Did you do something wrong?

Question

Anger is the experience of believing that someone did something wrong? We then have the choice to experience anger for the duration of our lives, or the end the judgment of other's actions.

Guilt is the experience of believing that we have done something wrong. We can choose a lifetime of guilt, or end the judgment about our actions.

Answer 1

yeah?.... no?.... uuuhm... OK... :)

Answer 2

in most cases you may be right, it is though, incredibly hard for most people to accept what has happened, why it has happened, and how they legitimately should deal with their current situation. Say someone accidental trips another person, the person who was tripped, will generally resort to anger, because they firstly, feel invaded, secondly, they feel immediately self conscious (they think that others around them will have seen them, and will be laughing, this is demeaning at the best of times, but when its not even your fault, it is worse) , and embarrassed, and thirdly, this is a natural reaction . The assailant, as they see it, has attacked them, for no reason and they will be, understandably annoyed.
If the 'assailant' says their sorry, (not a natural reaction, just basic etiquette) the 'victim' may accept their apology, and walk on if not, a confrentation will probably ensue. The 'victim' might walk away victorious, and later wonder if they were tripped on purpose, then wonder if it was an accident, then feel guilty, if they have any kind of concience. This being the case, what you say is true, but it is hard to live with or without emotion. for example, love. Love is an emotion, it can be the best experience of your life, and yet, somtimes the worst. if you live with the person you love for many years, then divorce, a rift will appear, ripping your life in two. sadness, anger, guilt, depression... These only basics to a much greater web of feelings. On the other hand, you could spend eternity eith the one you love, and be forever happy, together. as you see, without emotion, we are not whole.

Answer 3

Actually, anger is the product of frustration. Frustration is not necessarily born of someone doing something wrong - i.e. having ill health can be the cause of frustration. For that matter, if channelled in the right direction, anger can be a very productive emotion. It causes us to act. For instance, if you had a disability, anger about being unable to do certain things may motivate you to invent something which helps you (and others) to do those things.

As for your theory on judging the actions of others... it's natural to do that, and unfortunately not really a choice. It's what we do with the judgements or emotions that counts. It is of concern that we often condemn a person by their worst action without considering the rest, and also that some of us let ourselves be consumed by such judgements. It is wiser to learn from a bad experience and let it go (and let the people who hurt us go, if we must).

On to judging our own actions... we should, and we should use our guilt to keep us from making the same mistake twice. It encourages us to do better and make amends for our wrongdoing. Again, it shouldn't consume us. It has to be let go at some point, and the wisdom retained.

Answer 4

Anger is not the ''experience'' of something that somoene did wrong to you, but it is '''knowing'' that someone did do something wrong to you. Not just me, but i agree with other pple here, that it is not really what you call an ''experience'', it is only ''knowing'' that your anger exists, because you have a reason to, and that too a justified one. No, in a reasonable attitude anger should not be a ''judgement'' but rather a ''reaction'' on the harm done to you, and where you have no control. Anger is not an experiment, luv, it is a feeliing you possess and you go through, and even the most timid person can go through it if injustice is done, like someone mentions here, bout rape, abuse...etc.

Guilt is something that comes with something you know you went overboard with. But guilt do not blend in with anger. You are asking two different questions here. Guilt is not a result of anger, guilt can be a result of unfaithfulness, being mean, emotional, rash....of hurting someone u luv. Guilt and anger are parellel, but.....if anger is injustified, then...yes, i agree with you guilt is the follower....for example...I do something or say something to someone i truly love and care for, out of a vulnerable moment (as in not being reasonable, drunk, drugs...or anything..where i have no control)...yes, iam guilty for being angry with pple i love...

and to your questions...yes, I did something wrong...loads of wrongs out of anger..but...for a cause, I do not feel guilty for it...sometiimes i do..but not always...and when i say ''sometiimes'' its only because i love my family..and..i succumb and say ''yes iam sorry''..

otherwise, anger and guilt have no reasons to blend..in justice....

Answer 5

So, if I get this right, a woman that is raped merely has to stop judging her attacker, and the anger will fade? Or, a child abuse victim? I don't know if you have postulated this theory, or if it is someone else's drivel, but it is ridiculous. Anger is a normal, human emotion. Why should we want to get rid of it? It helps us survive, pushes us to fight back in situations that demand it.

Guilt exists for good reason as well. It helps us to understand that our actions impact other people.

If you want to get rid of anger and guilt, why not get rid of all the human emotions? Happiness, sadness, love, etc..... Each emotion plays a part in balancing our lives. They are all important, for they make us human.

Answer 6

The biggest thing we did wrong is to come to this temporary place of suffering. Why?-Because, we are not this material body, IE; Race, color, nationality, Religion, mind, intellect, senses, job, etc. We are all eternal spirit souls, part and parcel of the Supreme Soul, also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc. We never die, only this mortal body dies.
This material world is not our real home, it is called Maya (illusion) and is temporary and full of misery, only one fourth of the souls come here, and the rest are enjoying blissful eternal loving relationships with our Maker named above. Those who are intelligent, take up the process of self realization (Bhakti Yoga) which gives one real peace, happiness and reality. Then at the end of life they can return to the eternal Kingdom where there is no more birth, death, old age, or disease and be eternally happy. Lets end this frustration and anger and guilt and go Home.
For info. Go to harekrishnatemple.com Read Bhagavad Gita- As it is by Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada asitis.com you can read it on line.

Answer 7

Not true.I decided against killing my father when he was very sick..I could have done it and gotten away with it..but didn't...I would have no guilt about that..throwing skinheads out of trains in the early 70's didn't bother me either..us or them..guilt is a consequence of anger and I will not accept any judgement from outsiders/so-called authoritity who on the same hand condone injustice,cruelty,abstract corporation connivances and repression of the poor and those who can't stand for themselves...Fu8k that,and all who buy it.LOL.

Answer 8

anger is like a match and flame: you can hold it too long and you'll get burned, you can use it to light something on fire (negative or positive), or you can blow it out and hope that there won't be embers left that will cause the flame to spring up again.

Answer 9

I haven't got that kind of power but I'll get blamed just as if I do.

Answer 10

I'm sure I did, but I can't think of it just this minute...

Answer 11

Is there a question hidden in there somewhere.