my husband is taken sides he rather have his friendship with some chic then have his wife. Is this right. how many people say a friendship that a wife doesn't agree with should end.
2007-08-11 09:46:25 · 8 answers · asked by cheerbear2500 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he told me these exact quote " i'm not going to drop a 10 yr friednship for you". that hurt a lot.
2007-08-12 07:47:06 · update #1
Ok, Dr Phil did a show on this a week ago too...he said that if the friendship is not welcomed by a spouse, then the other spouse should take that into consideration and stop the friendship because, and this I whole heartidly agree with...the marriage is a bond that should be mutual with mutual trust and no one should be allowed to break that bond...if u feel this strongly about the friendship ending, and i'm sure u have ur reasons that u haven't spoken of here, then he should respect ur wishes...HOWEVER, remember the shoe can also fall on the other foot...r u willing 2 lose a friendship u may have if he asks u 2???
Good luck and GOD bless
2007-08-11 10:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get married, your spouse is supposed to be #1 in your life. Over EVERYONE. That's the part that says you will forsake all others. I believe that a person has a right to choose his/her friends, but when it comes to opposite sex friends, that becomes a little trickier. I would need to know more. I'm curious as to why they can't stay friends if they have been for the past 10 years, and presumably the whole time you were dating too. Did something happen, or are you just trying to make him prove his devotion to you? If it's a really close friendship, it may make me uncomfortable, but if they only talk every few weeks, I wouldn't personally have an issue, unless I felt a vibe beyond friendship was between them. If I felt that vibe and I asked my husband to let her go and he wouldn't, then my suspicions would be confirmed.
2007-08-11 17:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't think your husband should have a friendship with another woman if you are not also friends with her. I guess maybe I am old fashioned in this...but if my husband took the side of another girl over me I would be very upset about it. Did he actually tell you that if he had to take sides, he would choose the friendship over his marriage to you? This is not a good sign if so, and if you want the relationship to work perhaps your best bet would be to seek marriage counselling.
2007-08-12 00:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Allison H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
something fishy is going on here. He's choosing this friend over his wife...there might be alot more to this so called "friendship" then both of they lead on...I say let him choose his friend your better off without him if he's stupid enough to throw away a marriage for some friend. your wife/husband should always put you first before friends and when they don't it's time to move on
2007-08-11 16:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that would depend on why the wife wants the friendship to end. Is it purely jealousy, or is there a concrete reason to suspect something?
2007-08-11 16:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if u can't accept it he should respect it that if he really loves u it ll be hard for him but if it ll stress both sides it's better to end it . but the advice that i want to give is let him feel that he is free and can do what ever and have any friendship coz that is really important for him to feel no one like to feel that he is trapped !!
2007-08-11 16:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's not right, it should end, it's my opinion but if you think about it...it's just not right
2007-08-11 16:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet <3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be P/O!!!! You come first not her.
2007-08-11 16:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋