to rely on your parents to offer you the love,care, support and possibly financial help. Talk it through with your parents. You must also think about how the child will be affected in thr future should you decide to go ahead. It throws up many questions.

good Luck whatever you decide

Answer 3

She should get assigned a specialised midwife who deals with teenage pregnancies.
Then you'll get classes and regular check ups.
Your parents should notify the school so that they can make allowances for time off.
The midwife should tell you what happens from then on.

How do I know this?
I'm 14 and pregnant myself.

DO NOT listen to the people who tell you to put it up for adoption. Having a baby is the most beautiful thing in the world. Although you have an added complication, your lives are not going to be hell if you keep your baby. I am keeping mine. I know that I can finish high school with the help of my parents and there are so many types of benefits you can claim, childcare won't be a problem if both your parents work.
By the time you want to go to Uni, your child will be 3 or 4 - an easy age to work with. Most universities have special nurseries created for the benefits of people like yourselves. They enable you to continue studying whilst looking after a child. Alternatively, there are open universities which mail course instructions to your house, enabling you to work from home.
Another bonus is that universities have cheaper food and other basic necesseties so if money is tight, it can still stretch a long way.

You will still be able to complete your education and then go on to get a good job.
Most people have no option but to work when they have their babies because they need the constant source of income to pay for bills. They probably suffer more than you will. Because you live at home, I assume your bills are paid and therefore money will not be a worry to you for several years.

Your girlfriend will probably take between 8-16 weeks off school after the birth of your child so she will have to work from home during that time.
Other than that, you can lead a perfectly normal life.

Congratulations and Good luck.

Answer 4

Think seriously and carefully about the commitments a baby brings a baby means no more education until it's grown up which means hard work and little money, strain on relationships , lack of sleep. Talk to your parents after all they know what having a child is like. There are several options for you and gaining support of your family will help with any decision you make.

Make sure you are protected next time, get her on the pill or similar and if an accident happens there is always the morning after pill.

Answer 5

ok first of all you need to accept your responsibilitys. i was pregnant at fifteen and my father ignored me for the majority of my pregnancy..however i stayed at school and passed all of my exams and then took a year off to look after my baby. it is difficult, but you just live with it. you adapt your life around them after a while, and it becomes second nature. you need to let your parents know because they can help you through this if you keep them well informed. if you decide to have an abortion well thats your call...but just take a second to think abotu all of the woman who would give anything yo have a beautiful baby. if you honestly dont want the baby then i think you should consider adoption. Good luck x

Answer 6

Awww man this is bad! I would hate to be in your position, but you have to think about what is best for you two and also for the baby! Obviously at the moment priority for you will be GCSE's and you have to think wether the baby will get the care it needs, so if either of your parents would be willing to help out with the baby. In the long term, you have to think when you are older and all of your mates are going out at weekends and you have to stay in to look after it or pay for a babysitter, can you really handle the responsibility and the commitment??!!

Answer 7

yous r pretty young....Bt sounds like uve thot abot it n u done the sensible thing by telling ur parents...WELL DONE

Yous need 2 think abot what us want now and in the future,Yous r the ones that need 2 decide..Remember there r options out there You could always have the baby n c how u manage n feel theres help oot there 4 young parents n support groups...
Bt truthfully think abot what u want in ur future ie College etc
Dont listen 2 ppl being negative mistakes do happen n were not all innocent...TRY TYPING IN YOUNG PARENTS IN GOOGLE u mite find chat rooms or info

Good luck n if u need 2 talk im here

Answer 8

Please consider adoption. You will have to talk to your parents, I hope they are open-minded and realistic. Most people in this country are sexually active by 15 these days, anyone who says that's not true is in denial, so don't let these jerks make you feel bad.

There are LOTS of loving, kind people out there who can't have a baby and you could change their lives in an immensely positive way by giving them the gift of a child.

But.. I really hope that you realize that the IDEA of a baby is much diferent than the reality of one. You have way too much to see and do still to already be giving up your own lives to give a baby the constant attention and care it needs and deserves. You're TOO young.

Good luck to you, guys. {hug}

~J

Answer 9

Its a hard one, trust me Ive been there, but youve made your bed and now you lie in it. Sounds like you and your girlfriend need to get after school jobs. Its a hard road but if you choose to you can make it work. I was 15 when I got pregnant. Thank God my boyfriend was a good guy, we did get married 4 days after my 16th birthday and a month later we had a beautiful baby girl. That was 7 years ago, it hasnt been easy by any means but weve chosen to make it work.

Answer 10

well you can have the baby and then return to your study,, social; services offer support and advice for young adults.. go to the docs together show them your in this as a couple its your right. Parents should be told and hope they will support you both in your decision also ..good luck hun x

Answer 11

It happens a lot.........you are not the first nor will you be the last teenager to deal with this situation. THE MAIN THING you need right now is "family" support --- talk to your FAMILY -- not strangers about this. Everyone always thinks their parents are going to "kill" them but that is not true. Your lives are going to change drastically -- more than you can imagine. Good luck.