I have 2 kids already from a prior relationship and the father treated me like crap and it ended with him being abusive. I left. I found this really great guy who accepted me and my two kids with no problem. I have so many symptoms of early pregnancy and i just know I'm pregnant, about 90% sure. i told my bf and atfirst, he admitted he was scared. Now, he wrote me this email (I am in NC helpin my mom atm, not home) saying that he wishes I would get an abortion and I dont believe in them. I told him this from the get go. He said if i don't he knows he has no choice in the matter and that makes him a little mad. Says he isnt ready for a kid and wishes I would do this. I dont know. I need advice. Is he even worth it? Or should I just move on? Someone help please before I freakin lose it... Any guys advice?
2007-08-11 09:49:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Dear Friend, You can get support and information at a pregnancy resource center, which you can find by googling optionline, or call 1800afamily. Please take good care of yourself and your baby. As far as this guy goes, the way he's acting now, lose him, but don't forget, he should pay child support. If he comes around and steps up to the plate as a man should, and truly acts as a good Father, that would be a different story. Under no circumstances let him convince you to have an abortion. Women do regret abortion. If he insists on talking about abortion, please get as far away from him as possible. Sincerely, Runner
2007-08-11 16:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he's worth it or not doesn't matter. You have an unplanned baby on the way. If you've already made up your mind that you're having the child concentrate on what's important now - start preparing for your baby. You also need to plan for yourself. It is obvious that you are a very fertile woman. Get yourself some birthcontrol, so that this doesn't occur a fourth time.
2007-08-11 09:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay with a guy that wants you to get an abortion. I would say move on and don't waist your time with it. It sucks that you will get stuck raising 3 kids on your own, but better a lone then with someone that didn't want the baby in the first place.
2007-08-11 09:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lovemykids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bad situation. All you can do is continue to learn from these situations, and be a better judge of character in the future. If he wrote you that he's not a real man. Just keep track of him for child support purposes.
2007-08-11 09:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Nerds Rule! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is having a committment issue. It was probaly easier for him to handle your other kids because there are no strings attached. I say have the baby and let him get over it, whether it be not being there for the baby and paying child support or warming up to her and loving her. You can always meet someone else and let him live with the fact that his child his calling someone else daddy. I dont think that you having different fathers for your children is totally bad....its 2007!!! All that matters is that you care for and love all of your children the same.
2007-08-11 10:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by no_napps 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you don't beleive in abortion, then DON'T do it, especcially for some guy, I'm sure it will eat at you, and you'll be the one who will have to deal with the guilt and greif for the rest of your life.
As for the guy, I don't really know what to say, as much as I hate to say it, you can't force him into the baby's life. He may turn around with time and want to be part of his/her life, but if not at least make sure he pays child support, he shouldn't be let off the hook so easily.
2007-08-11 09:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 words: Child Support
2007-08-11 09:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u didnt abort your other children so why abort this one?? FOR A GUY, U "THOUGHT" LOVED YOU! if he really loved you, he would be happy that ur having his 1st child. but instead he wants you to get rid of it!! omg! he takes your other children in that ARENT his, but wants you to get rid of the child that IS his!!! he's so stupid and dumb!! omg he's totally not worth it! forget his dumbass!!! you left the other guy and found someone new..who says you cant do it again
2007-08-11 10:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by sfhlkd s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only worth keeping track of for child support purposes.
2007-08-11 09:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already answered your own question. Put the baby first. I have no idea why this guy would be okay with your other children, but want to kill his own? He sounds really inconsistent and unreliable to me.
2007-08-11 09:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋