i have a very serious Q. my "best friend" did something to me that isnt really normal at all. what should i do

Question

ok, this is what happened. she invited me over to her house on one of the last days she'd be in town. just to hang out and stuff. but she invited over her 18 year old "boyfriend" over that night (we were 12 when this happened) to have some fun. i wasnt comfortable with this at all and i begged her to call him to not come. she said i was a being a baby and that he was nice. so i gave in. he came through the basement window, while she was in the shower. turned out he wasnt nice at all. i was pretty scared of him so i hid under a desk while they were lying on the mattres together. i peeked out to see what they were doing and it scared the crap out of me when i saw it. he was...well, doing things he could go to jail for. he saw me looking and got up and took a knife out of his pocket and held it near my face, giving me a weird look. i was so terrified. now that its been a few years later, iv still never told any authoirty like her dad or my parents. i kno i should but i cant! what do i do

no, he never hurt me with the knife, it was a threat, im guessing, to keep me quiet. ever since then i havent spoken to her or anybody about what happened that night. he never hurt me but im scared he will if i tell someone. my frriends also keep telling me that i shouldnt be covering for a girl who has been this cruel to me, but iv known her for so long that ratting her out would just feel wrong. i just wish there was an easier way to tell someone

Answer 1

Well, this sounds terrible, but it was something that you should have done in the past. If she is still with him, I hope not. Then just look out for her, If something like this happens again don't wait to say anything, to someone you trust. If she is not with him, Then I think you shouldn't say anything, just don't forget to be honest with your best friend, even if she gets mad. Friends are the ones that makes us a better person. Don't let her down. And don't be afraid, him and any other guy won't do anything to you if help out a friend.

Answer 2

Yes, you certainly owe your freind her safety, if this guy is as wild enough to be pointing knives..yes you should have at that time...but...if your freind was willing..and... if nothing did ''happened'' to you..then...I..am not sure about the whole point...

You say you were 12 ''when this happened'', so how old are you now ?? How can something that happened ''when'' you were 12 years old, really haunt you ?? You did not say what happened after he pointed the knife ?? Did he hurt you or your freind or ...simply disappear ??? You should give in more details if you need help.

Okay, I will tell you as of now from what I understand, you were 12 this happened, and then, you found your freind having intimate relationship with her wild fearful looking boyfreind, and he saw you and pointed a knife at you....thats all, luv. You have not said anything more as in, did he hurt you ?? , or your freind ??, or your freind hurt you ?? nothing??. From what you say, as of now, It is a horrible scene, and then ''blank'' it goes. Yes, you are right, you could have really put him in jail..yes...and then your freind, and you were both babies...c'mon at 12...u were not even in the teens...anywayz....iam not blaming you, cos' with your freind having an ''eighTEEN'' year old boyfreind, its not your fault....its is still or never was ur fault. You have never done anything wrong, but victim of something you should not have seen at that time..or dragged into innocently.....

I am sorry...you should have told your parents....or...confided in your siblings..or..said to someone who will know you have been hurt...but..I am still so curious and doubtful that that iincident really ended there. Anyway, since you are a few years older, matured adult...keep away, if this girl is still ur freind.., that should not be a cause for you to not get along wtih your life, as of now. Its over..and done with...if you are safe, and unharmed...go out their and lead your normal life. But..if something really did happen....you really need to talk...which I hope did not happen...

take care, luv, and good luck

Answer 3

Is she still with the guy? You probably should have done something about it then. Since a few years have past, I would probably just tell her how used you felt, and how uncomfortable the guy made you feel. Now if it's bothering you that much, you should definitely talk to your parents about it. Your parents will be a little upset, but they would feel better knowing that you were able to talk to them about something so personal. It helps your parents to trust and know what kind of young lady you are. Being able to tell your parents anything is always good.

Answer 4

Oh my goodness! Tell someone immediately!!!! I don't care if your friend gets mad and I don't care how hard it is. Would you rather have your best friend hurt or safe? That's the question you need to answer. I suggest going to someone you trust like your parents so they can talk to her parents right away. Plus, you could be in danger too, I mean, you did say he saw you. I think you should tell someone now!!!

Answer 5

Is This A True Story?

tell someone.parent.guardian.whatever

Answer 6

if its harming anyones life then by all means you should say something ? does she have a problem with whatever he was doing ? if she doesn't then i would leave that part out. as for him holding a knife to your face you should report that if you felt that you were being threatened

Answer 7

Wow you need to tell some one maybe your mom then she can tell her parents! Thats so bad your friend needs some help!

Answer 8

Tell your parents and have them call the police.

Answer 9

Tell your parents,, and have them tell her parents, then go the police....... he threatened you by holding the knife to your face............ and by the way he SHOULD be in jail for statutory rape........ he is of age, she isnt.......... go tell right now
!!!!!! Does she still see him??? and are you still underage??? if so..... tell tell tell

Answer 10

you should have keft if you were uncontfertable with him being there.you should tell her parents, just letthem know you are worried about there kid (your friend).do the right thing