Im am madly in love with this guy and have been for many many yrs.But now is not the right time to be together.School and distance keeps that from happening right now.My question is this.The whole me and him thing stresses me out.I wonder if im wasting my time,he still talks to his ex's and not just ex girlfriends but ex lovers..and plays games with them to make them think hes going to be with them..he claims he likes to make them out to be a fool but hes 29,shouldnt the games be over!I told him he sounds like and asshole,who wants attention.lol.He claims he wants to be with me and no one else,but he does not know the future and wants to try and make it work when he gets out of school but he don't know where hes going to be..he maybe out of state for 3yrs but if hes around me he would like to make it work.Am i dumb?Do I not see whats infront of me?My point is this.this..........
2007-08-11 07:34:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am trying to go to school and do alot of other stuff..but its hard to stay focused when hes on my mind and all those issues and the past keeps coming up..I was thinking of just telling him i'll get in contact with him and just not talk to him for months or even a yr. is that dumb?What would you do?
2007-08-11 07:35:10 · update #1
Oh, I am so sorry that you are going through this...Honestly, you are not dumb...you are hopeful...but I would not be messing with someone who doesn't know what he wants....and i believe that is the truth. I think he likes the attention from the other girls, and even though he may truly have feelings for you, he sounds a bit cocky and immature. You seem like a very mature, and coniencious girl, and need to focus on school. Have faith that if it is meant to be it will happen. Put your efforts towards you and quit trying to figure him out, because if it is truly meant to happen, it shouldn't need to be figured out and it will just happen, and personally, he should have enough respect for you and relationships to not talk and mess with his ex's. He should put his efforts towards something more mature and realistic, like his education or work. Not play games....I think you already know the answer and truth and are looking for reassurance. Trust your instincts, you are on the right track....And good luck with school!!
2007-08-11 07:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't want to hear this, but you are not in love with this guy, you have an unnatural obsession with him. Love is an enduring commitment of two people for each other. If there was love here you would be married and living together in the same place, and nothing would keep you apart. What is going on now, however, is that you aren't moving on with your life, because you are obsessed with what might be, what could be, what should be ... but it's not ... open the doors to today and tomorrow, and date others and move along in your life.
2007-08-11 14:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your time and energy into school and your life. You have plenty of time to have the worries that can come with romance. Personally he sounds like a jerk and you deserve better then that. Keep your head focused on what is important at this time, your education
2007-08-11 15:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Steven E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but you cannot live your life around this dude concentrate on your school work and improving yourself instead of worrying about him i know it's hard but just try not to expect so much from him, for now trust me if he wants you he should do the work if he feels he's got you in a corner the games would continue. I commend you on bettering your self. cheers
2007-08-11 14:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A leopard does not change it's spots.
He is a leopard his spots are the style in which he treats women. Get a clue the guys a jerk.
2007-08-11 14:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break free from this distraction. Iam sorry but you deserve a stable minded guy, not a mind player !
2007-08-11 15:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on babes, He is not ready to be serious and you need to find someone closer. Good luck
2007-08-11 14:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋