a paranoia or just hypersensitive? what's wrong w me?

Question

why do i often feel being disliked or being talked bad about?

see, i'm brought up being constantly told i'm wrong in many ways. i'm just a modernist living in a modern world, when my family stays with their traditional belief.

in elementary sch, i was outcasted only because i was minding my own business living my childhood when my peers are striving to be some big kids.

in high sch, i paled under comparison, being the least attractive of the four sch belles.

in college, i hung out one of the cutest guy in my batch invited rumors. i was told, some even had a private session to b*tch about how i'm such a temptress to my buddy when there's nothing beyond frdship btwn us.

at work, some co-workers that turned frdz throw cutting remarks at me juz cos they think me taking away their attention. or some female bosses whom are more subjective often hv prejudices against me.

apart frm all that, i'm often affected by passing comments or immediate reactions. y?

Answer 1

Being abused by other children as a child will damage your self-esteem. That damage leads to a development of paranoia and over-sensitivity. Basically, it's what you know from your previous life experiences, and because it happened to you so many times, you come to expect it from just about everyone. You simply need to teach yourself to think differently.

Answer 2

Don't feel alone! I have felt this same way most of my life. These types of situations are very common in very charismatic people that might have been awkward of uncomfortable in their earlier years. Concentrate on building your self-esteem and pride. As silly as it sounds, talking to yourself in a mirror for a little while everyday and telling yourself (whether you believe it or not) that you are smart and beautiful will do wonders for yourself. This sounds very silly, but it trains a very simple psychological principal. Every word that you say, your subconscious mind hears. Your subconscious mind is what governs your conscious mind. If you constantly put positive and uplifting words into the subconscious mind, your conscious mind will be trained to believe that you are wonderful and fabulous in most anyway. This will make this social anxiety melt away and leave you feeling more confident and More likely to interpret others views of you to be the same. You are a great person no matter how you feel and you deserve to feel that way everyday! Good Luck xoxox

Answer 3

Don't put yourself down. Sounds like your doing well. People often behave selfishly, and cruelly. Add a new dimension to your life. Try prayer. Yes you are over reacting to much of this. Prayer can get you thorough a lot of tough times. Then go on with your life. Continue to be out going, friendly, and never submit to the negative attitudes demonstrated by others. Look for the good in others and compliment them on it. Do this with your friends and enemies. A spoonful of sugar attracts more bees than a barrel of vinegar. Best wishes to you.

Answer 4

The only thing that is wrong with you are your thoughts. If you focus on the negative, you tend to attract more negativity towards yourself. Try focusing on positive things. If you can't think of any positive thoughts, then step outside of yourself. Do something nice for someone else and you will begin to feel better about yourself (in spite of what others say or think). Be the change that you wish to see in the world. It starts with you.