This question grew from an earlier answer, where the person who offered the best answer described the first clue her marriage was doomed. Trust me, it is worth reading: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aj.HWKBBgT_ckmQc3mmJJqvty6IX?qid=20070810192115AAFX9HT
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2007-08-11 07:48:46 · 16 answers · asked by jbrandtc 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My first husband's response was "Yeah" to the marriage vows....Not "I Do", or "Yes" but just "Yeah".
Gosh, I wish I had walked out right then and there in the middle of the ceremony.......
It was the sign of all the bad things to come in all the different areas......
2007-08-11 08:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell, me do you have toddlers? Many couples discover out they at the instant are not comparable to they have been whilst they first married especially whilst each and all of the toddlers have grown up & moved out. How did your spouse benefit weight? by having toddlers or basically being an emotional eater? you would be able to desire to the two the two try couples counseling or take a seat & talk, in case you could't do the two, then you definitely could be greater suited off magnificent out by your self. Divide your sources up the two & circulate on. I wager she isn't satisfied the two. I particularly have a pal who left her husband after 25 yrs & has now been residing with yet another guy for over 6 yrs. She got here across after the toddlers left homestead that she had not something whatsoever in straight forward with the guy she married all those yrs in the past. they are divorced & have the two moved on & are happy with their new companions. they are nevertheless acquaintances as they have person toddlers etc. so which you at the instant are not on my own, the only element you probably did replaced into have a fling. Re-examine your essay you assert you regarded for this woman in one area then say you probably did not in yet another. end residing a depressing life - considering the fact that's what you're doing ATM - present day. what's the ingredient of staying in an unhappy loveless marriage. Do the mature element the two get it regarded after or circulate on. reliable success
2016-12-15 12:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by eisenhauer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I had alot of problems from the beginning. One problem was that neither of us knew how to communicate. I was not allowed to tell the ex what to do. He had let me know that he could do anything that he wanted. He pretty much did. He came home only when there was no where else to go. I had three small children that I pretty much raised on my own. I was finally able to get divorced after my children were grown and gone. Thank God he is now out of my life. I know that this is not a lighthearted response but I never had anything to be happy about.
2007-08-11 08:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my first marriage was a horror story to say the least, but the FIRST clue was when i got pregnate with our son 11 months after our wedding, and i came home from the doctor, called him and told him i needed to talk to him, and he said he would be home soon, he came home, and we sat down on the sofa, i showed him the little test thingy i got from the doctor, and he was happy, then later that night, as i was getting ready for bed, he came in the room and started moving his stuff out, i asked him what he was doing, and he replyed 'well i married a beautiful woman, and now you are just going to get fat, and i need to start learning how to live with you when you get huge" i only gained 32 pounds, while i was pregnate, and i lost all of the weight before my son was 4 months old, he moved back in the bedroom then, why i stayed i have no idea..but we managed to have a 2nd child 3 years later, and he did the same thing, but this time, i gained 41 pounds, but all of the weights was again gone by the time the baby was 4 months old, well..i lost 225 lbs in one day, he went to work, i kept his truck me and a couple of my friends loaded all of his stuff in his truck and i drove it to his job, and told him there was no need for him to come back to my house, i already packed him up...and got in my car and drove away...i am now married to the most awesome man, and he is an absolute gorgeous person, inside and out, he dont care if i gain a pound, or 100 lbs!!
2007-08-11 08:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by oh really 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first clue that my marriage was doomed came in year two, I could have sworn I heard a voice saying...."Get out.."
But seriously, it was coming from my alleged sweet, angel faced Mr. Hyde who was sound asleep, at that point, I knew I needed a young priest and an old priest.
2007-08-11 08:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when he dissapeared for weekends and such on end... even going as far as a different state without letting me know...hense i stayed up late worrying (spellin?) about him... and him telling me to "stop nagging" him when I'd ask him if he would be home... so we could "work" out the issues that he said we had... little did i know he had a chiky-poo on the side...so in essence: What would he want to work out? I was a ready sub in case things went south with that chick... "hey, there is still the wife"... :) now, i think it's been a year and i'm happily scooting on *BIG smile* they are engaged (i wish them luck...she's prior married and he's been married about 4 times...sooooo, luck isn't far fetched... and i get to finally do things I like to do, instead of whatever he wants to do, because my "fun" things aren't fun. Like reading, and drawing again :) ... I've discovered that i LIKE being single... and i wish him the best... *well, more so her, because she is a couple years younger than me...and i was younger than his previous wife...etc...if you get the drift :)* So, i think he has an issue with getting old(er) and wanting his significant others to be dependant on him (young)...so yeah...those are little key tips that i've learned...lol...
2007-08-11 08:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by bobbi_kaylin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My marriage was doomed the very first time I lied to myself by telling myself that what she was doing didn't really matter all that much to me. Of course, the problem is, that first lie to myself occurred before we got married.
2007-08-11 07:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by John B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Embarrased to say !!! When I realized that wife number one and number two had divorced him on grounds of mental cruelty and their marriages had ended when the child (of EACH marriage) was three... hmmm? is there a pattern of behavior? Nah, it'll be different with me.. NOT - I was wife number 3... divorced on grounds of mental cruelty and abuse, finalized when my daughter was 3. Yep, that's right, I'm a fool.. LOL.. go ahead, laugh with me, or at me?
2007-08-11 07:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't know where he was and really didn't care if he ever came back. I called a moving service the next day.
2007-08-11 07:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I looked at the hundreds of pictures of our wedding and only found one in which my ex-mother-in-law was smilling.
2007-08-11 09:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋