i live alone.
my mother said i should stay at her house the first few days after birth. I REALLY DONT WANT TO.
My family said i will be immobile after i give birth and i need help (even though she will be at work 9 hrs of the day anyway even if i do stay at her house?)
if i stay at home my fiancee will be home by 6pm and my mother will come after work. Provided i have a uncomplicated, natural birth i will be ok in my own home right?
2007-08-11 07:58:17 · 20 answers · asked by Not here 2 make friends 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yeah, you will. The help that you will need will most likely happen while she is at work anyway. What she should do, if possible, is take a few days off after the birth to help you.
You will be exhausted, but you will be fine. I totally needed my mother after my first, because I had no idea what to expect, but after my second, I still had help, but just needed it less and less.
2007-08-11 08:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by Katie C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women give birth, take their babies home and are alone all the time. Giving birth does not impair you at all. If you have a c-section, it should hurt to get up and sit down for a few days but you will still be able to care for your baby.
Your family is maybe being a bit over concerned, and if you have someone coming home at the end of the day to help you, you should be fine.
2007-08-11 08:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kaci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who have had an epidermal have to be immobile for about 8 hrs. Since you are going natural and with your frame of mind, you'll do just fine on your own.
But, your Mother wants to be a part of this for herself as much as for you so ask for her advise (even if you don't use it) or ask her to watch the baby while you take a shower or a quick nap. Anything that will assure her that she's not being put away on a shelf.
2007-08-11 08:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sandie B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have given birth 3 times & could take care of my own babies.Babies sleep 18-20 hrs a day which means all your gonna have 2 do is feed & change diapers.Don't let anyone scare u.My sons g/f was scared to death after her sister filled her a bunch of bull about how giving birth hurts like heck,which it would ,but that's why there's a thing called an epideral.Thank goodness my sister had a baby a few days ago & she was able to go see my sister have hers & now she's not scared.If people would like to come help u that would be nice of them,but don't be worried,it will be fine....Good luck!
2007-08-11 08:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my second child was born, I had him on a Friday, was home on Sunday and walked my older child to school on Monday(30 minute walk each way twice a day). So I was far from immobile. I actually felt better faster being out and about doing things. My now ex-husband worked from 5 a.m.- 6 p.m. so I was alone all day and didn't have any problems. So each persons body is different but I think you'll be fine.
2007-08-11 08:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lostlove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had my first baby I was pretty much couch ridden. I could hardly stand up , I couldnt sit down for almost 2 weeks because I had an epistiotomy ( sp ) and I was soo swollen and sore. Now my second was totally different, I was feeling fine by the next day and I was up and around, even tho I shouldnt have been. If it werent for my mom with my first baby I wouldnt have been able to care for her properly during that fist week. I think it's a good Idea if you at least take the help other people offer to you.
2007-08-11 08:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by adrianne M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually I had a c-section and the next day the Dr had me walking around. Honestly, it's really up to your body, you are the only one that is going to be able to tell if you can move around. I was taking care of my son as soon as I got home. But you do still need someone there. Just some advice when the baby sleeps you sleep too. I didn't do that and I got really bad post partum depression.
2007-08-11 08:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by LIZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you might be ok...but I tell you you will be sore and you want to take a few sitzbaths while somebody else is taking care of the baby.
Also, you will probably breastfeed and that alone can be quite a chore until you and the baby understand and it all works well.
I think it would be great to have somebody help out at least for the first couple of days after birth.
You might be so overwhelmed with the new baby...give yourself that luxury that somebody will be in the house who will do the cooking, cleaning etc..while you concentrate on getting to know your precious newborn.
2007-08-11 08:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should be fine. Really, the nights are the hardest. If you are nursing, just make sure you have lots of ice water handy, a comfy spot and the clicker. I had a c-section so I was in the hospital for 3 days. But when I came home, my EX was never around. I was all stitched up, barely able to stand up straight, and in lots of pain and I was still able to care for my baby. Remember, we women are very very strong and can do whatever we put our minds to! Good luck...you will be fine.
2007-08-11 08:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by peajaetee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you will most likely be sore, but I see no reason why you should be immobile! Even if you have to have a c section, you should be able to move around. You will probably be really tired, so maybe if you feel its necessary, maybe you could keep the baby in the same room as you that way you don't have to be running back and forth to get him/her when the baby cries.
2007-08-11 08:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋