When you can see more than most people do, and frequently end up disappointed by what you see,... :) ?

Question

would you rather be a lil blind :)

or is it always better to know all the truth that there is to know?

Thank you for your answer! :)

Have a wonderful weekend! :)

((((Cat Eyes)))) - The same here. Hope you feel better soon!! :)

Answer 1

No. I believe that I need to see to learn, to learn to accept that people are frail, people are vulnerable, complex, difficult, parts are unpleasant, parts are vile.

We attribute those close to us with 'finer' characteristics than they really have, because of our connection to them. This is the illusion. Best recognized for what it is. Nobody is perfect, nobody will 'match' our view/personality/expectation as holistically as we believe when we are blinded and attributing them with 'finer characteristics' than they truly have.

It is an arrogance, an illusion, that the other person is perfect. We are cherishing our own assumed perfect judgement.

If you do not wish to 'see' people in their wholeness faults and all, try not to look Moon. I believe we are better to know but many others prefer not to. It is up to you to decide which perspective you take. The perfect solution would be to feel as emotionally connected to everybody so that we do not believe in the illusion of perfection of our closest friends. I have yet to learn how to do this.

Look and you will see. Don't look if you will be disappointed.

Have a wonderful weekend too Moon.

Answer 2

Right. Luckily or unluckily, some people have more sensitive eyes than others. They can go through depths of anything,..just anything; frustrating or not. IF I can see more, I'll consider it a blessing, for there's so many who wish to see more but just can't. Maybe what dissapoints one in seeing much is the fact that he disagrees with it but is helpless to do something about it. If I can see more, then maybe I can see more of the concealed sides of a thing and have a more possitive attitude towards it...like finding the slightest hope in a depressive situation?
Turning a blind eye doesn't make things better. The third eye which is the conscience will always see the truth that the normal pair of eyes ignore to see. And it will haunt me even to my nightmares. Why would I want apathy to cage me in when it is the truth that will set me free?

Answer 3

My heart, brain and courage weren't given to me by some strange little man hiding behind a curtain. Nor can they be taken away by anyone, either. I've also been overdosed with keen observation skills and fairly accurate intuition.

These gifts serve me all too well at times, and I have often felt conflicted when faced with the overwhelming urge to call someone on their bullcrap. It is during those times when I have to check my personal motives in relation to the external situation. How much, if any of it, is really any of my business? Will any intervention on my part either help or harm anyone? Does this, or similar situations occur on a regular basis? Would I be better off just walking away?

The moral/ethical dilemmas of others make me want to be a hermit at times, but it's all a part of the human condition. The only way I could spare myself the full scope and intensity of my perceptions would be to cave into returning to active addiction. I don't do it though, one day at a time. I'd rather know the truth, stark-raving sober, than to obscure everything from within a self-induced oblivion.

Answer 4

I know exactly what you mean as there are times where I see certain things clearly about certain people and I wish I didn't see them. But at the same time it's better to know the truth so that I can be better equipped to deal with it when it's time to deal with whatever issues may arise rather then turning a blind eye and then being hit with a heavy hand later on. Great question.

Answer 5

HI ((moon))--great question. I once knew a woman who had the "sensitivity" I believe you're speaking of, & it drained her so much, (I'm sure she was an ectomorph), she disciplined herself so successfully, to reject, that she turned into a cold & dispassionate person. I've learned that when we "turn off" an essential part of ourselves, our total self "re-arranges" & not often to our best interest. I'd call my sister an "Empath" (did you ever see an old re-run of Star Trek?) because she feels everyone's pain. She can feel it the instant they walk into the room, & even across great distances. For me--I "see" a lot, but in personal relationships, if I saw something that wasn't pleasant, I wouldn't be disappointed, I'd just stay away from that person. I think it's always better to know the truth--as much as it's possible to know, since we can never see the deepest truths. I'd never want to blind. I've avoided many potential disasters by keeping my eyes (metaphorically) wide open. I know that very sensitive people "absorb" sadness & pain. I also think they're rare. (Are you an ectomorph? I think that you are.) ...Just one more thing, it has benefits!

Answer 6

what you don't see now you will suspect later.

i too have been sometimes happy in my not-knowing, it's an effective way to defend myself from many of this world's ills. but i now have someone who helps me cope, and i don't feel i need to 'not know' quite so much anymore. it's time for the blinders to come off.

now the world is a starker place. you can see not only people and actions, but also reasons and motives. the truth is out there... but it makes you more suspicious, less trusting. the rose colored glasses have been smashed into the sidewalk. NOW what do you see?

it 's nice to remember those carefree days of childhood, where i didn't know a thing about global warming, starvation, hate, and greed. my parents did a good job of insulating me, but eventually, you read the papers. you see the evidence. you hear the voices and they are not at all kind. the world is not such a nice place all the time.

being blind in that environment can help you, so long as there's nothing serious coming your way...

Answer 7

I would rather know the whole truth and deal with it. If I stay a little blind, that blindness may be what causes a problem on something I could have seen coming if I had known the truth.
I may be disappointed with what I know, but I have been disappointed before and I will be again.

Answer 8

Some of us envy those who seemingly go through life not noticing the way others act. Picking up on certain traits and innuendo can be disappointing but never would I want to be more blind to things around me because I might also miss the little wonders of life, things most miss. Love sunrise and sunset, love the sound of the morning cardinal, love the smell of fresh mown alfalfa, love the sight of small bunnies in the tall grass chasing each other.

Answer 9

I've been in similar situations where the blind are leading the blind; nobody listens to the wisdom of my experience and they get hurt over and over again. I'd rather now the whole truth. I'm not a follower; I have a mind of my own and I won't follow the crowd when I know it's wrong.

Answer 10

When I was back in college, I was a philosophy major. One of the statements we debated at length was "Better Socrates unsatisfied than a fool satisfied." I am still mulling that one over some 30+ years later. If I was a fool, and satisfied to be so, I think the very nature of that scenario means I would not know that I was a fool, that I was being compared to others far more intelligent than myself. Or as you put it, far more perceptive.

But I don't think selective blindness always works. I spent a lot of years being blind as possible to My Steve's faults, and making excuses for him. Then he committed suicide, and I began to wonder what I might have done to save him. Should I have been more of a nag, more demanding that he go out and conquer the world, or more accurately conquer his limitations? Would it have made a difference, or merely made him hate me? Would he, as his mother suggested, have committed suicide sooner if I had been more of a [b]itch?

If you choose the path of selective blindness, you must maintain it consistently.