my ex left me 4 weeks ago after 6 years he is living with his suppo. to be lesbian co-worker and her girlfriend, but i know her girlfriend doesn't live there anymore! he is lying about being in love with his co-worker but i know them two are having sex. he called me today while at work (because he can't talk when he is at home or with her) telling me he might come back maybe this weekend ( i,like a fool would actually want him back, i am heartbroken and still in love with him)
why he keep calling me and should i take him back?
i am in my late 40's he is 42 i feel like my live is ending and i am on a f...emotional rollercoaster.
2007-08-11 09:19:53 · 9 answers · asked by maria s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, I am appalled at the harshness of some of these replies. Either these "quick to judge experts" never went through what you are going through or they are just plain naive. As your broken heart portrays in your question, it is not a simple matter of handling it one way or another -- relationships are complicated. PERIOD.
Suppose he is guilt-ridden and remorseful for being a jerk. Maybe when the "infatuation" (read: new sex) calmed down, the six years of personal memories and tender moments built with you kicked in ... who knows? Or he could be playing you?
Either way, go slow. If he wants to talk or suggests trying to fix things, tell him it will take work on both your parts. Get him to agree to counseling and then you will meet on neutral ground. Please avoid -- what many of us have been through -- the one night stand disguised as a kiss and make-up session. This is no simple fight or sudden nasty exchange of words. Do not let him WOW you as you may open up the wound bigger than ever and your own self esteem is also damaged.
He is in the wrong. But like all relationships, it is never 100 percent one sided and maybe a good marriage counsellor can help build a new bridge for both of you and salvage an investment of six years. I would love to offer a shoulder to cry on or a helping hand. It is tough and you do not deserve it.
2007-08-11 16:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by Lynnie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure he's coming back it sounds like he's feeling you out for his own ego boost. Don't give him the time of day if he's living with another woman already he isn't worth your time. After 6 years it only takes him acouple weeks to move on??? He sounds like an asshole!! Tell him off and find a guy who's not a jerk!
2007-08-11 09:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants you back as his "jerk in reserve." And if you take the guy back, for sure you are the jerk. If you think your relationship has a chance to succeed, be sure the two of you get into counseling..... The problem still exists, whatever it is or was, and until it is resolved, you will be back in square one, sweetie.
2007-08-11 10:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
according to threat he regrets the wreck up and desires to speak it out with you, it may additionally be that he needs closure considering you 2 parted in this variety of undesirable observe, as for him getting a gf so rapidly he in all threat did it to objective and flow on quicker from to objective and ignore you, calling and textin capacity that he in all threat won't be able to get you off his techniques, i think of you ought to attempt chatting with him and get slightly closure your self, merely call him and in case you do unlike what he's asserting and doing tell him so tell him the kind you experience, and you are able to continuously merely draw % up, so provide it a attempt it would desire to help rid a number of the heartache.
2016-10-15 00:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by bachmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps calling because he knows you're a fool and are still in love with him and are gullible enough to take him back. YOU are the one putting yourself in the position you're in...he is just guilty of taking advantage of it.
2007-08-11 12:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
now that sounds about like he is just trying to run your life and trying to make you miserable i just think you should avoid him all together and leave hime go completely
2007-08-11 09:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by harold gardner1946 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over him and move on.
2007-08-11 09:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take him back. you aint no spring chicken
2007-08-11 09:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
change your number.
2007-08-11 09:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋